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    So I started my first year at university last September, to start with I found it really difficult being away from my family, friends and home in general, and this has carried on. I haven't made many real friends and spend most of my time exercising or on my own in my room/the library studying.

    I was reassured by everyone that I'd settle in and that things would get better, and there are random weeks where I'll feel good and relatively happy. However whenever I come back to university after some time at home I feel down again.

    I am a guy so don't feel like I can open up to anyone properly, even though I am very close to my family and friends back at home.

    Does anyone have any tips for how I can deal with this, I am thinking I might not be ready for the whole university experience and should try again in a few years?
    Any advice is appreciated. :-)
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    From my personal experience in university, I only made friends in my final year when I was just myself and being the helpful person I used to be in school (but without being a doormat).

    You can actually try too hard to make friends and it could come across as desperate. When I had the mindset that I had to make friends at uni, I ended up getting burned. But when I was just "let it be" and my natural self, people started to respect me more.

    So, just be yourself, study with some of your peers occasionally (this is a great way to make friends) and have fun.
 
 
 
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