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    I've had a pretty bad relapse into bulimia and I recently had an initial consultation with the counselling services at my uni. To cut a long story short he basically said I was too severe for their service to handle and he wrote a letter to my GP basically saying she would have to deal with it. I've been referred to a specialist eating disorder centre but the problem is there is a huge waiting list and by time I get any support my exams etc will be over and I will probably be home for the summer so it's going to be too late to help me for this academic year.

    I'm considering dropping out as I can't cope and there seems to be no way out. Please, can anyone offer me any advice? I feel really let down and rejected. I wasn't expecting the uni counselling to be the cure but I was hoping it would take the edge off a little so I can continue to focus on my studies.
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    Hi!

    Firstly i can't offer you much advice as i know little about the condition and even less about Uni-support services. But what i can say is do what you feel is the most healthy option for you. And by healthy i'm not talking about your grades or anything superficial like that. I'm talking about your physical and mental state and ensuring that it is safeguarded by making the right decisions.

    Also i would recommend getting more information about the specialist centre and possible time-frames, and if the waiting time is going to be too long then ask the NHS if there are any alternatives. Also are there any societies/talking-places where you can speak to people suffering from similar issues? When i had depression i found it incredibly handy to be speaking to those who had an experience with depression as well because we could share coping mechanisms and so on.

    Obviously though bulimia is separate to depression but i hope my post is somewhat helpful.

    Best of luck and make the decision that is best for you as a person.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've had a pretty bad relapse into bulimia and I recently had an initial consultation with the counselling services at my uni. To cut a long story short he basically said I was too severe for their service to handle and he wrote a letter to my GP basically saying she would have to deal with it. I've been referred to a specialist eating disorder centre but the problem is there is a huge waiting list and by time I get any support my exams etc will be over and I will probably be home for the summer so it's going to be too late to help me for this academic year.

    I'm considering dropping out as I can't cope and there seems to be no way out. Please, can anyone offer me any advice? I feel really let down and rejected. I wasn't expecting the uni counselling to be the cure but I was hoping it would take the edge off a little so I can continue to focus on my studies.
    I think it's awful when you're told that you are too severe for a particular service - the people in charge don't seem to understand that even a bit of help would be better than nothing at all. I'm sorry you've been given this response.

    Have you spoken to the disability service at your university? They can sometimes advise on the help available to you, either professional help or things to do with your uni work that might ease the pressure on you. I'm sorry I can't be of more help to you - I found myself in trouble early on at uni and ultimately ended up dropping out because I had to save myself. I hope you manage to access some help soon.
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    I'm really sorry to hear that! I suffer with disordered eating and depression so I understand, to some extent, what you're going through.

    If you feel like you cant cope with uni at the moment than you should drop out. Your mental health is more important than your education. You can always restart your education once you've recovered and feel like you have more control, which I know is a long process.
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    Yeah, it's crap and I'm sorry to hear that you are going through this. Unfortunately that's the way mental health services are.

    I can only think of two other solutions. One is look to go privately. Many private therapists offer reduced rates for students or those who are hard up. Although you'll still be lucky to find someone for less than £40/hour.

    The second is to look for charities offering free counselling. Ones specific to eating disorders do exist, particularly in large cities, but can be hard to locate. It's worth searching online or possibly looking on the BEAT website.

    Other than that, try to lean on friends (if possible), try to look after yourself and hold on in there.
 
 
 
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