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I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over five years now and it has been a great relationship. However, within the last year or so he has cheated on me multiple times with his ex-girlfriend. It started with them just sending nude pics to each other. Then one day they met up and slept together and I found out after having an argument with her. I decided to forgive (which was so stupid now I look back on it) and it took me until recently to get over it. However, he now has a new phone which is my old one I didn't need anymore so he left his old phone at home. I then noticed there were messages between him and this ex that he said he had blocked from contacting him. Again, they had sent nude pics to each other and they are planning on meeting up again to have sex next month. She lives quite far from our town. I confronted him about it and he said he wasn't going to meet up with her because he knew it would be stupid. I know he won't meet with her now because I know. This time I am dead set on splitting up with him. I currently live with him, but the way things are right now I know as much as I still love him I can't forgive him this time.

He says he loves me time and time again but then he goes ahead and cheats on me again with her. The reason he cheated this time was because we didn't have enough sex. I'm glad he was honest but it just upsets me that he would rather screw with his ex than talk to me about it. Right now I don't think I can forgive him so I'm moving to my Mum's for a few days to sort my head out.

He really is my first proper boyfriend, we've been together since we were sixteen and at this moment in time I don't think I'll ever love someone as much as him again.

What should I do?
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Get out of there pronto
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you can't trust anything that comes out a boy's mouth.
solely focus on his actions.
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so leave.
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I get that you love him, but it is not ok for you to keep forgiving him if he's cheated on you multiple times. He isn't even cheating with a random girl where it could be passed of as un-meaningful, he's cheating on you with his ex, so they may still have feelings for each other. Personally, I think you should end it now rather than later because you'll end up getting even more hurt the later you leave it. You deserve better.
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He has you. If you could leave you would have when he cheated. What do you fear? Is he violent? Do not let your heart make the decision your head knows to be right, you cannot leave unless you detatch yourself from the good times and focus on the bad, otherwise he will pull you back in again
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over five years now and it has been a great relationship. However, within the last year or so he has cheated on me multiple times with his ex-girlfriend. It started with them just sending nude pics to each other. Then one day they met up and slept together and I found out after having an argument with her. I decided to forgive (which was so stupid now I look back on it) and it took me until recently to get over it. However, he now has a new phone which is my old one I didn't need anymore so he left his old phone at home. I then noticed there were messages between him and this ex that he said he had blocked from contacting him. Again, they had sent nude pics to each other and they are planning on meeting up again to have sex next month. She lives quite far from our town. I confronted him about it and he said he wasn't going to meet up with her because he knew it would be stupid. I know he won't meet with her now because I know. This time I am dead set on splitting up with him. I currently live with him, but the way things are right now I know as much as I still love him I can't forgive him this time.

He says he loves me time and time again but then he goes ahead and cheats on me again with her. The reason he cheated this time was because we didn't have enough sex. I'm glad he was honest but it just upsets me that he would rather screw with his ex than talk to me about it. Right now I don't think I can forgive him so I'm moving to my Mum's for a few days to sort my head out.

He really is my first proper boyfriend, we've been together since we were sixteen and at this moment in time I don't think I'll ever love someone as much as him again.

What should I do?
He's cheating: first red flag
With his ex: whole armada of red flags

People don't usually get along with their exes, most guys cut contact. I vote dump him

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Yeah get out of there.

It's human nature to always want more, so you should never have had such unrealistic expectations in the first place.
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End it with him so you can move on. He isn't worth staying with, he'll just keep cheating. I know it will be hard because he is your first boyfriend but he doesn't deserve you and you deserve better.

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Yeah get out of there.

It's human nature to always want more, so you should never have had such unrealistic expectations in the first place.
Don't worry I wasn't expecting to get married and have kids with him. I'm not delusional lol.
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Thanks everyone I know what I'm going to do now.
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you need to leave him asap seriously
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leave wtf are you doing
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It's quite upsetting you had to even ask advice on this he breached every aspect of trust in a relationship.
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Girls are like jewels, worthy to be loved and be appreciated. If he keeps hurting you that way then I think you need to let him go because you don't deserve all the pain. It takes the right man to see your worth. Don't let him hinders that.
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(Original post by anonymous)
i've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over five years now and it has been a great relationship. However, within the last year or so he has cheated on me multiple times with his ex-girlfriend. It started with them just sending nude pics to each other. Then one day they met up and slept together and i found out after having an argument with her. I decided to forgive (which was so stupid now i look back on it) and it took me until recently to get over it. However, he now has a new phone which is my old one i didn't need anymore so he left his old phone at home. I then noticed there were messages between him and this ex that he said he had blocked from contacting him. Again, they had sent nude pics to each other and they are planning on meeting up again to have sex next month. She lives quite far from our town. I confronted him about it and he said he wasn't going to meet up with her because he knew it would be stupid. I know he won't meet with her now because i know. This time i am dead set on splitting up with him. I currently live with him, but the way things are right now i know as much as i still love him i can't forgive him this time.

He says he loves me time and time again but then he goes ahead and cheats on me again with her. The reason he cheated this time was because we didn't have enough sex. I'm glad he was honest but it just upsets me that he would rather screw with his ex than talk to me about it. Right now i don't think i can forgive him so i'm moving to my mum's for a few days to sort my head out.

He really is my first proper boyfriend, we've been together since we were sixteen and at this moment in time i don't think i'll ever love someone as much as him again.

What should i do?
end it now!!! You deserve someone better!!
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End it.

You say 'I don't think I will ever love someone as much as him'.

It won't be the last time you say that either, (hopefully on good terms)
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Finish him
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over five years now and it has been a great relationship. However, within the last year or so he has cheated on me multiple times with his ex-girlfriend. It started with them just sending nude pics to each other. Then one day they met up and slept together and I found out after having an argument with her. I decided to forgive (which was so stupid now I look back on it) and it took me until recently to get over it. However, he now has a new phone which is my old one I didn't need anymore so he left his old phone at home. I then noticed there were messages between him and this ex that he said he had blocked from contacting him. Again, they had sent nude pics to each other and they are planning on meeting up again to have sex next month. She lives quite far from our town. I confronted him about it and he said he wasn't going to meet up with her because he knew it would be stupid. I know he won't meet with her now because I know. This time I am dead set on splitting up with him. I currently live with him, but the way things are right now I know as much as I still love him I can't forgive him this time.

He says he loves me time and time again but then he goes ahead and cheats on me again with her. The reason he cheated this time was because we didn't have enough sex. I'm glad he was honest but it just upsets me that he would rather screw with his ex than talk to me about it. Right now I don't think I can forgive him so I'm moving to my Mum's for a few days to sort my head out.

He really is my first proper boyfriend, we've been together since we were sixteen and at this moment in time I don't think I'll ever love someone as much as him again.

What should I do?
You've forgiven him over and over again, why? you say it hurts but you just carry on letting him do it as you forgive him. Stop right now and end it, it will hurt but don't you have any self dignity? self pride? you deserve more. He's a **** just as she is, he sees you as a doormat. You need to put your feelings aside and let your BRAIN do the thinking.

It's not like you've not given him plenty of chances [foolishly] it's time to end it.
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(Original post by SMEGGGY)
You've forgiven him over and over again, why? you say it hurts but you just carry on letting him do it as you forgive him. Stop right now and end it, it will hurt but don't you have any self dignity? self pride? you deserve more. He's a **** just as she is, he sees you as a doormat. You need to put your feelings aside and let your BRAIN do the thinking.

It's not like you've not given him plenty of chances [foolishly] it's time to end it.
Preach!! This advice is definitely a kick in the backside! Thanks
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