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Long problem - help appreciated
Hi,
I got a bit of a thing I wanted to get some advice on.
This will be long so please bear with me.
Basically, I’m currently sitting my A levels, and have my exams coming up from next week.
I’m not stressed about them too much as I know I’ll have it sorted by then. However I still obviously need time till then to sort it out.
I’m living at home with my parents, and for the last three or so years, all I’ve been getting is constant harassment. I sit with them, but it ends up in arguing over stupidness. When I avoid it all and sit alone, I get hassled for sitting on my own and not spending time with them, but the reason I sit alone is because I’d rather not fight.
I do love my parents, and I do respect them, but they piss me off no end when I can’t get 5 minutes off without them stressing at me over nothing.
Now my dad has just bought a new car, and so that keeps getting bought up when I argue with them – the whole guilt trip; “look at what your dad’s doing for you, and you still give him no respect…”.
I do respect them, but when they start on me, it’s gotten to the point where I just can’t be bothered to listen, and just try and get my point across, but they never listen. It get’s twisted until I’m the one who’s wrong, who’s hurt them, who’s being the unsatisfactory son, when it’s their fault.
Also, my girlfriend isn’t happy with me either. E.g in preparation for giving our current car in as part exchange, I had to take out my current new speakers I’d put in and my new system, because I wasn’t going to give it. I’m not an expert at it and it took a while.
My girlfriend wanted to meet up this evening, so I said “I’ve got some stuff to do at the moment, so can’t really.” And she just got in a huff about it, even though I’m meeting her for lunch tomorrow.
I don’t get out much because my parents are rather strict, so I’ve been trying to ration my time between my girl and my mates. This just doesn’t seem good enough for her. I love her, but if I got stuff to do, I got stuff to do, and if I can’t get out, I can’t get out. Simple as. I do try my hardest, but it’s never good enough.
I had a row with her tonight, and after 45 mins I said ‘ok I’m going to go and sort it out with my parents then’ and she just got pissed off again that I was getting off the phone to her.
Tonight, I had the row with my parents, and she phoned me after it had all happened, and I tried talking to her. I tried telling her, and she just said ‘maybe I should leave you to your **** then…’ and I was left thinking I need someone to talk to right now. Instead she brought it back around to something about her.
It’s all about her, and she seems to think she’s the only with problems (which she does have in fairness), and if I ever say anything to her about her being wrong, or to pull her up on anything then her question is ‘why are you with me then if there’s so much wrong with me?’. This is just missing the point, because I do love her, but recently I just find myself asking the same question sometimes.
I mean, a relative of hers is ill at the moment, and I’m always there to talk, but it’s gotten to the stage where she feels its HER fault… I just find myself thinking – all about you again ‘int it love?
My mates called me out – a lads night, so I didn’t invite her out. In fairness she had asked me to come out with her, but I couldn’t because until last minute I wasn’t going to be able to. This was literally 10 mins before I was off out. She had **** to do as well so I thought I’ll just not bother. Boy did this bite me in the arse.
We met up for drinks about 2 days ago, where she went and got really pissed… to the point where she was puking up. Later that night, she phoned me up and started saying some really ****ed up things to me like ‘I’m cutting myself, and I’m going to stab myself while I’m on the phone to you, cause I don’t like who I am – what would you do if I died? What would you do if I stabbed myself while on the phone to you? I’ve overdosed, and I’m dying right now’. I talked to her the next day about it and she was like ‘I didn’t mean any of it; I was pissed and wanted to hurt you for going out with your lads and not inviting me.’
I just can’t deal with **** like that atm, or ever.
I told her my studying commitments, and I told her I needed to concentrate on studying at the moment, and she totally agreed, and even then I spend a good hour on the phone to her per day, and meet her 3-4 times a week – often going out of my way for only an hour or so… And we have a great time, and it’s worth it metting her, but the bad times recently just seem to be outweighing the good. If I’m ever pissed off about something I get told to get over it, whereas if it’s something she’s pissed about then I never hear the end of it.
It feels like I’m trying in vain to keep my parents and her happy. Needless to say I’m failing at both. The only peace I get is in my guitar. I don't know what I'd do without it.
I don’t know if I need advice but I guess just a hug would do…
Thanks for reading and sorry about the length.
I got a bit of a thing I wanted to get some advice on.
This will be long so please bear with me.
Basically, I’m currently sitting my A levels, and have my exams coming up from next week.
I’m not stressed about them too much as I know I’ll have it sorted by then. However I still obviously need time till then to sort it out.
I’m living at home with my parents, and for the last three or so years, all I’ve been getting is constant harassment. I sit with them, but it ends up in arguing over stupidness. When I avoid it all and sit alone, I get hassled for sitting on my own and not spending time with them, but the reason I sit alone is because I’d rather not fight.
I do love my parents, and I do respect them, but they piss me off no end when I can’t get 5 minutes off without them stressing at me over nothing.
Now my dad has just bought a new car, and so that keeps getting bought up when I argue with them – the whole guilt trip; “look at what your dad’s doing for you, and you still give him no respect…”.
I do respect them, but when they start on me, it’s gotten to the point where I just can’t be bothered to listen, and just try and get my point across, but they never listen. It get’s twisted until I’m the one who’s wrong, who’s hurt them, who’s being the unsatisfactory son, when it’s their fault.
Also, my girlfriend isn’t happy with me either. E.g in preparation for giving our current car in as part exchange, I had to take out my current new speakers I’d put in and my new system, because I wasn’t going to give it. I’m not an expert at it and it took a while.
My girlfriend wanted to meet up this evening, so I said “I’ve got some stuff to do at the moment, so can’t really.” And she just got in a huff about it, even though I’m meeting her for lunch tomorrow.
I don’t get out much because my parents are rather strict, so I’ve been trying to ration my time between my girl and my mates. This just doesn’t seem good enough for her. I love her, but if I got stuff to do, I got stuff to do, and if I can’t get out, I can’t get out. Simple as. I do try my hardest, but it’s never good enough.
I had a row with her tonight, and after 45 mins I said ‘ok I’m going to go and sort it out with my parents then’ and she just got pissed off again that I was getting off the phone to her.
Tonight, I had the row with my parents, and she phoned me after it had all happened, and I tried talking to her. I tried telling her, and she just said ‘maybe I should leave you to your **** then…’ and I was left thinking I need someone to talk to right now. Instead she brought it back around to something about her.
It’s all about her, and she seems to think she’s the only with problems (which she does have in fairness), and if I ever say anything to her about her being wrong, or to pull her up on anything then her question is ‘why are you with me then if there’s so much wrong with me?’. This is just missing the point, because I do love her, but recently I just find myself asking the same question sometimes.
I mean, a relative of hers is ill at the moment, and I’m always there to talk, but it’s gotten to the stage where she feels its HER fault… I just find myself thinking – all about you again ‘int it love?
My mates called me out – a lads night, so I didn’t invite her out. In fairness she had asked me to come out with her, but I couldn’t because until last minute I wasn’t going to be able to. This was literally 10 mins before I was off out. She had **** to do as well so I thought I’ll just not bother. Boy did this bite me in the arse.
We met up for drinks about 2 days ago, where she went and got really pissed… to the point where she was puking up. Later that night, she phoned me up and started saying some really ****ed up things to me like ‘I’m cutting myself, and I’m going to stab myself while I’m on the phone to you, cause I don’t like who I am – what would you do if I died? What would you do if I stabbed myself while on the phone to you? I’ve overdosed, and I’m dying right now’. I talked to her the next day about it and she was like ‘I didn’t mean any of it; I was pissed and wanted to hurt you for going out with your lads and not inviting me.’
I just can’t deal with **** like that atm, or ever.
I told her my studying commitments, and I told her I needed to concentrate on studying at the moment, and she totally agreed, and even then I spend a good hour on the phone to her per day, and meet her 3-4 times a week – often going out of my way for only an hour or so… And we have a great time, and it’s worth it metting her, but the bad times recently just seem to be outweighing the good. If I’m ever pissed off about something I get told to get over it, whereas if it’s something she’s pissed about then I never hear the end of it.
It feels like I’m trying in vain to keep my parents and her happy. Needless to say I’m failing at both. The only peace I get is in my guitar. I don't know what I'd do without it.
I don’t know if I need advice but I guess just a hug would do…
Thanks for reading and sorry about the length.
Reply 1
Dude, first off, sorry about all the **** going on in life.
I sometimes have the same with my parents, it's usually because they want to be involved in your life, kind of be there when you succeed or fail, but they do it to a much greater extent than that which you want. It can be hard, but you MUST tell your parents how you feel, and that you're tired of all this fighting.
Second of all, obviously your girlfriend isn't helping the situation. Saying she's overdosing, stabbing, cutting....just to get back at you for having a LADS night?? I think you know what to do....
My honest opinion, and to keep it short and direct:
1. Tell your parents you're unhappy with the way your relationship is with them.
2. Break up with your girlfriend if she won't let you have your personal time/space.
All the best mate.
I sometimes have the same with my parents, it's usually because they want to be involved in your life, kind of be there when you succeed or fail, but they do it to a much greater extent than that which you want. It can be hard, but you MUST tell your parents how you feel, and that you're tired of all this fighting.
Second of all, obviously your girlfriend isn't helping the situation. Saying she's overdosing, stabbing, cutting....just to get back at you for having a LADS night?? I think you know what to do....
My honest opinion, and to keep it short and direct:
1. Tell your parents you're unhappy with the way your relationship is with them.
2. Break up with your girlfriend if she won't let you have your personal time/space.
All the best mate.
Reply 2
I have the parent thing, although we all love each other. I'm moving away for university, hopefully, and partially it's to do with not seeing them and everyone else for a while. I feel that if I go away for a while, things will improve, and if there's some space between us, it'll be easier. The other part is that I'd love to be with the people I know near the uni I've applied for.
Perhaps a change of scenery is what you need. Cause I sure as hell need one.
Perhaps a change of scenery is what you need. Cause I sure as hell need one.
Reply 3
A change of scenery is exactly what I need. I see that happening with university, but my parents had another row at me about living out as well... So I'm getting ****ed from all angles.
TheDutchy: thanks for the luck and the rest mate.
Do you really think I need to end it with my girlfriend?
She wasn't actually cutting, she was drunk and was saying she was. She wasn't ****ed off about the fact it was a lads night - it was that she tried booking the day before, but I said no, and then ended up out with mates.
I just had a talk with my Dad, who seems to understand, but nonetheless my Mum is the one that causes most of the problems. That doesn't mean to say anything will change.
Cheers a lot
TheDutchy: thanks for the luck and the rest mate.
Do you really think I need to end it with my girlfriend?
She wasn't actually cutting, she was drunk and was saying she was. She wasn't ****ed off about the fact it was a lads night - it was that she tried booking the day before, but I said no, and then ended up out with mates.
I just had a talk with my Dad, who seems to understand, but nonetheless my Mum is the one that causes most of the problems. That doesn't mean to say anything will change.
Cheers a lot
Reply 4
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Get your dad to talk to your mum when your not in the house, she's more likely to listen to your dad than you... (i do that, tell mum who tells dad 
) Gives the parent more time to think and can't rant at you because your not around!
With the gf, you need communication for it to work, obviously she wont have a clue unless you tell her how your feeling, if she makes it about her again, you tell her its not just about her and she has to listen to you or its not working out/need a break until exams are over etc...
) Gives the parent more time to think and can't rant at you because your not around!With the gf, you need communication for it to work, obviously she wont have a clue unless you tell her how your feeling, if she makes it about her again, you tell her its not just about her and she has to listen to you or its not working out/need a break until exams are over etc...
Reply 5
Aw, you do need a hug.
I think that sometimes it's not what you say to your gf that makes her react in the way that she does, but it's how you say it. Remember that her being female, her brain works differently from yours. So in understanding how each other's minds work, you might overcome some of your problems.
For example, when you had to fix your speakers and you said to her, "I've got some stuff to do at the moment, so can't really", that reads to her: "You are not important for me right now, something else is. And I'm not even going to tell you what it is."
You could change that and say something like "I need to fix my speakers because you know that we are giving the car back, and it needs to be done today, although I would really love to meet up with you." In essence, both ways convey the same thing: you can't meet with her because you're busy, but one will give you a lot less harassment from her end.
With your parents, maybe the situation won't be solved by just changing the way you say things, but might alleviate some of the tension.
I'd expand on this but for my computer making an incessant beeping noise, much like an ambulance, and it's driving me up the wall so I'm going to shut down.
All the best, and remember, be solution-orientated, not just problem-conscious!
Zain xx
I think that sometimes it's not what you say to your gf that makes her react in the way that she does, but it's how you say it. Remember that her being female, her brain works differently from yours. So in understanding how each other's minds work, you might overcome some of your problems.
For example, when you had to fix your speakers and you said to her, "I've got some stuff to do at the moment, so can't really", that reads to her: "You are not important for me right now, something else is. And I'm not even going to tell you what it is."
You could change that and say something like "I need to fix my speakers because you know that we are giving the car back, and it needs to be done today, although I would really love to meet up with you." In essence, both ways convey the same thing: you can't meet with her because you're busy, but one will give you a lot less harassment from her end.
With your parents, maybe the situation won't be solved by just changing the way you say things, but might alleviate some of the tension.
I'd expand on this but for my computer making an incessant beeping noise, much like an ambulance, and it's driving me up the wall so I'm going to shut down.
All the best, and remember, be solution-orientated, not just problem-conscious!
Zain xx
Reply 6
Thanks for the advice so far guys.
Zain88 - I did actually tell her pretty much what you've said there! I just sorta summarised it for here. I just got off the phone to her a little while back and she was fine with me, but it's definitely not over. I don't like you girls! you're all evil! hahaha
Thing is I don't want harrassment, I want to enjoy her company, and I want us to enjoy being together rather than treating it like we're together but against each other all the time.
I'm starting to realise that I'm unable to communicate with her, probably for fear of the toys being thrown out the pram so to speak.
thanks again for the advice and support
Zain88 - I did actually tell her pretty much what you've said there! I just sorta summarised it for here. I just got off the phone to her a little while back and she was fine with me, but it's definitely not over. I don't like you girls! you're all evil! hahaha
Thing is I don't want harrassment, I want to enjoy her company, and I want us to enjoy being together rather than treating it like we're together but against each other all the time.
I'm starting to realise that I'm unable to communicate with her, probably for fear of the toys being thrown out the pram so to speak.
thanks again for the advice and support
Reply 7
Guitarman5
TheDutchy: thanks for the luck and the rest mate.
Do you really think I need to end it with my girlfriend?
She wasn't actually cutting, she was drunk and was saying she was. She wasn't ****ed off about the fact it was a lads night - it was that she tried booking the day before, but I said no, and then ended up out with mates.
I just had a talk with my Dad, who seems to understand, but nonetheless my Mum is the one that causes most of the problems. That doesn't mean to say anything will change.
Cheers a lot
Do you really think I need to end it with my girlfriend?
She wasn't actually cutting, she was drunk and was saying she was. She wasn't ****ed off about the fact it was a lads night - it was that she tried booking the day before, but I said no, and then ended up out with mates.
I just had a talk with my Dad, who seems to understand, but nonetheless my Mum is the one that causes most of the problems. That doesn't mean to say anything will change.
Cheers a lot
Ok Mate. I didn't read/know that she was drunk when she said this. Anyway, its a very odd thing to blurt out, you have to admit, saying you're gonna commit suicide and overdose/stab/"what would you feel if I died????" questions.
What I meant with the 'end it with her' part is that if she is acting THIS weirdly (there's no other word for it I think), then she needs to understand you can't live with her under these circumstances and either grant you the space YOU DESERVE (not just NEED, but DESERVE), or leave her.
I'm really glad to read that things are improving already at home. Just wondering, your mother, does she have a full/part time job herself? Anyway, let me know how things get. I am on here quite often, so just send a PM if ya want
Again mate, all WILL turn out right. You've alerted your dad, now let your girlfriend know how you feel about this too.
Reply 8
I think problems like this develop when relationships start repeating the same cycles over and over - you say something, your mum says something, you get annoyed, your mum gets annoyed and it all escalates. Seeing as you know you don't want this to happen any more you need to break the cycle by changing the way you deal with situations.
Don't get annoyed, just stay calm and stick to your guns - be reasonable and rational and keeping stating your point of view until your mum can't ignore it anymore - force her to respect you by not backing down. I used to have a terrible time with my sister until I decided to just switch off from her attempts to get at me - it really worked and it's taken years but we're slowly rebuilding our relationship and we're even thinking of living together when I move to Dublin in July! That would never have happened a few years ago. I realised by staying calm why she was actually behaving the way she was (she was a bit jealous and wanted my attention) so I stopped giving her attention by getting mad and instead ignored her bad comments and took an interest in her life and it's made a huge difference.
I think in these situations if you really want to change them you have to decide to be the bigger person, even if it is really difficult to keep your cool and take the criticism with a smile. Often when people get annoyed it's actually other things that are bothering them - insecurity, worry, a feeling of helplessness, and it takes a bit of time to see past the **** what's really going on. It's important to remember that your parents are people with insecurities like everyone else and they sometimes need a little reassurance and someone to listen to them. Try being a friend rather than an enemy.
As for the girlfriend situation, that's a little tougher. She's obviously deeply, deeply insecure and does not trust your feelings for her at all - that's why she has threatened to commit suicide etc., to make you "prove" that you love her. You have to decide whether you're going to put up with that sort of behaviour but you have to realise that it make take a long time to stop or change (in fact it may never change). I think the main thing is not to rise to her threats, if she talks about cutting or anything in future call her bluff - either ignore it (which is the harder but more effective option) or hang up and call an ambulance to her house. She needs to realise that she can't make empty threats like that. She seems very self-centred and immature and it can be very hard to have a relationship with someone like that, so you need to figure out whether you're willing to take the flak or not. The really sad thing is, by trying to make you prove you love her, she's only pushing you away.
Don't get annoyed, just stay calm and stick to your guns - be reasonable and rational and keeping stating your point of view until your mum can't ignore it anymore - force her to respect you by not backing down. I used to have a terrible time with my sister until I decided to just switch off from her attempts to get at me - it really worked and it's taken years but we're slowly rebuilding our relationship and we're even thinking of living together when I move to Dublin in July! That would never have happened a few years ago. I realised by staying calm why she was actually behaving the way she was (she was a bit jealous and wanted my attention) so I stopped giving her attention by getting mad and instead ignored her bad comments and took an interest in her life and it's made a huge difference.
I think in these situations if you really want to change them you have to decide to be the bigger person, even if it is really difficult to keep your cool and take the criticism with a smile. Often when people get annoyed it's actually other things that are bothering them - insecurity, worry, a feeling of helplessness, and it takes a bit of time to see past the **** what's really going on. It's important to remember that your parents are people with insecurities like everyone else and they sometimes need a little reassurance and someone to listen to them. Try being a friend rather than an enemy.
As for the girlfriend situation, that's a little tougher. She's obviously deeply, deeply insecure and does not trust your feelings for her at all - that's why she has threatened to commit suicide etc., to make you "prove" that you love her. You have to decide whether you're going to put up with that sort of behaviour but you have to realise that it make take a long time to stop or change (in fact it may never change). I think the main thing is not to rise to her threats, if she talks about cutting or anything in future call her bluff - either ignore it (which is the harder but more effective option) or hang up and call an ambulance to her house. She needs to realise that she can't make empty threats like that. She seems very self-centred and immature and it can be very hard to have a relationship with someone like that, so you need to figure out whether you're willing to take the flak or not. The really sad thing is, by trying to make you prove you love her, she's only pushing you away.
Reply 9
If I were you, I would leave your girlfriend. Preferably before your exams as you don't want her to stress you out any more. She sounds like an emo to me. It is people like her who stop those genuinely in need from getting help.
Sorry to be so judgemental, but I know what it is like to feel suicidal and I know that when I get that bad I need help but because of people like your girlfriend I am too ashamed to ask.
Sorry to be so judgemental, but I know what it is like to feel suicidal and I know that when I get that bad I need help but because of people like your girlfriend I am too ashamed to ask.
Reply 10
You have all been fantastic.
I'm going to have to do something - maybe talk it through with her.
She has got a lot of **** going on her end, which makes me feel extra guilty for wanting out of the relationship, because I don't know what shes capable of. She has self harmed in the past, and shes left home before, she got abused by her ex, her aunt is very ill at the moment, and I don't want to be another let down/**** up in her life. What/how should I do?
My heartfelt thanks to you all for your advice and support.
Guitarman5
xx
I'm going to have to do something - maybe talk it through with her.
She has got a lot of **** going on her end, which makes me feel extra guilty for wanting out of the relationship, because I don't know what shes capable of. She has self harmed in the past, and shes left home before, she got abused by her ex, her aunt is very ill at the moment, and I don't want to be another let down/**** up in her life. What/how should I do?
My heartfelt thanks to you all for your advice and support.
Guitarman5
xx
Reply 11
Probably best to talk it through with her. I'm sorry I called her an emo earlier, but I just heard self harm and suicide being thrown about when people described her. I didn't realise that she actually had issues but I would definitely talk to her and make sure she understands how you are feeling. Good luck.
Reply 12
Guys, she just broke up with me.
Her aunty was really ill - given 24hrs by docs, and she told me about 6ish, and about 9:30 she died. I put my phone down for a bit at 9ish - she couldn't get through to me, and said I'd let her down in a big way, and she'd never get over it, so she broke up with me.
Her aunty was really ill - given 24hrs by docs, and she told me about 6ish, and about 9:30 she died. I put my phone down for a bit at 9ish - she couldn't get through to me, and said I'd let her down in a big way, and she'd never get over it, so she broke up with me.
Reply 13
15
Guitarman5
The only peace I get is in my guitar. I don't know what I'd do without it.
Agreed.
Reply 14
16
Guitarman5
Guys, she just broke up with me.
Her aunty was really ill - given 24hrs by docs, and she told me about 6ish, and about 9:30 she died. I put my phone down for a bit at 9ish - she couldn't get through to me, and said I'd let her down in a big way, and she'd never get over it, so she broke up with me.
Her aunty was really ill - given 24hrs by docs, and she told me about 6ish, and about 9:30 she died. I put my phone down for a bit at 9ish - she couldn't get through to me, and said I'd let her down in a big way, and she'd never get over it, so she broke up with me.
Are you okay with that?
Chin-up.
Reply 15
Guitarman5
Guys, she just broke up with me.
Her aunty was really ill - given 24hrs by docs, and she told me about 6ish, and about 9:30 she died. I put my phone down for a bit at 9ish - she couldn't get through to me, and said I'd let her down in a big way, and she'd never get over it, so she broke up with me.
Her aunty was really ill - given 24hrs by docs, and she told me about 6ish, and about 9:30 she died. I put my phone down for a bit at 9ish - she couldn't get through to me, and said I'd let her down in a big way, and she'd never get over it, so she broke up with me.
Hey,
I was just reading through the posts. How are you feeling? It didn't sound like your relationship was going to well, but it didn't seem like you wanted it to end either...
*sends hug*
I hope things will start to look up.
Reply 16
I'm in shock really... I know I was wrong for not having my phone on me when she needed me most, but I can't help but think that I only left it for about 2 hours when i was watching a film, so I can't be blamed for it.
I just don't want to have to think about anything... I've got a ****ing exam on monday as well
Sigh.
Yeah it has had it's ups and downs this last month or so, and before that as well there have been some things that have pissed me off but I've ended up leaving them be, and not kicking up a fuss for want of an easy life.
Now her and all her family think I'm scum because of this misdemeanour.
I just don't want to have to think about anything... I've got a ****ing exam on monday as well
Sigh.
Yeah it has had it's ups and downs this last month or so, and before that as well there have been some things that have pissed me off but I've ended up leaving them be, and not kicking up a fuss for want of an easy life.
Now her and all her family think I'm scum because of this misdemeanour.
Reply 17
Guitarman5
Guys, she just broke up with me.
Her aunty was really ill - given 24hrs by docs, and she told me about 6ish, and about 9:30 she died. I put my phone down for a bit at 9ish - she couldn't get through to me, and said I'd let her down in a big way, and she'd never get over it, so she broke up with me.
Her aunty was really ill - given 24hrs by docs, and she told me about 6ish, and about 9:30 she died. I put my phone down for a bit at 9ish - she couldn't get through to me, and said I'd let her down in a big way, and she'd never get over it, so she broke up with me.
Probably for the best, mate!!
It sounds to me like she was just looking for an excuse to get rid, I mean the threatening you on the phone, moaning at you with regards to the speakers!!
Her expectations were just miles away from anything that is realistic!!
RIP for her Aunt!!
However, it's totally not your fault... I'd leave it and see what she says!! I'd say she's expecting you to beg her to go back out with her - don't give her the satisfaction!!
Reply 18
Sorry to bring this thread up again, it's just that she just rang me trying to talk to me.
She wanted to ring to tell me that her aunties funeral is tomorow, and then I said 'oh ok... how are you?', and she just launched into another tirade about how I don't care. I'm guessing this is because I never rang her after she broke up with me to find out how she is, but wtf?
I don't get this girl at all... She tells me not to ring then gets pissed when I don't...
I don't really have any point to this, I just wanted to let it out.
Thanks guys.
She wanted to ring to tell me that her aunties funeral is tomorow, and then I said 'oh ok... how are you?', and she just launched into another tirade about how I don't care. I'm guessing this is because I never rang her after she broke up with me to find out how she is, but wtf?
I don't get this girl at all... She tells me not to ring then gets pissed when I don't...
I don't really have any point to this, I just wanted to let it out.
Thanks guys.
Reply 19
Hey,
Was just wondering how it is all going, are you feeling any better? Hope you're exam went ok.
Was just wondering how it is all going, are you feeling any better? Hope you're exam went ok.
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