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Arrgh - Mothers!

my mother is really melting my mind now! she is so p*&^%$£ me off

we have been having a bit of an on going argument about me wearing corsets (sorry to mention again as its already in another post). So she has just got home, I'm sat in my room doing some work and she can't even say hello, or how was your day. Straight away she just gets straight on my case and we are now not speaking again. Okay - yes - I am wearing one of my corsets, but I havent been wearing it all day , but oh no she doesnt believe me. Like I would wear a corset to 6th form. Okay I'm wearing one now and okay I'm still wearing my uniform, but I put it on at my boyfriends this afternoon AFTER we have finished 6th form so I've only been wearing it for a few hours...The lack of trust is not appreciated. I dont want to back down on this as I don't see the issue. But on the other hand things are getting to an all time betwen us..

Arrrggh

Reply 1

milly.

12

If you don't see the issue then why not back down just to stop the arguing?

Reply 2

PinkMobilePhone

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wow I wish that were the worst of my problems with my mother.

What doesn't she like about you wearing a corset?

Why do you feel the need to wear corsets at all?

Are you talking about the kind of corsets that you can wear as a top for a night out clubbing, or are you talking about the kind that victorians used to wear under their clothes to make them have very pinched waists?

Reply 3

xatm092

Especially if you already have a boyfriend, she can't think you're just trying to look tarty for the boys.

How strange :-?

Reply 4

yellow96

15

Maybe her problem is with the thought of you removing your uniform and putting on a corset over your boyfriend's house..

Reply 5

alicejb

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PinkMobilePhone

wow I wish that were the worst of my problems with my mother.

What doesn't she like about you wearing a corset?

Why do you feel the need to wear corsets at all?

Are you talking about the kind of corsets that you can wear as a top for a night out clubbing, or are you talking about the kind that victorians used to wear under their clothes to make them have very pinched waists?

She thinks they are bad for me because they are proper corsets with boning and that they are too tight. I just wear them because I like them, I like the look and how they made me feel.

Reply 6

alicejb

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Thelfo

Maybe her problem is with the thought of you removing your uniform and putting on a corset over your boyfriend's house..

Never really thought of it that way. Have been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now so its not like she doesnt know we do stuff. She's never said anything about it in those terms, it is just she doesn't like me wearing corsets as she thinks I they are too tight and bad for me. Got me wondering now...though I can't see it would be that...

Reply 7

libertin

*sighs*, mums. Can't live with them, wouldn't want to live without them. :smile:

Reply 8

high priestess fnord

9

monsumo

*sighs*, mums. Can't live with them, wouldn't want to live without them. :smile:

i disagree, i am quite happy living with my bf and doing my own washing thank you very much.

Reply 9

libertin

high priestess fnord

i disagree, i am quite happy living with my bf and doing my own washing thank you very much.

Well I didn't necessary mean under the same roof. But it's nice to know (for me anyways) that your mum is always there when you need her. But then I'm a mummy's boy at heart. :wink:

Reply 10

General Mullet

How could this happen to meeeee

Reply 11

PinkMobilePhone

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alicejb

it is just she doesn't like me wearing corsets as she thinks I they are too tight and bad for me.

She's probably right. The women that wore corsets in the olden days did so much damage to themselves by having them too tight.
She clearly doesn't want you to damage your internal organs....she obviously cares about her...take her advice and don't wear them, or at least loosen them somewhat. Your health is more important than vanity.

Reply 12

alicejb

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PinkMobilePhone

She's probably right. The women that wore corsets in the olden days did so much damage to themselves by having them too tight.
She clearly doesn't want you to damage your internal organs....she obviously cares about her...take her advice and don't wear them, or at least loosen them somewhat. Your health is more important than vanity.

I can get that, but I don't wear them all the time, only a few hours each day and even then not everyday, and okay 2 of my corsets go to 18" which is a bit small, but I don't wear them everyday. The one I'm wearing now is 20" and my natural waist is 24/25" so thats not a massive reduction.

Reply 13

Alasdair

14

Seriously, if your mother being worried about you ****ing up your internal organs is your biggest problem with her, you're golden...

Reply 14

Ywiss

15

Hey, I know it's hard to appreciate when you're angry with your mother, but she really just wants the best for you. They did a lot of research on the effects of corsets and it's now established that they do a lot of harm if someone wears them long-term. And I know that you only wear them for a couple of hours, etc, but you've got to understand the background behind it - in your grandmother's day ladies were expected to have tiny waists, and those who didn't got a lot of flak. Your mother's day would have been much more enlightened as they were told that they didn't have to have tiny waists - everyone accepted that everyone had normal shaped waists. So can you see that, by wearing corsets, to your mother it may seem as if you're almost reverting to a time which was more repressed? It's a tender issue; it might seem ridiculous to you, but it really was the attitude at the time.

It's like your daughter coming home and saying that she's decided not to go to uni because only boys go to uni, that sort of thing. I know it may seem a bit in-depth, but this is perhaps how your mother is feeling right now.

Anyway, hope you work things out together!

Reply 15

PinkMobilePhone

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alicejb

I can get that, but I don't wear them all the time, only a few hours each day and even then not everyday, and okay 2 of my corsets go to 18" which is a bit small, but I don't wear them everyday. The one I'm wearing now is 20" and my natural waist is 24/25" so thats not a massive reduction.

See now this is why you're never going to resolve the issue with your mother.
She's worried about your innards, whereas you think it's all fine.

Sorry I can't help you then.

Reply 16

alicejb

OP

Ywiss

Hey, I know it's hard to appreciate when you're angry with your mother, but she really just wants the best for you. They did a lot of research on the effects of corsets and it's now established that they do a lot of harm if someone wears them long-term. And I know that you only wear them for a couple of hours, etc, but you've got to understand the background behind it - in your grandmother's day ladies were expected to have tiny waists, and those who didn't got a lot of flak. Your mother's day would have been much more enlightened as they were told that they didn't have to have tiny waists - everyone accepted that everyone had normal shaped waists. So can you see that, by wearing corsets, to your mother it may seem as if you're almost reverting to a time which was more repressed? It's a tender issue; it might seem ridiculous to you, but it really was the attitude at the time.

It's like your daughter coming home and saying that she's decided not to go to uni because only boys go to uni, that sort of thing. I know it may seem a bit in-depth, but this is perhaps how your mother is feeling right now.

Anyway, hope you work things out together!

Hey thanx....thanx for putting a different view on it. I guess there are other views other than mine!

Reply 17

she

16

how the hell do you get enough money to buy corsets? Sorry but you are mad for wearing them. And if it's pocket money your parents are mad for giving you that much.

This has got to be the strangest problem ever.