My boyfriend is white and I'm a Muslim girl.

Those without sin cast the first stone

I am sure you are in no place to judge.

The only person who can judge her is God not you, no offence.

Seriously, OP if you love him dearly, go for it because you could regret it down the line, love always prevails Good Luck

In the name of everyone with a brain, in the name of everyone with a shred of decency - shut it. Stop it. Now.

A girl who falls in love with someone who doesn't share her exact opinion and religion is not a Muslim and is filth, but people beheading atheists, torturing children and throwing homosexuals off of buildings aren't? Where are you condemning them on the threads that talk about it? Racism is filth, xenophobia is filth, prejudice is filth, sexism is filth. Love isn't, wasn't and will never be.

Freedom of love, peace, life, freedom and liberty trump all others. Interesting how the religion of "peace" is the one that is to blame for all this. Funny how the religion of "peace" is the one who is behind all these atrocities, behind breakup of families, murders and prejudice. Islam was created in violence, baptized in war, grew in conflict and exists due to fear and aggressive zeal. You're proving it right here and now. Instead of sympathizing with this poor girl in her troubles, you judge and condemn her, treat her poorly and call her actions and feelings, which are completely rational, "filth." I'm not afraid to say it - Islam is anything but a religion of peace.


I don't care who you are or what you believe in. I care about how kind, understanding, accepting and reasonable you are. I care how big your heart is, not what god, if any, you bow down to. That's how it should be. That's what everyone should live like - religious or not religious.

This is a messed up situation. And this is the problem when it comes to Islam, you have to convert someone to be with them. This is the main reason why I'd never marry a Muslim girl. Not to mention the other problems I'd have.

Not really no one is telling you to marry a muslim girl, the same rule applies to Christianity those who are practicing know full well it isnt acceptable to marry a non Christian and there are a number of practical reasons why this is the case

To the Muslims here encouraging her, if she listens to your advice and marry him (which is a sin) then you will get the sin too.

It seems as if you have an impossible choice to make: your family or your bf. Personally, family would come before anything but do what you think is right. There are other options too. Have you tried talking to him about Islam?

Before I say anything, note that I'm an atheist and things I say might offend you. But this is the reality.

From what you've described, I see no possibility of your family ever coming to terms with your decisions and actions that are not in the strictest adherence to their ideas, values and faith. I can't imagine the mentality of "my child is doing something I don't want - shame and disownment." That's not how you treat a person, a human being and a daughter. Make no mistake, harbor no illusions - this is Islam on a daily basis. Islam doesn't need to be taking down skyscrapers and killing infidels to cause harm. It can cause a mother to threaten to disown her daughter simply because she fell in love with a non-Muslim. It can cause you to think that you have no choice but to make a choice between yourself and your family.

As definite as it might be in your situation, I suggest you to appeal to your family one more time - as a daughter, niece and sister. Explain yourself and your feelings. If your family can somehow, anyhow understand - keep in touch. However, if they can't, move away, leave them behind and follow your feelings and your heart. Both you and your partner are mature, responsible adults with great prospects in life and I warmly and kindly suggest you do the right thing. Start living your life independently of your mother, your father and ultimately - independently of Islam. You've been a loving, caring, loyal family member for years, but obviously, that won't make you happy and isn't making you happy. That won't allow you to live your own life. Start being a loving, caring, loyal person in general, loving, caring for and loyal to people who deserve it. People who value you and treasure you for who you are as a person and an individual, not for who you are as a Muslim. Have a long, meaningful conversation with your partner, explain the situation, let him know what would this all means for you. If he understands you, respects you, loves you and recognizes what you need to sacrifice for your relationship - be with him, be free.

Actually Christianity allows it. I'm not a Christian, but I've done the research on it. Islam is the only religion that expects a conversion for marriage. I don't have anything against any religion, but in my opinion, Islam is just not very inclusive of others.

islam doesnt say anything about treating anyone who isnt a muslim differently just what they do whether we see it a sin or not is nothing for us to judge

I dont think their racist, they have a problem with it because he's not Muslim. Which is very understandable, marriage is half your din.

It may not be valid in her parents' eyes, but as she lives in the UK the marriage would most certainly be valid and recognised by the state.

Hi all... Here goes.

I'm in love with a non- Muslim, he's white and I cannot see myself with anyone but him.

Quran (3:56) - "As to those who reject faith, I will punish them with terrible agony in this world and in the Hereafter, nor will they have anyone to help."

Quran (3:151) - "Soon shall We cast terror into the hearts of the Unbelievers, for that they joined companions with Allah, for which He had sent no authority".

Quran (4:89) - "They but wish that ye should reject Faith, as they do, and thus be on the same footing. But take not friends from their ranks until they flee in the way of Allah (From what is forbidden). But if they turn renegades, seize them and slay them wherever ye find them; and (in any case) take no friends or helpers from their ranks."

Quran (8:12) - "I will cast terror into the hearts of those who disbelieve. Therefore strike off their heads and strike off every fingertip of them."

Quran (9:123) - "O you who believe! Fight those of the unbelievers who are near to you and let them find in you hardness."

Quran (25:52) - "Therefore listen not to the Unbelievers, but strive against them with the utmost strenuousness."

Quran (66:9) - "O Prophet! Strive against the disbelievers and the hypocrites, and be stern with them. Hell will be their home, a hapless journey's end."

No this isnt some fairy tale or romantic movie where she runs away with the love of her life... Marriages like this will only lead to one thing in the end regret and unhappiness. Regardless of how strict or unreasonable her parents are they have her best intentions, Because she is a muslim then she knows that in order for her to go paradise she needs to be respectful of her parents they arent saying anything unreasonable just to get married to someone from her religion. Later down the line if this relationship doesnt work out then what does she have no family no parents all because of some person she was in "love" with.

Blood is thicker than water and I know you don't get on with your family much but they are the only people there for you when it really counts.