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    Hey!

    So I'm 17 years old, and I've been with my boyfriend (also 17) for almost 2 and a half years now.

    I've just recently been starting to get incredibly worried about the future; we always make jokes about living together and like what we'll do when we both go to university, but now I'm kinda scared.

    It's not that I don't love him - I do! We've just been together for such a long time at a relatively young age, and I'm suddenly scared at how serious we are. I always hear stories about people who get married at less than 2.5 years, and like I just can't imagine spending my entire life with this guy, even though I love him more than anything.

    Is it normal to feel this way? I've tried asking friends but they've only been in relationships for 4 months at most, so they don't really get it.
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    He's probably feeling the same way too (scared), like you said, you are both really young just enjoy your time together for now. You have years ahead of you to worry

    But why can't you see a future with him?
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    Its totally normal to feel this way! You are still very very young and the thought of being with a guy forever and all that can appear a little strange, like moving in a house together because it is something completely new! Give it time....as you two age and become more mature, these things will seem a lot more normal and I therefore think you could then see yourself with this guy forever
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    He's probably feeling the same way too (scared), like you said, you are both really young just enjoy your time together for now. You have years ahead of you to worry

    But why can't you see a future with him?
    Yeah our time together right now is absolutely brilliant!
    I suppose the only reason I can't see a future is because I'm a lot more ambitious than he is. I want to do so many things during university and later life, but he just wants to go with the flow and isn't really interested in doing everything.

    Thank you so much for your reply!
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    (Original post by futuremedic1997)
    Its totally normal to feel this way! You are still very very young and the thought of being with a guy forever and all that can appear a little strange, like moving in a house together because it is something completely new! Give it time....as you two age and become more mature, these things will seem a lot more normal and I therefore think you could then see yourself with this guy forever
    Thank god - I thought I was an absolutely horrible girlfriend for feeling like this.
    When I think about it, it would be so much fun living together because we are pretty much the exact same person, but God it's still scary to think about!

    Thank you so much for your reply - you've made me feel tons better!!
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    Thank god - I thought I was an absolutely horrible girlfriend for feeling like this.
    When I think about it, it would be so much fun living together because we are pretty much the exact same person, but God it's still scary to think about!

    Thank you so much for your reply - you've made me feel tons better!!
    No problem! Don't worry you're not a bad girlfriend for feeling like this, like you said you do love him and that's all that matters! Things happen naturally at the right age. I'm 18, and the thought of me getting married is WEIRD, i mean I'm so immature xD But just remember give it time, when you're like 23 or so, it'll be normal, trust me! Best of luck in the future
 
 
 
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