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This must sound so stupid...
Hey guys... im new to this, but i got no1 else to talk to really so bare with meh ^^
Ok well... I was in my first real serious relationship about a year ago with a girl i met at school for just over a year (i was 16 at the time). And i must say it was the happiest time of my life, and for her i think it was a big step. She suffers from ME which is hard to explain, but its labled the "Lazy" disease. It made her really down and depressed, but she said once i came along it really made her think her life was so much more worth living, one of the main reasons i was happy. Well, anywho... as i said it went on for just over a year and we eventually got closer and closer and the only thing i event wanted to do was be with her. I knew i loved her, and she told me she did aswell. But at the end of the last year, i started having trouble at home and my parents were in divorce and my mum had moved out. This got me down, yet it didnt hit me as hard since i had my girlfriend. Half way through my parents seperation my girlfriend sent me a letter, telling me how she felt (Never felt like this, happiest she had ever been, and she would love me every day until she died). The next day i had a phone call from her best friend telling me she wanted to break up.... as soon as i heard these words everything hit me at once... i completely broke down and couldnt stop crying for days, was so horrible. From that day on she didnt even so much speak to me and prettended i didnt exist untill a month or so back she started talking to me again. The problem is ive never "Got over her" is the best words to use here i think. I saw her every day at school and couldnt stop thinking of the times we had and such... despite our random breakup. Shes got a new boyfriend now, and i just feel so stupid about the whole thing and not being able to let go... Id never been treated like she treated me and it just feels lke shes the only 1 that can make me feel like that >.< Any1 know what i should do? I feel so rediculous and i must sound like a complete and utter stalker, but it was so ubrupt she didnt even seem bothered or give me a reason for breaking up
Thanks alot guys good to get this off my chest finally 
Aint told this to any1 b4 
Ok well... I was in my first real serious relationship about a year ago with a girl i met at school for just over a year (i was 16 at the time). And i must say it was the happiest time of my life, and for her i think it was a big step. She suffers from ME which is hard to explain, but its labled the "Lazy" disease. It made her really down and depressed, but she said once i came along it really made her think her life was so much more worth living, one of the main reasons i was happy. Well, anywho... as i said it went on for just over a year and we eventually got closer and closer and the only thing i event wanted to do was be with her. I knew i loved her, and she told me she did aswell. But at the end of the last year, i started having trouble at home and my parents were in divorce and my mum had moved out. This got me down, yet it didnt hit me as hard since i had my girlfriend. Half way through my parents seperation my girlfriend sent me a letter, telling me how she felt (Never felt like this, happiest she had ever been, and she would love me every day until she died). The next day i had a phone call from her best friend telling me she wanted to break up.... as soon as i heard these words everything hit me at once... i completely broke down and couldnt stop crying for days, was so horrible. From that day on she didnt even so much speak to me and prettended i didnt exist untill a month or so back she started talking to me again. The problem is ive never "Got over her" is the best words to use here i think. I saw her every day at school and couldnt stop thinking of the times we had and such... despite our random breakup. Shes got a new boyfriend now, and i just feel so stupid about the whole thing and not being able to let go... Id never been treated like she treated me and it just feels lke shes the only 1 that can make me feel like that >.< Any1 know what i should do? I feel so rediculous and i must sound like a complete and utter stalker, but it was so ubrupt she didnt even seem bothered or give me a reason for breaking up
Thanks alot guys good to get this off my chest finally Aint told this to any1 b4 Scroll to see replies
Reply 1
Dude, first thing, GUY HUG! 
I know exactly how you feel and it's pretty ****. You need to pick yourself up before it's too late. Please.
I shut myself away from everyone for months, didn't go to Uni, barely talked to any one or ate, it really got to me. These are emotions and feelings I felt then, that I never wish to feel again. It's drastically effected my education (i'm only just going to scrape through this year) and my social life. I feel stupid for letting myself get that low, however I'm back on track and could never feel better! ^_^ You need to feel like that before going down the depressive road. Cry, get it out of you and then try to forget. I know it's hard, but it's the only way.
I'm guessing that it's not the fact she's split with you, but again, similar to my own situation, the WAY she split up with you. I can't guess why she did this to you. You need to take it on the chin though and realize if she was prepared to hurt you in this way, by sending someone else to do her dirty work, then she's not worth it. You, YOU, are better than she is.
Don't be embarrassed or feel silly about it, she's hurt you in a way no one else could. She is not worth it though.
Get it off your chest and move on. Please. You're young and there's an entire life ahead of you! Enjoy life and take this experience and remember it. Remember the good times that you had with her, and cherish them, but don't dwell on them (contradictory I know). Go have fun, pick up a new hobby or learn an instrument and go out with friends and really enjoy yourself
Love is wonderful thing, it really is. This will not burn you out this early though. I'm telling you
Good luck ! If you ever want someone to talk to, just drop me a PM! I hope I've been at least a little help.
Hug!
I know exactly how you feel and it's pretty ****. You need to pick yourself up before it's too late. Please.
I shut myself away from everyone for months, didn't go to Uni, barely talked to any one or ate, it really got to me. These are emotions and feelings I felt then, that I never wish to feel again. It's drastically effected my education (i'm only just going to scrape through this year) and my social life. I feel stupid for letting myself get that low, however I'm back on track and could never feel better! ^_^ You need to feel like that before going down the depressive road. Cry, get it out of you and then try to forget. I know it's hard, but it's the only way.
I'm guessing that it's not the fact she's split with you, but again, similar to my own situation, the WAY she split up with you. I can't guess why she did this to you. You need to take it on the chin though and realize if she was prepared to hurt you in this way, by sending someone else to do her dirty work, then she's not worth it. You, YOU, are better than she is.
Don't be embarrassed or feel silly about it, she's hurt you in a way no one else could. She is not worth it though.
Get it off your chest and move on. Please. You're young and there's an entire life ahead of you! Enjoy life and take this experience and remember it. Remember the good times that you had with her, and cherish them, but don't dwell on them (contradictory I know). Go have fun, pick up a new hobby or learn an instrument and go out with friends and really enjoy yourself
Love is wonderful thing, it really is. This will not burn you out this early though. I'm telling you
Good luck ! If you ever want someone to talk to, just drop me a PM! I hope I've been at least a little help.
Hug!
Reply 2
Xopa
Dude, first thing, GUY HUG!
I know exactly how you feel and it's pretty ****. You need to pick yourself up before it's too late.
I shut myself away from everyone for months, didn't go to Uni, barely talked to any one or ate, it really got to me. These are emotions and feelings I felt then, that I never wish to feel again. It's drastically effected my education (i'm only just going to scrape through this year) and my social life. I feel stupid for letting myself get that low, however I'm back on track and could never feel better! ^_^ You need to feel like that before going down the depressive road. Cry, get it out of you and then try to forget. I know it's hard, but it's the only way.
I'm guessing that it's not the fact she's split with you, but again, similar to my own situation, the WAY she split up with you. I can't guess why she did this to you. You need to take it on the chin though and realize if she was prepared to hurt you in this way, by sending someone else to do her dirty work, then she's not worth it. You, YOU, are better than she is.
I still don't know why my ex split with me, now I don't care. Don't be embarrassed or feel silly about it, she's hurt you in a way no one else could. She is not worth it though.
Get it off your chest and move on. Please. You're young and there's an entire life ahead of you! Enjoy life and take this experience and remember it. Remember the good times that you had with her, and cherish them, but don't dwell on them (contradictory I know).
Love is wonderful thing, it really is. This will not burn you out this early though. I'm telling you :P
Good luck ! If you ever want someone to talk to just drop me a PM.
Hug!
I know exactly how you feel and it's pretty ****. You need to pick yourself up before it's too late.
I shut myself away from everyone for months, didn't go to Uni, barely talked to any one or ate, it really got to me. These are emotions and feelings I felt then, that I never wish to feel again. It's drastically effected my education (i'm only just going to scrape through this year) and my social life. I feel stupid for letting myself get that low, however I'm back on track and could never feel better! ^_^ You need to feel like that before going down the depressive road. Cry, get it out of you and then try to forget. I know it's hard, but it's the only way.
I'm guessing that it's not the fact she's split with you, but again, similar to my own situation, the WAY she split up with you. I can't guess why she did this to you. You need to take it on the chin though and realize if she was prepared to hurt you in this way, by sending someone else to do her dirty work, then she's not worth it. You, YOU, are better than she is.
I still don't know why my ex split with me, now I don't care. Don't be embarrassed or feel silly about it, she's hurt you in a way no one else could. She is not worth it though.
Get it off your chest and move on. Please. You're young and there's an entire life ahead of you! Enjoy life and take this experience and remember it. Remember the good times that you had with her, and cherish them, but don't dwell on them (contradictory I know).
Love is wonderful thing, it really is. This will not burn you out this early though. I'm telling you :P
Good luck ! If you ever want someone to talk to just drop me a PM.
Hug!
You won't be single for long Xopa
Reply 3
Awe... thanks alot dude ^^ Finally sum1 i can talk with a get things sorted out I get girls at school always coming to me for advice, its nice to get it from sum1 else for once 
Well aye, i mean ive been single for over a year now even though being asked alot and i think its my sub concious reminding me of this horrible experience and your right i just gotta slap myself :P Just wanna find a person like her ya know? ^^ sum1 i can talk to for hours and have a laugh with, not some trophey pretty girl to have on my arm just for show... i h8 guys like that and the girls there with, sure they look great, but holy mother of mary some of them can be right bitches! >.< Hopefully i will meet sum1 but atm i live in the middle of a field about 2 miles away from my friends so its a little hard to pester my parents for lifts all the time but im learning to drive now (That means keep off the road.. :P) Thanks alot though dude really nice to have sum1 to talk to though finally ^^ *Guy Hug Back!* *Prays to find that girl out there*
I get girls at school always coming to me for advice, its nice to get it from sum1 else for once Well aye, i mean ive been single for over a year now even though being asked alot and i think its my sub concious reminding me of this horrible experience and your right i just gotta slap myself :P Just wanna find a person like her ya know? ^^ sum1 i can talk to for hours and have a laugh with, not some trophey pretty girl to have on my arm just for show... i h8 guys like that and the girls there with, sure they look great, but holy mother of mary some of them can be right bitches! >.< Hopefully i will meet sum1 but atm i live in the middle of a field about 2 miles away from my friends so its a little hard to pester my parents for lifts all the time but im learning to drive now (That means keep off the road.. :P) Thanks alot though dude really nice to have sum1 to talk to though finally ^^ *Guy Hug Back!* *Prays to find that girl out there* Reply 4
PeskyWabbit
Awe... thanks alot dude ^^ Finally sum1 i can talk with a get things sorted out I get girls at school always coming to me for advice, its nice to get it from sum1 else for once Well aye, i mean ive been single for over a year now even though being asked alot and i think its my sub concious reminding me of this horrible experience and your right i just gotta slap myself :P Just wanna find a person like her ya know? ^^ sum1 i can talk to for hours and have a laugh with, not some trophey pretty girl to have on my arm just for show... i h8 guys like that and the girls there with, sure they look great, but holy mother of mary some of them can be right bitches! >.< Hopefully i will meet sum1 but atm i live in the middle of a field about 2 miles away from my friends so its a little hard to pester my parents for lifts all the time but im learning to drive now (That means keep off the road.. :P) Thanks alot though dude really nice to have sum1 to talk to though finally ^^ *Guy Hug Back!* *Prays to find that girl out there*
I get girls at school always coming to me for advice, its nice to get it from sum1 else for once Well aye, i mean ive been single for over a year now even though being asked alot and i think its my sub concious reminding me of this horrible experience and your right i just gotta slap myself :P Just wanna find a person like her ya know? ^^ sum1 i can talk to for hours and have a laugh with, not some trophey pretty girl to have on my arm just for show... i h8 guys like that and the girls there with, sure they look great, but holy mother of mary some of them can be right bitches! >.< Hopefully i will meet sum1 but atm i live in the middle of a field about 2 miles away from my friends so its a little hard to pester my parents for lifts all the time but im learning to drive now (That means keep off the road.. :P) Thanks alot though dude really nice to have sum1 to talk to though finally ^^ *Guy Hug Back!* *Prays to find that girl out there* You'll find her, don't worry. And when you find the right one she won't screw with you, she'll treat you how you deserve. Try to use this experience to make you stronger.
Reply 5
Hehe thanks Chloe
Just been in the dark about a few things and not being able to speak to any1, but at the mo its really frustrating the only place i really get to meet new people is when i have a gig with mi band, otherwise its just school and ...well... meh
Just been in the dark about a few things and not being able to speak to any1, but at the mo its really frustrating the only place i really get to meet new people is when i have a gig with mi band, otherwise its just school and ...well... meh
Reply 6
PeskyWabbit
Awe... thanks alot dude ^^ Finally sum1 i can talk with a get things sorted out I get girls at school always coming to me for advice, its nice to get it from sum1 else for once Well aye, i mean ive been single for over a year now even though being asked alot and i think its my sub concious reminding me of this horrible experience and your right i just gotta slap myself :P Just wanna find a person like her ya know? ^^ sum1 i can talk to for hours and have a laugh with, not some trophey pretty girl to have on my arm just for show... i h8 guys like that and the girls there with, sure they look great, but holy mother of mary some of them can be right bitches! >.< Hopefully i will meet sum1 but atm i live in the middle of a field about 2 miles away from my friends so its a little hard to pester my parents for lifts all the time but im learning to drive now (That means keep off the road.. :P) Thanks alot though dude really nice to have sum1 to talk to though finally ^^ *Guy Hug Back!* *Prays to find that girl out there*
I get girls at school always coming to me for advice, its nice to get it from sum1 else for once Well aye, i mean ive been single for over a year now even though being asked alot and i think its my sub concious reminding me of this horrible experience and your right i just gotta slap myself :P Just wanna find a person like her ya know? ^^ sum1 i can talk to for hours and have a laugh with, not some trophey pretty girl to have on my arm just for show... i h8 guys like that and the girls there with, sure they look great, but holy mother of mary some of them can be right bitches! >.< Hopefully i will meet sum1 but atm i live in the middle of a field about 2 miles away from my friends so its a little hard to pester my parents for lifts all the time but im learning to drive now (That means keep off the road.. :P) Thanks alot though dude really nice to have sum1 to talk to though finally ^^ *Guy Hug Back!* *Prays to find that girl out there* There's someone out there for everyone. As Chloe has mentioned, this experience will make you stronger as a person. I'll take into consideration to stay off the road, but then again Manchester is a death trap in itself, so it's all fun
. Good luck in the future and all the best! ^_^Thank you Chloe *blush*
Reply 7
Best of luck to u too m8 Thanks again ^^
Thanks again ^^
Reply 9
First thing i asked Saffie never gave an answer, just hang up on me if i asked, then gave me the cold shoulder for 6 months but meh... Enough of her
Thanks by the way Maybe i should speak to more girls like you and Chole in real huh? ^^
never gave an answer, just hang up on me if i asked, then gave me the cold shoulder for 6 months but meh... Enough of her Thanks by the way
Maybe i should speak to more girls like you and Chole in real huh? ^^
Reply 11
hey, i just want to wish you all the best. im sorry you have been through heartache, but i hope you find the right person in the future.
i also wanna give you a hug
i also wanna give you a hug
Reply 12
3232
Ugh. I would take the piss if the sycophantism wasn't completely overwhelming...
I'm not being remotely sycophantic; I'm just giving advice and being a nice person. I read what the guys had to say, and commented on it honestly.
Reply 13
I'd like to give a shout-out to someone else who spent/ is spending their adolescent years living a REALLY long way away from their friends.....I can't really sympathize with the girl problem, being a girl myself, but I feel your pain being stuck in your house and not being able to pester your parents all the time for a ride. My best friend lived a full half-hour away, and that was driving at around 55 mph the whole time. Anyway, best of luck in the future and it gets a lot better at University
Reply 15
you say you want to find someone like her? DONT! you'll never find that person, you can crave the feelings and emotions she brought out in you but dont look for someone like her or they might end up doing the same thing to you. it sounds like a horrible way to break up, i have no idea why you still like her after what she's done to you (wrote u a love letter, next day asked a fried to break up for her and then ignored you completely)!! do you not realize how horrible that was? would you EVER do that? i hope not!
you sound like a nice guy, just make sure you take your time to get to know the girl before you ask her out, be sure she's someone you could date and not just for a week (seems like you're already doing well in this field) and ask her about her previous break-ups, so you know what to expect if she ever broke up with you.. Good Luck and i hope you get over that girl ASAP!!!
you sound like a nice guy, just make sure you take your time to get to know the girl before you ask her out, be sure she's someone you could date and not just for a week (seems like you're already doing well in this field) and ask her about her previous break-ups, so you know what to expect if she ever broke up with you.. Good Luck and i hope you get over that girl ASAP!!!
Reply 16
Ah well im not so much set on a girlfriend as much as a really close friend that i can be with ya know? not the end of the world now is it ^^ But aye... im usualy best friends with my girlfriends a long time b4 im with them
And yer... what she did was evil.. and theres a story maybe i should tell to really get u to understand me. I think people are people, and should be treated the same as u want to be treated, im not one to bare a grudge kinda thing
About 3 weeks after we split up i went to a party with some friends just to get my mind off things :P Then my ex decided to ring me and tell me what a great time she was having with her best m8 (walking around in fields getting absolutely plastered on there own) anyway... i went home that night and got to sleep... And she rings me again at 2 in the morning crying telling me shes lost, scared and her best friend cant even walk she got so drunk so they couldnt get home... I told them to get to the main road and i would walk to them and help them home >.< Baring in mind this was 2 miles away and two in the morning i couldnt let them just sit there... After i got them home, her friend was sick all over the place and ended up having to stay with my ex, and i didnt even get so much as a thankyou
Now im really thinking about it, she doesnt even seem to have any characteristics of a human being, but when we were seeing eachother i couldnt even imagine that side of her so it was a bit hard for me. Now i really sound like a dumbass eh? but nevermind... ****** happens thats life
Thanks for all the replies guys to really appriciate it *Hugs to all*
And yer... what she did was evil.. and theres a story maybe i should tell to really get u to understand me. I think people are people, and should be treated the same as u want to be treated, im not one to bare a grudge kinda thing
About 3 weeks after we split up i went to a party with some friends just to get my mind off things :P Then my ex decided to ring me and tell me what a great time she was having with her best m8 (walking around in fields getting absolutely plastered on there own
) anyway... i went home that night and got to sleep... And she rings me again at 2 in the morning crying telling me shes lost, scared and her best friend cant even walk she got so drunk so they couldnt get home... I told them to get to the main road and i would walk to them and help them home >.< Baring in mind this was 2 miles away and two in the morning i couldnt let them just sit there... After i got them home, her friend was sick all over the place and ended up having to stay with my ex, and i didnt even get so much as a thankyou Now im really thinking about it, she doesnt even seem to have any characteristics of a human being, but when we were seeing eachother i couldnt even imagine that side of her so it was a bit hard for me. Now i really sound like a dumbass eh?
but nevermind... ****** happens thats life Thanks for all the replies guys to really appriciate it
*Hugs to all* Reply 17
aww thats horrible, u derserve someone so much better than her
'Ah well im not so much set on a girlfriend as much as a really close friend that i can be with ya know?'
im the same i decided not to go looking for love and it will come and find me and so far it has saved me from a hell of alot of heartache looking at a lot of people my age. (I think illl change my mind if i get to middle/late 20's and still haven't found someone though! )
good luck and i hope u find your special person soon
'Ah well im not so much set on a girlfriend as much as a really close friend that i can be with ya know?'
im the same i decided not to go looking for love and it will come and find me
and so far it has saved me from a hell of alot of heartache looking at a lot of people my age. (I think illl change my mind if i get to middle/late 20's and still haven't found someone though! )good luck and i hope u find your special person soon
Reply 18
Ah u poor munchkin. i no how u feel id been with my boyfriend almost 4yrs when he randomly dumped me 2 weeks ago. i dont really understand y and am currently in that same staying at home and feeling down phase. glad to hear of some1 who has felt the same as none of my mates understand. u sound like a great guy to me and i hope u find some1 wonderful 2 make u happy.
Reply 19
I have to agree with mortimer, even though I'm over the past, I still don't like the idea of letting someone hurt me like that again.
At this age (any age come to think about it), "love" is such a peculiar subject. People go on for days, months, years and sometimes for the rest of their lifes. Everyone is different, but I'm still pretty adamant that there is someone out there for everyone. *plays* Everybody needs somebody! Just don't hang on the past and enjoy the future, as there's plenty more of it! If you find love though, just don't let go of it and enjoy every waking moment.
All the best and good luck!
At this age (any age come to think about it), "love" is such a peculiar subject. People go on for days, months, years and sometimes for the rest of their lifes. Everyone is different, but I'm still pretty adamant that there is someone out there for everyone. *plays* Everybody needs somebody! Just don't hang on the past and enjoy the future, as there's plenty more of it! If you find love though, just don't let go of it and enjoy every waking moment.
All the best and good luck!
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