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    Wise people of TSR, I would like your advice!

    So, this sort of relates to something I'm dealing with at the moment. I will modify the details slightly to make it easier to describe the basics of what's going on. Let me know what you would do if you were in my position. Thanks!

    Let's say you have a small group of friends. Like four friends. They are all lovely people. You can laugh with them, share somewhat intimate/personal stories with them, feel comfortable, etc. Relatively good friends and likely to do well if you carried on.

    But.

    Then, you discover that these four people have something really awful in common. It could be anything. Let's say, for the sake for argument, they all turn out to be massive racists.

    In essence, what you have is four people that are absolutely lovely in all respects... except for the fact that they're racists. They make horrible comments and sort of drag you into agreeing with their vile opinions. You don't want to tell them that they're awful for thinking in this way, because you think you value your friendship.

    I disagree with racism, as I'm sure many people do.

    The main question is therefore this: given this kind of situation, do you keep your friends and sacrifice your principles of being a good person?

    Or do you decide that these people are a bad influence purely on the basis of their racism and decide that, in light of this new information, it's better to find some friends that don't have such extremist views?

    Let's also assume that you don't have the power to convince these people to change their views and may not even think it's worth the time, since they would be deaf to anything you try to say.

    Sorry for the long post, but if you had to make the choice between keeping your friends or leaving them, what would you do?
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    Probably keep the friends, can't be bothered to make new ones
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    (Original post by Maria G Agnesi)
    Wise people of TSR, I would like your advice!

    So, this sort of relates to something I'm dealing with at the moment. I will modify the details slightly to make it easier to describe the basics of what's going on. Let me know what you would do if you were in my position. Thanks!

    Let's say you have a small group of friends. Like four friends. They are all lovely people. You can laugh with them, share somewhat intimate/personal stories with them, feel comfortable, etc. Relatively good friends and likely to do well if you carried on.

    But.

    Then, you discover that these four people have something really awful in common. It could be anything. Let's say, for the sake for argument, they all turn out to be massive racists.

    In essence, what you have is four people that are absolutely lovely in all respects... except for the fact that they're racists. They make horrible comments and sort of drag you into agreeing with their vile opinions. You don't want to tell them that they're awful for thinking in this way, because you think you value your friendship.

    I disagree with racism, as I'm sure many people do.

    The main question is therefore this: given this kind of situation, do you keep your friends and sacrifice your principles of being a good person?

    Or do you decide that these people are a bad influence purely on the basis of their racism and decide that, in light of this new information, it's better to find some friends that don't have such extremist views?

    Let's also assume that you don't have the power to convince these people to change their views and may not even think it's worth the time, since they would be deaf to anything you try to say.

    Sorry for the long post, but if you had to make the choice between keeping your friends or leaving them, what would you do?
    I would personally stop being friends with them you want to have positive mindsets around you, racism is a no no for me.
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    (Original post by Maria G Agnesi)
    Wise people of TSR, I would like your advice!

    So, this sort of relates to something I'm dealing with at the moment. I will modify the details slightly to make it easier to describe the basics of what's going on. Let me know what you would do if you were in my position. Thanks!

    Let's say you have a small group of friends. Like four friends. They are all lovely people. You can laugh with them, share somewhat intimate/personal stories with them, feel comfortable, etc. Relatively good friends and likely to do well if you carried on.

    But.

    Then, you discover that these four people have something really awful in common. It could be anything. Let's say, for the sake for argument, they all turn out to be massive racists.

    In essence, what you have is four people that are absolutely lovely in all respects... except for the fact that they're racists. They make horrible comments and sort of drag you into agreeing with their vile opinions. You don't want to tell them that they're awful for thinking in this way, because you think you value your friendship.

    I disagree with racism, as I'm sure many people do.

    The main question is therefore this: given this kind of situation, do you keep your friends and sacrifice your principles of being a good person?

    Or do you decide that these people are a bad influence purely on the basis of their racism and decide that, in light of this new information, it's better to find some friends that don't have such extremist views?

    Let's also assume that you don't have the power to convince these people to change their views and may not even think it's worth the time, since they would be deaf to anything you try to say.

    Sorry for the long post, but if you had to make the choice between keeping your friends or leaving them, what would you do?
    If the influence it has on you affects you personally in a way that may make you less conscious then avoid them. But if it doesn't, lets say for instance they keep their activity e.g racism between them and isn't a quotidian topic then I see why it should matter.


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