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Jealousy situation with ex
My ex boyfriend split up with me about 3 months ago. When we were going out, we always had these silly jealousy situations - an example would be if I ever recieved a text when i was with him, he'd ask me who it was and try to discretley look at my mobile screen to see, and there would always be an ounce of silly jealousy there. I'd be the same back to him.
Now since we've split up, both of us are still going through these jealousy patches. Three examples would be:
1) I was with my ex shopping and i recieved a text. I knew he was wanting to know who it was, and instead of asking me, he went through a list of people's names waiting for me to say 'yes' to the correct person.
2) In a lesson in school, my ex was talking to another girl in our class. About 10 minutes later after they had finished talking, she came over and spoke to me. My ex came an sat down beside us but didn't join in in the convo. A little while after the lesson, my ex apologised to me and said that he had got jealous of me and this girl talking
3) (This one annoyed me the most) A girl in our class text me asking for my ex's number (with no reason), and i gave it to her. When i next saw my ex, he said he'd had a text from her and i said it was me who had given her the number. He went on to say that the reason she had text him was due to it being her party and was wondering if he was going. My ex then thought that i didn't know about the party, and he seemed pretty pleased that he thought he had been told about it and that i hadn't (when infact i had)
Now, i know this is looking bad from his perspective, but i'm exactly the same back to him. So what do u think this jealousy means? I know its childish and we need to grow up etc etc, but seriously, what do you think? He shows his jealousy more then i do
Now since we've split up, both of us are still going through these jealousy patches. Three examples would be:
1) I was with my ex shopping and i recieved a text. I knew he was wanting to know who it was, and instead of asking me, he went through a list of people's names waiting for me to say 'yes' to the correct person.
2) In a lesson in school, my ex was talking to another girl in our class. About 10 minutes later after they had finished talking, she came over and spoke to me. My ex came an sat down beside us but didn't join in in the convo. A little while after the lesson, my ex apologised to me and said that he had got jealous of me and this girl talking
3) (This one annoyed me the most) A girl in our class text me asking for my ex's number (with no reason), and i gave it to her. When i next saw my ex, he said he'd had a text from her and i said it was me who had given her the number. He went on to say that the reason she had text him was due to it being her party and was wondering if he was going. My ex then thought that i didn't know about the party, and he seemed pretty pleased that he thought he had been told about it and that i hadn't (when infact i had)
Now, i know this is looking bad from his perspective, but i'm exactly the same back to him. So what do u think this jealousy means? I know its childish and we need to grow up etc etc, but seriously, what do you think? He shows his jealousy more then i do
instead of playing stupid games why don't you just take him to one side and have it out with him, if he backs down, forget about him.
If its too big of a problem in your new relationship with him (after discussing it and trying to sort it out) I think you two should do your separate ways.
Am I right to assume that you two weren't friends before dating? As it seems that you are both keeping to the way you were in your dating relationship, even though that has now changed into a friendship.
Am I right to assume that you two weren't friends before dating? As it seems that you are both keeping to the way you were in your dating relationship, even though that has now changed into a friendship.
smellielli
If its too big of a problem in your new relationship with him (after discussing it and trying to sort it out) I think you two should do your separate ways.
Am I right to assume that you two weren't friends before dating? As it seems that you are both keeping to the way you were in your dating relationship, even though that has now changed into a friendship.
Am I right to assume that you two weren't friends before dating? As it seems that you are both keeping to the way you were in your dating relationship, even though that has now changed into a friendship.
Yes, we were friends before our relationship, for about a year, and we were very close
britishseapower
instead of playing stupid games why don't you just take him to one side and have it out with him, if he backs down, forget about him.
Exactly, stop these ridculious games and talk to each other.
JaneNorman
Talk about what though? I mean we have spoken loads about the break-up, i know the reason why he wanted to break-up with me etc etc....
Well why is he getting jealous of what you are doing, if he wanted to break up with you then, he shouldn't be like that. Also why you being so jealous of him, sounds as if he's treated you like crap.
It's my life
Well why is he getting jealous of what you are doing, if he wanted to break up with you then, he shouldn't be like that. Also why you being so jealous of him, sounds as if he's treated you like crap.
I'm not sure why he is getting jealous over stuff i do...maybe its just taking him a long time to get over it or something! His reasons for dumping me were due to the fact of work he has to do for his a-levels, and he couldn't give me the time I wanted.
I wouldn't of said he treated me like crap when we were together - he lied to me a few times, but thats about it (and they were very small lies).
Well seems a silly excuse to dump someone.
For starters don't go back to him, find someone who appreciates you a bit more.
It's my life
For starters don't go back to him, find someone who appreciates you a bit more.
Yes, i've been discussing this with some of my friends and i don't think i'd want to go out with him again, not after everything.
What do you think this whole business about him being jealous of me talking to my mate and stuff? what do you think it means? If i had been speaking to a guy, then i might understand a slight bit of jealousy, but me talking to another girl??
What it means is, he's clingy and has issues. He does not own your life.
Oh my god, he really does have serious issues. You are much better off without him. See told you it he used a pathetic reason to break up.
JaneNorman
Yes he does! I'm so glad i'm rid of him now!!
Good on you girl, you just enjoy yourself, it is his loss.
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