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    Hi everyone.

    I had a huge crush on one of my best friends, then I went 6 months abroad to study (Erasmus). Of course I didn't see her once in those 6 months, but we kept texting a lot. Anyway I used that time far from her to move on. I haven't completely forgotten her but I'm feeling much better than when I left.

    Problem is, I'm back... I have no idea what to do. She is one of my best friends, so I want to see her again, but I don't want to fall for her again. It was my first huge crush and it was really hard because I was seeing her almost every day and we were getting along so well. It was the worst period of my life...

    Do you think it's risky to see again an old crush (considering I've moved on)?

    Thank you.
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    It's risky but she's also one of your best friends so.. Either take the risk or never see her again I guess?
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    Well it depends entirely on how it ended... That said, it ended for reason right? It didn't end merely because you moved away for studying right? So unless something has changed I doubt it would work.
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    (Original post by Katarvi)
    It's risky but she's also one of your best friends so.. Either take the risk or never see her again I guess?

    Yeah that's the dilemma.

    (Original post by TorpidPhil)
    Well it depends entirely on how it ended... That said, it ended for reason right? It didn't end merely because you moved away for studying right? So unless something has changed I doubt it would work.
    Well I started to have feelings for her so I told her 2 months before I went. She rejected me and we decided to stay friends. It was really hard for me but I didn't want to lose her as a friend so I didn't cut her out of my life. I thought I would move on when I would be abroad. So yeah basically our friendship "ended" (it never ended) because I moved away for studying.
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    Yeah that's the dilemma.



    Well I started to have feelings for her so I told her 2 months before I went. She rejected me and we decided to stay friends. It was really hard for me but I didn't want to lose her as a friend so I didn't cut her out of my life. I thought I would move on when I would be abroad. So yeah basically our friendship "ended" (it never ended) because I moved away for studying.
    Ohhhh I thought you had a relationship with this crush before... Oops. Yeah, that's really ****ing tough. Only you can make that decision tbh :L Dunno man.
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    (Original post by TorpidPhil)
    Ohhhh I thought you had a relationship with this crush before... Oops. Yeah, that's really ****ing tough. Only you can make that decision tbh :L Dunno man.
    Thanks mate
    No, I have had feelings for her since January 2015, only told her in July and then I went abroad in September. Recently got back and have no idea if I should see her again... I want to but there are chances it's a stupid idea
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    Sounds like you haven't fully moved on then.

    It's very likely you'll fall for her again. I'd still say see her, if feelings come back you'll probably have to reduce contact.
 
 
 
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