So, my first ever relationship ended a few months ago with my ex [I'm 18 and he's 21]... and it basically ended with him wanting to go further... and me not so... because I basically had a nervous fit and it didn't feel 'right'. I was into the kissing and cuddling and just wanting to fall asleep next to him thing... but the sex idea just felt weird, because he made it clear that he was really shocked that he was my first. Yet, there was clearly tension between us, but the age gap just became more apparent when in a 'sex' style setting- dim lights, sofa...
But after this relationship, I feel more body confident in myself since I've been hitting the gym more and I am thinking about sex more. I'm just afraid, but I'm afraid of nothing and also afraid of everything at the same time. I'm basically asking is this normal and what signs tell me that the time is right basically...
Interested in sex... but not sure Watch
- Thread Starter
- 15-02-2016 00:26
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- 15-02-2016 13:41
This is entirely normal. For many people having sex for the first time is very daunting as it can require placing a lot of trust in the person you have it with. There are no particular signs that mean it is the right time but if you feel comfortable with the person and the situation and feel like you want it to happen that would be enough for most people. Don't feel pressured into doing anything you're not ready for, there really are no time constraints here. Find somebody you enjoy being with and find attractive and the rest will usually take care of itself.