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Facebook - surely this shouldnt be so much of an issue?!
Hey, this may sound like a really stupid problem but I'd appreciate advice anyway. Basically, how seriously do people take Facebook? When I first signed up about a year ago I put that I was "Engaged" to my best mate as a joke in the relationship status. I kept it like that for a few months then decided it was getting a bit old so I changed it to In A Relationship with my boyfriend.
My best friend (who I was previously 'engaged' to) has taken this quite badly and seems really upset about it. She says I've more or less put my boyfriend over her. Is it normal to take Facebook this seriously?? I've tried telling her its only an online thing but shes being really off with me. She goes to a uni about 2 hrs away from me as well so I cant even see her to chat with her!
Help! What should I do? Shes making me feel a bit guilty over something as trivial as facebook lol
My best friend (who I was previously 'engaged' to) has taken this quite badly and seems really upset about it. She says I've more or less put my boyfriend over her. Is it normal to take Facebook this seriously?? I've tried telling her its only an online thing but shes being really off with me. She goes to a uni about 2 hrs away from me as well so I cant even see her to chat with her!
Help! What should I do? Shes making me feel a bit guilty over something as trivial as facebook lol
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Reply 2
[lol]Is it just that time of the month or something?[/lol]
Facebook truly is trivial. If she needs some words on a screen to confirm your friendship, then someone, somewhere has made a glaring error.
Facebook truly is trivial. If she needs some words on a screen to confirm your friendship, then someone, somewhere has made a glaring error.
Reply 3
Ok, she's definatlely over-reacting, but I would say that it suggests that she's worried you're gonna put your boyfriend above her at some point. It doesn't sound to me like facebook is really the issue as far as she's concerned. Perhaps have a little chat with her, write her an email or a letter or something?
Reply 5
hahahahahaha.... that's just funny!! no, your friend really SHOULDN'T be taking this so seriously.
mayeb your friend's been feeling a bit left out already and your changing of 'relationship status' may have just coincided with a day when she felt you were choosing your boyfriend over her in REAL LIFE and therefore took it out on you using facebook as the reason..
my advice: just talk to her about it. getting angry over something so insignificant seems infantile and stupid. xx
mayeb your friend's been feeling a bit left out already and your changing of 'relationship status' may have just coincided with a day when she felt you were choosing your boyfriend over her in REAL LIFE and therefore took it out on you using facebook as the reason..
my advice: just talk to her about it. getting angry over something so insignificant seems infantile and stupid. xx
Reply 6
Icedsilhouette is right I think...this must mean she had some underlying issues before and maybe wat you did confirmed her suspicions or smthing like that! x
Reply 8
Talya
Anyway, people who put engaged or married as a joke are stupid, it's good you got rid of it!
*whistles innocently*
My friend who I am allegedly married to wouldn't kick up a fuss if I got a bf, and I don't see that in itself it's a big problem. I agree with the others, she probably had some issues about you putting your boyfriend first before and this is the last straw.
Reply 9
Find a new friend, because this one is clearly a cretin of the highest order.
Reply 10
She's overeacting but i do find that most of my arguements with friends or problems with ex's happen because of facebook/myspace which is just really stupid.
Just put something in your profile to reassure her and make her seem ridiculous at the same time, e.g.:
"Public Announcement: I would like to say that xxx is still a most valued and cherished individual in my life, even though I have now changed my relationship status. So xxx, you can stop crying now
"
You see? A joke with a hidden warning to her (i.e. you are quite capable of telling everyone how silly she's being) while at the same time, giving her a chance to snap out of her sulk without losing face - she could, feasibly, then pretend that she was just "mock-sulking" and wasn't really serious, etc.
Or, if you're a bit more upset with her, say something like "So xxx, you can stop sulking now" - just to make it uber-clear to everyone else that she was the one who made a fuss about it.
You're not in the wrong here, just remember that, she's acting too over-sensitive and demanding. Though I agree with Talya that it's irritating when people write "Married" or "Engaged" in their profiles.
"Public Announcement: I would like to say that xxx is still a most valued and cherished individual in my life, even though I have now changed my relationship status. So xxx, you can stop crying now
"You see? A joke with a hidden warning to her (i.e. you are quite capable of telling everyone how silly she's being) while at the same time, giving her a chance to snap out of her sulk without losing face - she could, feasibly, then pretend that she was just "mock-sulking" and wasn't really serious, etc.
Or, if you're a bit more upset with her, say something like "So xxx, you can stop sulking now
" - just to make it uber-clear to everyone else that she was the one who made a fuss about it.You're not in the wrong here, just remember that, she's acting too over-sensitive and demanding. Though I agree with Talya that it's irritating when people write "Married" or "Engaged" in their profiles.
Reply 13
I'd be a bit worried by your friend, she don't prefer girls does she?
Reply 14
It's only FaceBook... Anyone who takes it serious should be neutered or something...maybe a little extreme but I stick by it.
Ywiss
Just put something in your profile to reassure her and make her seem ridiculous at the same time, e.g.:
"Public Announcement: I would like to say that xxx is still a most valued and cherished individual in my life, even though I have now changed my relationship status. So xxx, you can stop crying now"
You see? A joke with a hidden warning to her (i.e. you are quite capable of telling everyone how silly she's being) while at the same time, giving her a chance to snap out of her sulk without losing face - she could, feasibly, then pretend that she was just "mock-sulking" and wasn't really serious, etc.
Or, if you're a bit more upset with her, say something like "So xxx, you can stop sulking now" - just to make it uber-clear to everyone else that she was the one who made a fuss about it.
You're not in the wrong here, just remember that, she's acting too over-sensitive and demanding. Though I agree with Talya that it's irritating when people write "Married" or "Engaged" in their profiles.
"Public Announcement: I would like to say that xxx is still a most valued and cherished individual in my life, even though I have now changed my relationship status. So xxx, you can stop crying now
"You see? A joke with a hidden warning to her (i.e. you are quite capable of telling everyone how silly she's being) while at the same time, giving her a chance to snap out of her sulk without losing face - she could, feasibly, then pretend that she was just "mock-sulking" and wasn't really serious, etc.
Or, if you're a bit more upset with her, say something like "So xxx, you can stop sulking now
" - just to make it uber-clear to everyone else that she was the one who made a fuss about it.You're not in the wrong here, just remember that, she's acting too over-sensitive and demanding. Though I agree with Talya that it's irritating when people write "Married" or "Engaged" in their profiles.
I wouldn't do that, why add fuel to the fire when she's already upset? It's a private issue and making it public will probably cause even more hassle.
Reply 16
Meh. My boyfriend's married to a guy on Facebook, so I put that I'm in an open relationship just to wind him up. Your friend's overreacting, it's not an issue.
Reply 17
um just wondering, is your friend under 5 years of age? that would explain a lot.
Reply 18
Your friend is taking this far too seriosuly, she needs to grow up. It's only Facebook. I expect she'd kick up a fuss if she wasn't on your Top 8 on MySpace, or was second to your boyfriend.
Reply 19
Talya
What a weird girl.. It's not putting your bf above her..
Anyway, people who put engaged or married as a joke are stupid, it's good you got rid of it!
Anyway, people who put engaged or married as a joke are stupid, it's good you got rid of it!
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