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    Twice now I've ended up being friends with muslim guys I really liked. With the second guy, I fell hard, but he just wanted to hang out, watch netflix and go out for lunch every week and just wasn't really into me.
    There are many problems I'm facing right now. Firstly, I started uni this year (late I know) after realising I wanted to be a teacher. This means I'm surrounded by mostly younger guys. Also, I'm part of probably the smallest muslim ethnic group in the country, and as most prefer to marry their own race, it makes it hard. As I don't wear a hijab (cover my hair) I don't stand out as muslim. I'm also constantly told I don't look ethnically muslim.
    I'm lucky to have open-minded parents, who despite fasting 5 times daily, have said they wouldn't get mad if I don't marry a muslim guy (tbh I think they'd just rather not see me die alone as they know the problem I'm facing). I do however want to find a muslim guy to marry, but I'm starting to lose hope and become depressed. I turn down non-muslim guys I find attractive, but I fear I'll be alone forever
    Thanks for reading if you got this far
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    You fell hard and he didn't even check if you need medical attention? Lucky escape
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    Arranged Marriage?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Twice now I've ended up being friends with muslim guys I really liked. With the second guy, I fell hard, but he just wanted to hang out, watch netflix and go out for lunch every week and just wasn't really into me.
    There are many problems I'm facing right now. Firstly, I started uni this year (late I know) after realising I wanted to be a teacher. This means I'm surrounded by mostly younger guys. Also, I'm part of probably the smallest muslim ethnic group in the country, and as most prefer to marry their own race, it makes it hard. As I don't wear a hijab (cover my hair) I don't stand out as muslim. I'm also constantly told I don't look ethnically muslim.
    I'm lucky to have open-minded parents, who despite fasting 5 times daily, have said they wouldn't get mad if I don't marry a muslim guy (tbh I think they'd just rather not see me die alone as they know the problem I'm facing). I do however want to find a muslim guy to marry, but I'm starting to lose hope and become depressed. I turn down non-muslim guys I find attractive, but I fear I'll be alone forever
    Thanks for reading if you got this far
    Don't you mean praying?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Twice now I've ended up being friends with muslim guys I really liked. With the second guy, I fell hard, but he just wanted to hang out, watch netflix and go out for lunch every week and just wasn't really into me.
    There are many problems I'm facing right now. Firstly, I started uni this year (late I know) after realising I wanted to be a teacher. This means I'm surrounded by mostly younger guys. Also, I'm part of probably the smallest muslim ethnic group in the country, and as most prefer to marry their own race, it makes it hard. As I don't wear a hijab (cover my hair) I don't stand out as muslim. I'm also constantly told I don't look ethnically muslim.
    I'm lucky to have open-minded parents, who despite fasting 5 times daily, have said they wouldn't get mad if I don't marry a muslim guy (tbh I think they'd just rather not see me die alone as they know the problem I'm facing). I do however want to find a muslim guy to marry, but I'm starting to lose hope and become depressed. I turn down non-muslim guys I find attractive, but I fear I'll be alone forever
    Thanks for reading if you got this far
    How can you fast 5 times daily? You mean pray 5 times?
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    I'm sure you'll find someone.
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    (Original post by whorace)
    You fell hard and he didn't even check if you need medical attention? Lucky escape
    PRSOM :rofl:
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    You'll find someone; just be patient, someone will come when you least expect it .
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    (Original post by Eternalflames)
    PRSOM :rofl:
    ^^ i don't get the joke
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    (Original post by thefatone)
    ^^ i don't get the joke
    Are you serious?
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    Welcome to the club OP
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    At your age you're still young I would focus on your studies you will meet someone at the right time.
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    You'll find someone, get your family and friends to help you out
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    (Original post by Eternalflames)
    Are you serious?
    dead serious
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    (Original post by The_Internet)
    Welcome to the club OP
    I've joined this society but I still can't get laid. Is there something wrong with me?
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    (Original post by whorace)
    I've joined this society but I still can't get laid. Is there something wrong with me?
    ^ I think that's the whole point of this society
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    Maybe start wearing the hijab? You will attract the good kind of Muslim who will respect you for who you are rather than attracting men who are the non serious type. If you sincerely improve your relationship with God then he will not leaving you lacking anything. That includes finding the righteous spouse.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Twice now I've ended up being friends with muslim guys I really liked. With the second guy, I fell hard, but he just wanted to hang out, watch netflix and go out for lunch every week and just wasn't really into me.
    There are many problems I'm facing right now. Firstly, I started uni this year (late I know) after realising I wanted to be a teacher. This means I'm surrounded by mostly younger guys. Also, I'm part of probably the smallest muslim ethnic group in the country, and as most prefer to marry their own race, it makes it hard. As I don't wear a hijab (cover my hair) I don't stand out as muslim. I'm also constantly told I don't look ethnically muslim.
    I'm lucky to have open-minded parents, who despite fasting 5 times daily, have said they wouldn't get mad if I don't marry a muslim guy (tbh I think they'd just rather not see me die alone as they know the problem I'm facing). I do however want to find a muslim guy to marry, but I'm starting to lose hope and become depressed. I turn down non-muslim guys I find attractive, but I fear I'll be alone forever
    Thanks for reading if you got this far
    Which part of the country is this? Don't worry about the hijab thing and don't let anyone force or pressure you into it.

    What do you mean you're constantly told you don't look ethnically Muslim? What is your ethnicity and who are these people? Keep in mind that anyone can be a Muslim regardless of race.

    Perhaps unconventional, but have you considered Muslim dating websites? They aren't actually for 'dating', more for people looking to meet, introduce parents and eventually marry etc.

    Also you are still young. Don't let that get you down. I've already gone through the whole marriage thing and back, and I'm only a couple of years older than you - honestly, it's a relief being free for the time being.
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    (Original post by thefatone)
    dead serious
    She wrote 'I fell hard' (in love) in her OP, so whorace made a joke about her falling down and the guy not caring
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    youd probably have access to better guys if you widened your search to beyond just muslim men
 
 
 
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