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    Ask me anything!
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    I'm a special snowflake ama
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    (Original post by whorace)
    I'm a special snowflake ama
    Kind of a **** thing to say
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    Do you identify as mayonnaise?
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    (Original post by Dinasaurus)
    Kind of a **** thing to say
    Be yourself
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    (Original post by whorace)
    Be yourself
    Why are you telling me that? I am myself, clearly.
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    How can you be homosexual and heteroromantic...? Doesn't really make much sense to me but hey-ho. Could you explain it?

    Oh and to all the commenters so far excluding Dinasaurus, just because your vocabulary can't go beyond the word '****', don't feel the need to be one to others. Awesome.
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    Have you got anybody in your life that you'd feel comfortable talking to about it?
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    you're human

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    When did you realise you were hetroroantic?
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    (Original post by Tai Ga)
    you're human

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    What is with you?
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    (Original post by Tai Ga)
    you're human

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    No, romantic orientation is a very real thing.
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    (Original post by ivybridge)
    How can you be homosexual and heteroromantic...? Doesn't really make much sense to me but hey-ho.

    Oh and to all the commenters so far excluding Dinasaurus, just because your vocabulary can't go beyond the word '****', don't feel the need to be one to others. Awesome.
    The same way someone can be asexual and be hetero/bi/homoromantic.
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    (Original post by MLPforever)
    The same way someone can be asexual and be hetero/bi/homoromantic.
    I think that's different though. I don't see how you can be homosexual - in-love with same-sex, solely - which is what homosexuality is, but only be in-love with the opposite sex, which would be what heteromanticism is? It's a complete contradiction. I'm very willing to have it explained to me though.
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    You'll be fine, just carry on being yourself and at some point in the future either someone of the opposite sex will come along and they'll be so amazing that you'll fall head over heels in love for them so much that despite the fact you're not usually sexually attracted to that sex you won't be able to help yourself. Or someone of the same sex will come along and you'll fall for them so hard that you might actually envisage yourself in a relationship with them. Trust me, I know!

    I think it may stem from possibly being a homosexual, but due to societal norms and pressures you won't ever feel (or think you won't) comfortable in a same sex relationship, because you've spent the last however many years thinking it isn't the "normal" thing to do. The most important thing to do is be honest with yourself and true to yourself and just accept life as it comes. Don't rush to label yourself either as then when that special someone does come along you don't want to think "well I thought I was attracted to this person but I can't be as I'm not usually" or "I really like this person, but couldn't possibly be in a relationship with them because that's not what I do"!

    Hope this makes some sense!!
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    Hey guys thanks for the replies/questions

    I did expect negative comments but it's fine

    No I haven't got anyone to talk about my feeling with since my family are south Asian, religious and take culture very seriously and I don't feel comfortable coming out to my group if friends.

    Yes it is very real, I'm not one of those liberal Tumblr girls who rant on about this kind of stuff for attention (not saying all of them do or that it's a bad thing to do), I'm quite the opposite actually :/

    I have had a relationship with a boy in the past (I'm male) and explained to him that I'm not attracted to him romantically which he was fine with and he just had sex. I did try my best to be attracted to him romantically but it just wasn't a natural feeling and I found it impossible to love him :/

    I dream/fantasise about having a girlfriend who I can love and do romantic things couples do. I'm shy around girls I fancy too even though I have plenty of friends as girls. However I'm just not attracted to them sexually - trust me I've tried porn and it's just not the working girls just can't turn me on...

    I made this thread to see if there people on here who are going through the same thing and need them to assure me that it's normal

    Thanks
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    (Original post by MLPforever)
    When did you realise you were hetroroantic?
    Ever since I can remember haha

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    You'll be fine, just carry on being yourself and at some point in the future either someone of the opposite sex will come along and they'll be so amazing that you'll fall head over heels in love for them so much that despite the fact you're not usually sexually attracted to that sex you won't be able to help yourself. Or someone of the same sex will come along and you'll fall for them so hard that you might actually envisage yourself in a relationship with them. Trust me, I know!

    I think it may stem from possibly being a homosexual, but due to societal norms and pressures you won't ever feel (or think you won't) comfortable in a same sex relationship, because you've spent the last however many years thinking it isn't the "normal" thing to do. The most important thing to do is be honest with yourself and true to yourself and just accept life as it comes. Don't rush to label yourself either as then when that special someone does come along you don't want to think "well I thought I was attracted to this person but I can't be as I'm not usually" or "I really like this person, but couldn't possibly be in a relationship with them because that's not what I do"!

    Hope this makes some sense!!
    Thanks so much this is just what needed!
    You're very right, maybe km tricking myself into thinking that I like girls because of my oppression as a homosexual :/ (rn marrying/being in love with a man disgusts me)
    I've refrained from labelling myself until very recently but I'm thinking about it more and more that I feel like it's the only way I can organise my feelings

    Thanks for the reply!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yes it is very real, I'm not one of those liberal Tumblr girls who rant on about this kind of stuff for attention (not saying all of them do or that it's a bad thing to do), I'm quite the opposite actually :/

    Good Lord don't mention these people here
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    (Original post by whorace)
    Good Lord don't mention these people here
    Yes I am indeed a special snowflake

    Haha those girls make me laugh
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yes I am indeed a special snowflake

    Haha those girls make me laugh
    I dated one
 
 
 
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