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I really don't understand him

Me & my ex broke up YEARS ago now, and we've been friends ever since. He moved away and so did I, so now we're miles and miles apart. I'm at university and he's working abroad. We're very close and don't usually fight, but recently I became involved with a friend of mine sexually and since then me and my ex have been arguing non-stop. In our last blazing argument he said I didn't appreciate him or understand him and that I'm more loyal to the guy I've been sleeping with than I am to him, and that I'm trying intentionally to hurt his feelings by what I've been doing. I HONESTLY am not, but he doesn't believe me, and now he's been acting really moody and I don't understand why. He has a really stressful job so I try to give him a break when I can and always try to listen to him and help him out, so I'm feeling really hurt that he's said all this stuff to me. What can I do to sort this out?!

Reply 1

dh00001

sounds like he thinks theres still something between you. hes not really got any reason to go off like that. if youve broken up then you can be more loyal to the new guy.

Reply 2

antbello

Yeah seems like he still has feelings for you. He also probably feels threatened by this new bloke, and might be scared you will be less close because of him. Perhaps he just needs reassuring that your friendship with him won't be affected by your new relationship.

Reply 3

libertin

You need to make clear that you two aren't dating anymore. And that you are perfectly within your rights to be loyal and have a relationship with someone else if you want. Don't be a pushover and stand for his constant bullying, tell him to shut up and put up or clear off.