Sudden loss of sex drive!!! Can't even get hard to masturbate! Watch

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Ok so I'm usually horny all the time. I'm 26 now and have been horny since I was 13 or something. Used to watch lots of porn and have dirty fantasies etc... As of 2 weeks ago my sex drive/libido just disappeared. I am not horny at all! I can't get hard even when alone masturbating. Porn suddenly does nothing to help, nor does my imagination.
In these 2 weeks I haven't watched any porn at all, in fact I've basically not watched any since December as I believe it was giving me 'porn-induced erectile dysfunction', but that only applied when I was with a girl about to have sex. So I don't think it's related.

Few things: 3 weeks ago I moved to a new city. I'm pretty lonely. I don't get out much in the day. I'm still not fully over my ex after 1 1/2 years. I can't find a job which also sucks.
Someone help me? I'm scared my libido has gone. It kept me happy!
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I would be looking at your mental health as a reason for this - those things in the second paragraph may well be linked.

You can see if you're getting erections while asleep by having something around your penis that would break if you did: a number of perforated stamps used to be the classic example. If they split, you know that the problem isn't a physical one.
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pretty sure i dont get random boners in my sleep anymore. and if i did, i'd remember having a sex dream or something.
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All of the changes in your life and your dip in mood could account for this. Hopefully as you settle into your new environment your mood will lift and rhe problem will resolve itself.

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My mood has dipped before though, I've always been horny still... It's worrying me now. I've bought some magnesium + zinc pills which can help with libido I've been told.
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My mood has dipped before though, I've always been horny still... It's worrying me now. I've bought some magnesium + zinc pills which can help with libido I've been told.
Maca is good for libido.

The other guys might be right - all the changes in your life may be affecting your ability to get hard.

I used to look at a lot of porn until the "hardness" of what i was looking at incresed because the previous stuff did nothing for me - then, worried, i cut out looking at porn, masturbating, or looking sponaneously at real-life hot women.

After about a month of this, i woke up one day HARD - which had NEVER happened in my whole life!
I'd literally gone from self-impossed monkdom to a horny god.
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If you think they'll work, they may well do.

Without trying the perforated paper / similar trick, you probably don't realise you're getting erections in the night. I certainly don't remember dreams.
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Thanks for the replies. The thing I need to clarify is, I'm struggling getting horny, which means no boner. Rather than actually feeling horny and no boner which would be a different matter entirely.

I remember 2 weeks ago chatting to this girl I'd met here about really extreme fetishes and porn. It was making me horny and hard. Next day is when i lost all libido etc. I wonder if I fried my brain? Now I've reset to monk-mode.
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Ok so I'm usually horny all the time. I'm 26 now and have been horny since I was 13 or something. Used to watch lots of porn and have dirty fantasies etc... As of 2 weeks ago my sex drive/libido just disappeared. I am not horny at all! I can't get hard even when alone masturbating. Porn suddenly does nothing to help, nor does my imagination.
In these 2 weeks I haven't watched any porn at all, in fact I've basically not watched any since December as I believe it was giving me 'porn-induced erectile dysfunction', but that only applied when I was with a girl about to have sex. So I don't think it's related.

Few things: 3 weeks ago I moved to a new city. I'm pretty lonely. I don't get out much in the day. I'm still not fully over my ex after 1 1/2 years. I can't find a job which also sucks.
Someone help me? I'm scared my libido has gone. It kept me happy!
my ex bf had the same problem. he kept forcing me to have sex with him but i was certain i was going to keep it for my husband. so my ex bf turned to masturbation and it affected his sex drive cos he cheated on me with some of my other friends. he actually could not get it up and so needless to say this spread like wildfire in college. but he soon recovered by quitting masturbation for one whole week and by the next week he was already onto another girl at college and by this time I had already dumped him.

so quit watching pornography and masturbation for a week at least and everything will be back to normal.
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The thing I need to clarify is, I'm struggling getting horny, which means no boner. Rather than actually feeling horny and no boner which would be a different matter entirely.
I'd be talking to my GP / someone else about my mental health.

Until your libido returns, don't bother trying to push it - any failures will just reinforce things.
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my ex bf had the same problem. he kept forcing me to have sex with him but i was certain i was going to keep it for my husband. so my ex bf turned to masturbation and it affected his sex drive cos he cheated on me with some of my other friends. he actually could not get it up and so needless to say this spread like wildfire in college. but he soon recovered by quitting masturbation for one whole week and by the next week he was already onto another girl at college and by this time I had already dumped him.

so quit watching pornography and masturbation for a week at least and everything will be back to normal.
Your ex clearly had lots of problems, but masturbating doesn't sound like one of them.
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I went two weeks without cumming, and no porn. I still can't get a full erection. I had to masturbate eventually to relieve my body. this isn't porn related I think. It's about my situation. I'm so lonely and unemployed. Curiously, I went to stay a weekend at my aunt's place, and in the familiar surroundings I felt generally better and even managed a 3/4 erection in the shower...
Maybe I need to go back to my parents house for a few days for that comfort factor. I'm stuck in a room by myself now overthinking things too much.
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Man I tried for 7 mins straight even changed the vid I am hard but I do not come , I think it's because when my girl friends not a round I just **** but it's not working now it's it because of my gf , because when I'm doing it she pops in to my head and I think that I think that what I am doing is wrong I don't know can some one help me
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