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Do you still stay in touch with old School Friends when at University?

Honestly speaking, for most people, do you really? Even with the "Best" ones? Or do you drift and get closer to fellow University Students, since you live with them and have more in common with them?

What happens? I wish I could see the future...

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Reply 1

blone_bomb

Iv found that i have stayed in contact with people but only the ones i actually care about. When your home for holidays and stuff though its really nice to catch up with people properly. Its really nice actually to not see all the people that really pissed you of at school for 7 years. Its more like you get two seperate groups of friends at uni and home. Everyone understands that they're different and have different strenghs. There are things you could only tell uni or home people.

Reply 2

la fille danse

I haven't stayed in contact with anyone.

Reply 3

Lizj

I'm still in regular contact with about 10 of my old school friends. In fact I would say my old school friends are still closer to me than my new uni ones. As someone above said, they are two separate lives and two separate groups of people.
I try hard to stay in touch, especially with the ones I have known since we were about 13 or 14. If you lose touch with them all you have no one to spend time with in the holidays, which last a long time.
It's so easy to stay in touch if you want to with MSN and texts.

Facebook!

more adventurous

I haven't stayed in contact with anyone.

same here... they've changed loads and my Uni mates are ten times better.

Screwed at the end of Uni tho !

Reply 6

CorpusNinja

Time pressures + Laziness = Only a handful

Reply 7

randdom

I am still in regular contact with a few of my friend from home i wouldn't say a lot. Managed to get about 10 people for my birthday at christmas and to be honest i don't really care about the others.

Reply 8

*soph*

I'm in contact with quite a few from school and college. You do lose contact with some but the ones that I really care about, I've found that I've become closer to since leaving.

Reply 9

thatwhichiam

I still count my best friend from school as my best friend, but because we're both living different lives now, it might not be so for much longer. I have stayed in contact with some of them, but many I just didn't speak to, even some of my close friends.
This time next year I'll be closer to my uni friends.

Reply 10

arsenalfan.

Usually my best friends, the rest I let them "drift" away.

Reply 11

bewithoutyou

I'm about to graduate from uni and am still in regular contact with a group of about 10 friends from school, and when we're all back in the holidays we arrange group meals and pub trips and so on, sometimes with other groups that various people have maintained contact with. In fact, about 25 of us went out for someone's birthday at Christmas and it felt like being back in 6th form :rolleyes:

If you want to keep in touch, texts, e-mails and Facebook make it very easy. Out of that group, there's probably only about 3 that I keep in touch with on a more personal basis, but that's totally out of choice.

What I will say is that with the exception of one or two people, I'm not nearly as bothered about that group as I used to be. I have changed a lot since I've been at university, and the friends I've met here are much more in touch with my life, my interests and my aspirations. No doubt the friends that I'll make when I leave here and start work will be even more so. Some of my old friends haven't changed at all and others have had the same experience I have; but as you grow, you move on, and it's not always a bad thing. Your old friends are important but your new friends are too, so enjoy making them :smile:

Reply 12

sssh

I didn't have many close friends, who I had a lot in common with, at school, so it might be different to what you're asking, but I haven't really kept in contact with many people from school. The girl who was probably my closest female friend has gone to Nottingham and I speak to her on msn and facebook from time to time and see her when I go out, but we're in different friendship groups really. Which is fine, and I see her and my old friends when I go back in the holidays. My best friend in sixth form was probably my boyfriend, and if we speak now it's a bit weird (we split up in January), though he does email me occasionally.

When I'm back at home and people meet up, they're usually going into town at night, so I don't see them that much during the holidays. The friend from home I had the most in common with moved to Devon a few years ago, and I keep in touch with her more than I do the people I knew until sixth form.

I guess what happens is, when you're at uni you don't have to bother making conversation with the friends you only had because they were in your social group anymore. It sounds a bit mean, but uni is like a 'filter' in that sense. At uni you tend to make really good friends with the people you have things in common with and who are more like you, whereas at home, you made friends with those people years ago, and perhaps don't have so much in common anymore.

If you're worried about losing your friends, OP, I think you'll find that when you go back in the holidays everything is pretty much the same as before, except you'll have a whole new, extra group of friends to look forward to seeing when you go back to uni.

Reply 13

Altocirrus

I made some great friends at school over the years and have stayed in touch with most of them. On the other hand, I can't imagine staying in touch with anyone I've met at uni so far :frown:

Reply 14

*Claire*

I still keep in regular contact with one of my best friends from sixth form. My other close friends I speak to less but still meet up with each holiday & go visit each other occasionally. The only thing is I think some of my friends will stay in their uni towns after uni which I think will make it harder to stay in contact.

Reply 15

Tomber

I'm still very close with a set of my school friends, even though I don't see them that often, I stay at their house in Leeds when I'm on my way to/from Leicester. I have a group of friends from my home town whom I didn't go to school with and i'm closer with them then I am with school or uni friends.

Reply 16

Higgy

As i live at home still i went to my local uni most of my mates from school either went away to uni or never went. The ones who stayed and are in jobs etc i still go out with more than my uni mates i still think i have more in common with them. My mates who went to uni never make any effort to stay in touch with me even though i try to. When i do see them though i feel as if i have nothing in common with them anymore so the conversation is just dead.

Reply 17

icedsilhouette

To be honest, my school friends are my real friends. I have a coupla 'friends' at uni, but I never really clicked with anyone on my course or that I met. And tbh, I'm perfectly happy that way, because my school friends have known me better and will always be there for me, and I know that! They understand me and I can feel completely comfortable with them, which is worth more to me that trying to 'fit in' with all my coursemates.

Reply 18

mousey

I'm still extrememly close to my friends. I go and visit them sometimes at their unis for birthdays etc and when we're home we see eachother a lot. Even people who are in my extendedgroup and not my closest friends i see a lot when i'm home. We'll always be in town on student night just like we used to. Really nice to go back and catch up with everyone. I don't really understand how people lose touch with their friends from home, who do you see when you're back there? My housemates are great but we don't have the history that me and my school friends do. Living with people for a couple of years vs knowing people since you were 11 is quite different. xx

Reply 19

Segat1

I stayed in touch with the ones I really cared about. Now the whole bloody group have discovered facebook and keep sending me inane questions about when I am moving back to Australia. NEVER!!