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How do I handle a guy who hurt me? watch


    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Sorry for the late reply.

    To update my situation I am in contact with him again so the "break" is over. To summarise this guy used me as rebound. A girl broke his heart and he was completely devastated. He told me what happened and I attempted to comfort him but things got out of hand and he ended up using me sexually and as an emotional crutch. I thought I could handle it and tried to keep myself emotionally detached to some degree but obviously that didn't work.

    He's not the spiteful type; he either did not mean to hurt me and did not realise he was or was just indifferent to it. Now whenever I talk to him all I can think about is how he used to hurt me daily by giving me detailed information about his relationship with this other girl, how he will never love anyone like her and how amazing she is. Now he claims to have moved on and is happy and enjoying life again, which is good but I'm feeling bitter that he more or less crushed me to get to that stage. He claims to have feelings for me and that I am one of the few people he can confide in but my bitterness overwhelmes me too much to have any positive thoughts or feelings about it.

    I just worry about hurting him by cutting contact for good just when he is starting to feel good about life again. But I don't know if our friendship (or whatever you can call our relationship) can be repaired.
    Can you PM me please. I have had a similar experience and I think I could give you some advice, just it is personal so I don't want to talk about it publicly.
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    (Original post by Blondie987)
    Fight fight fight!
    Lol this did give me a bit of amusement.
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