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    Hey everyone,
    Sorry this is going to be quite explicit/tmi but I think I need help.
    I'm beginning to realise that I have a dependency on porn or that I am addicted to where it's become compulsive behaviour or currently is.

    I'm now 18 and I began watching porn on and off at the age of 8/9 years then became fully hooked around 10/11 years to where I would view it daily as itt helped me masturbate. Now reflecting over my life, it's been 10 years since I've been viewing this junk. Why I call it junk is because it's made my fantasises and thoughts more violent. Also I've become desensitised to certain hardcore porn, it seems that after a while I go for something more violent and it's becoming worrying. I now only have rape fantasises where before my fantasises were much more romantic when I tried stopping for a while.

    Because I use porn to masturbate as it helps me reach orgasm- I tried to stop masturbating gradually so went from everyday to 3 times a week to see if it would stop me from going to porn on the internet but it didn't work as everything became a mental battle. Mentally I was still viewing this stuff and ended up going back to it online, spending hours and days watching it and masturbating. I began having cramps and became sore around the bottom of my stomach because of the constant contractions I had experienced from those hours.I know I sound like a creep but I think I have a problem or is this normal?
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    Not normal. When is the last time you got laid by a real man? Can't go back to some crappy images or videos after a good experience. If you stop ******* you'll want it more so my recommendation is for you to get a sexual partner as a replacement at least temporarily.
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    (Original post by whorace)
    Not normal. When is the last time you got laid by a real man? Can't go back to some crappy images or videos after a good experience. If you stop ******* you'll want it more so my recommendation is for you to get a sexual partner as a replacement at least temporarily.
    I'm a virgin lol.
    I don't think having a sexual partner will help, it most likely will complicate things.
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    If only we could talk, I'm 18 too I experience the same thing too.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm a virgin lol.
    I don't think having a sexual partner will help, it most likely will complicate things.
    You are right, you would be way too attached to your partner I think especially if you are a virgin, that or you will likely have a lot of difficulty finding someone who is good enough to compare with your experience.

    I don't really know what to suggest, is there something you can take to naturally reduce sexual interest?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm a virgin lol.
    I don't think having a sexual partner will help, it most likely will complicate things.
    Read reddit.com/r/nofap
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    Can you make a new account on here? I could PM you on there
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    How many times, roughly, do you masturbate in a day? Just so I can get a good grasp of what we're dealing with here.
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    ASL?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hey everyone,
    Sorry this is going to be quite explicit/tmi but I think I need help.
    I'm beginning to realise that I have a dependency on porn or that I am addicted to where it's become compulsive behaviour or currently is.

    I'm now 18 and I began watching porn on and off at the age of 8/9 years then became fully hooked around 10/11 years to where I would view it daily as itt helped me masturbate. Now reflecting over my life, it's been 10 years since I've been viewing this junk. Why I call it junk is because it's made my fantasises and thoughts more violent. Also I've become desensitised to certain hardcore porn, it seems that after a while I go for something more violent and it's becoming worrying. I now only have rape fantasises where before my fantasises were much more romantic when I tried stopping for a while.

    Because I use porn to masturbate as it helps me reach orgasm- I tried to stop masturbating gradually so went from everyday to 3 times a week to see if it would stop me from going to porn on the internet but it didn't work as everything became a mental battle. Mentally I was still viewing this stuff and ended up going back to it online, spending hours and days watching it and masturbating. I began having cramps and became sore around the bottom of my stomach because of the constant contractions I had experienced from those hours.I know I sound like a creep but I think I have a problem or is this normal?
    You should definitely go cold turkey. Using porn all the time is definitely not good for mental health.
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    You were 9?! WTF?!?!
    Honey, it is really not worth the pain it causes you. I felt so bad reading that you end up getting a sore stomach
    Have you tried talking to a counsellor about it?
    If you're too shy, try looking at some books about recovering from a porn addiction
    Here's a possible help book:
    http://www.amazon.com/Treating-Porno...F2Y2JSFGWAR0S1
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    This is why I'm glad I don't know what masturbation is.. And I'm 17 :/
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    If only we could talk, I'm 18 too I experience the same thing too.
    Really?
    I thought it was only me. I've been so isolated these few days. How are things with you? Has anything gone better?
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    Like any other addiction, perhaps seek professional/medical help.

    It may seem embarrassing but Doctors hear all sorts.
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    (Original post by whorace)
    You are right, you would be way too attached to your partner I think especially if you are a virgin, that or you will likely have a lot of difficulty finding someone who is good enough to compare with your experience.

    I don't really know what to suggest, is there something you can take to naturally reduce sexual interest?
    Yea, I'm already catching feelings for a guy(s) without sex- can't imagine how it would be adding sex to the equation. No, thanks for trying to help. I've tried working out to remove my mind off it and apparently exercise reduces your libido but concerning me, it makes me more sexually aroused. I know I have a high libido naturally though. The sad thing is that, I can't say I remember a day in my life when I had properly quit watching porn. The longest I went was a month. And even then I went to 'soft' pornography. I hope I don't live the rest of my life stuck on this.
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    (Original post by Eternalflames)
    You were 9?! WTF?!?!
    Honey, it is really not worth the pain it causes you. I felt so bad reading that you end up getting a sore stomach
    Have you tried talking to a counsellor about it?
    If you're too shy, try looking at some books about recovering from a porn addiction
    Here's a possible help book:
    http://www.amazon.com/Treating-Porno...F2Y2JSFGWAR0S1
    There is a book on this? I've been working my ass off to get into the civil service when I could just write books on porn?
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    (Original post by TheYearNiner)
    Read reddit.com/r/nofap
    I tried nofap, it's then I went without pornography for a month but I didn't stop masturbating. I became so frustrated and gave in. But nofap is amazing, I just wish they had more content dedicated to women because I've had to alter some things since physically, I'm different to a man.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This is why I'm glad I don't know what masturbation is.. And I'm 17 :/
    You... what?
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    (Original post by whorace)
    There is a book on this? I've been working my ass off to get into the civil service when I could just write books on porn?
    Hahahaha, whorace it is truly your night on TSR!
    And yes, anyone can write a book about anything and make millions e.g. that trash 50 shades
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    (Original post by Joel 96)
    How many times, roughly, do you masturbate in a day? Just so I can get a good grasp of what we're dealing with here.
    Lol I'm scared to say. Please don't judge me guys, I know I'm anon but it's quite embarrassing. Normally it's once/twice a day depending on how I feel but after I had tried to stop, three/four times. I tried speaking to my friend about the issue this morning but I don't know how she would view me afterwards. Apparently most girls don't even masturbate daily. Me and my friends were kidding around about masturbation once- they were all like I don't see how guys can do this everyday though it feels good, that they do it like three times a week. I just kept quiet and though well, am I a guy then? Sigh.
 
 
 
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