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    (Original post by georgiaswift)
    Just because you've known him for 20 years it does not make his sex life your business. He's happy with her so suck it up and deal with it. if you don't want to date a prostitute then don't but he's happy to and there was literally no reason for you to make a thread about it. Grow up and stop involving yourself in other people's love lives.
    No one is involving themselves in his love life, we are actually actively avoiding the issue and distancing ourselves.
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    (Original post by moggis)
    Fwiw,I used to visit a very very well endowed,intelligent,well-spoken woman in her twenties who used her spectacular chest as an easy way to make an extra £20,000-£30,000 a year or so a couple of days a week.

    This woman had a boyfriend and I have not the slightest doubt whatsoever that many single men on this site would happily have been that boyfriend (all other things being equal).

    She told me she wouldn't give oral to a client even for £10,000 so that needn't be an issue.If an escort has a boyfriend she's obviously very likely to be extra cautious in more ways than one.

    (Sadly she gave up the job a few years ago or else I'd still be seeing her but her giant firm mammaries still appear regularly in my dreams.)

    Because many men on this site are ****ing desperate? Take it this way, if you could date normally and not be desperate... why on Earth would you choose a prostitute.?
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    (Original post by James.Carnell)
    No one is involving themselves in his love life, we are actually actively avoiding the issue and distancing ourselves.
    Well then why are you even making this thread? If you're going to lengths to avoid the issue and you're not mentioning it to him then this thread is completely irrelevant.
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    (Original post by georgiaswift)
    Well then why are you even making this thread? If you're going to lengths to avoid the issue and you're not mentioning it to him then this thread is completely irrelevant.
    Because I need to vent.
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    What they said. It's not your business. It may be a mistake, but it's his mistake to make. Or it may be a really good thing.

    Even if she does enjoy the sex sometimes, so effing what? There's a difference between sex for cash and relationship sex.
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    (Original post by unprinted)
    What they said. It's not your business. It may be a mistake, but it's his mistake to make. Or it may be a really good thing.

    Even if she does enjoy the sex sometimes, so effing what? There's a difference between sex for cash and relationship sex.

    I needed to vent. And I don't know what it is about this forum, but in everyday life his choice gets ridiculed.
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    Let me get this straight.

    Your friend is dating someone who, regardless of what you think of it, is doing something legal, and is buying them a house? Why should you have an issue with that if he doesn't? If people are honest and open and this is what they agreed to, it's not your place to judge or condemn. If they're not using or mistreating each other, their relationship is none of your business.

    She isn't worth any less because of what she does. Her value any worth as a human being isn't diminished by being a prostitute.
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    (Original post by Withengar)
    Let me get this straight.

    Your friend is dating someone who, regardless of what you think of it, is doing something legal, and is buying them a house? Why should you have an issue with that if he doesn't? If people are honest and open and this is what they agreed to, it's not your place to judge or condemn. If they're not using or mistreating each other, their relationship is none of your business.

    She isn't worth any less because of what she does. Her value any worth as a human being isn't diminished by being a prostitute.
    It's not our business. But we have a right to judge. So, with that said, **** him.
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    (Original post by James.Carnell)
    I needed to vent. And I don't know what it is about this forum, but in everyday life his choice gets ridiculed.
    I agree with you OP it's pretty gross. If I were to post a thread saying my boyfriend was a pimp or a drug dealer and is buying me a house with the dirty money I doubt people would be all lovey dovey and liberal about it. Prostitution is trendy and empowering, after all!

    I'm surprised no one has mentioned STD exposure here either.
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    (Original post by georgiaswift)
    Just because you've known him for 20 years it does not make his sex life your business. He's happy with her so suck it up and deal with it. if you don't want to date a prostitute then don't but he's happy to and there was literally no reason for you to make a thread about it. Grow up and stop involving yourself in other people's love lives.
    (Original post by georgiaswift)
    Well then why are you even making this thread? If you're going to lengths to avoid the issue and you're not mentioning it to him then this thread is completely irrelevant.
    Uhm actually - no. He can create a thread and discuss whatever topic he wants. I think the better question is - why the **** are you here if you have nothing to contribute? God you're like a child.
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    (Original post by BioStudentx)
    Uhm actually - no. He can create a thread and discuss whatever topic he wants. I think the better question is - why the **** are you here if you have nothing to contribute? God you're like a child.
    Just ignore her, she does that, she goes on threads telling people what they can talk about. She is stasi-esque.
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    I agree with you OP it's pretty gross. If I were to post a thread saying my boyfriend was a pimp or a drug dealer and is buying me a house with the dirty money I doubt people would be all lovey dovey and liberal about it. Prostitution is trendy and empowering, after all!

    I'm surprised no one has mentioned STD exposure here either.
    I think regarding the STD thing prostitutes are pretty safe as they take precautions. I am not sure about the prevalence of them catching something if they give uncovered oral sex though, but none of my business... that's just science.

    I think people would say that the pimp/drug dealer forced people to do things they didn't want to do. But, most of the time they really don't, people do these things out of their own free will.
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    (Original post by moggis)
    Fwiw,I used to visit a very very well endowed,intelligent,well-spoken woman in her twenties who used her spectacular chest as an easy way to make an extra £20,000-£30,000 a year or so a couple of days a week.

    This woman had a boyfriend and I have not the slightest doubt whatsoever that many single men on this site would happily have been that boyfriend (all other things being equal).

    She told me she wouldn't give oral to a client even for £10,000 so that needn't be an issue.If an 'escort' has a boyfriend she's obviously very likely to be extra cautious in more ways than one.

    (Sadly she gave up the job a few years ago or else I'd still be seeing her but her giant firm mammaries still appear regularly in my dreams.)
    really? Just because you are clearly a sucker for big breasts doesn't mean other men would actually want to commit to something that has been passed around for coins.
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    Whilst her pussy froths with bacterial infection and some might question the gapingness of her slit, at least one can rest assured she can give amazing handie joes.
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    (Original post by BioStudentx)
    Uhm actually - no. He can create a thread and discuss whatever topic he wants. I think the better question is - why the **** are you here if you have nothing to contribute? God you're like a child.
    No need to be passive aggressive. I just didn't understand why he made the thread if he didn't want to get involved in the scenario. He has since explained that he made the thread because he was confused about it all and just wanted to vent, which I accept and so I left the thread alone. My contribution was that he should leave his mate to it and let him be happy, which he says he is doing, and so I stopped contributing.

    (Original post by James.Carnell)
    Just ignore her, she does that, she goes on threads telling people what they can talk about. She is stasi-esque.
    I don't go on threads and tell people what the can talk about, I just didn't understand why you made the thread if you didn't want to get involved. Once you explained that you just wanted to vent I understood so I left it alone. Strange that you're comparing that to a secret police agency but whatever

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    (Original post by georgiaswift)
    No need to be passive aggressive. I just didn't understand why he made the thread if he didn't want to get involved in the scenario. He has since explained that he made the thread because he was confused about it all and just wanted to vent, which I accept and so I left the thread alone. My contribution was that he should leave his mate to it and let him be happy, which he says he is doing, and so I stopped contributing.



    I don't go on threads and tell people what the can talk about, I just didn't understand why you made the thread if you didn't want to get involved. Once you explained that you just wanted to vent I understood so I left it alone. Strange that you're comparing that to a secret police agency but whatever

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    Because I want to vent. The thread is my Freud.
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    (Original post by James.Carnell)
    I think regarding the STD thing prostitutes are pretty safe as they take precautions. I am not sure about the prevalence of them catching something if they give uncovered oral sex though, but none of my business... that's just science.

    I think people would say that the pimp/drug dealer forced people to do things they didn't want to do. But, most of the time they really don't, people do these things out of their own free will.
    Sorry, very naive there about the STDs. Condoms can't protect against many of them, and you don't know where your clients have been and they hold no loyality to you and have no responsibility or accountability for your safety. No doubt she will sleep with hundreds if not thousands of men in her career.
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    Whilst her pussy froths with bacterial infection and some might question the gapingness of her slit, at least one can rest assured she can give amazing handie joes.
    Oh for ****s sake. :puke:

    Good point though, condoms don't protect from fungal infections afaik.
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    (Original post by georgiaswift)
    No need to be passive aggressive. I just didn't understand why he made the thread if he didn't want to get involved in the scenario. He has since explained that he made the thread because he was confused about it all and just wanted to vent, which I accept and so I left the thread alone. My contribution was that he should leave his mate to it and let him be happy, which he says he is doing, and so I stopped contributing.



    I don't go on threads and tell people what the can talk about, I just didn't understand why you made the thread if you didn't want to get involved. Once you explained that you just wanted to vent I understood so I left it alone. Strange that you're comparing that to a secret police agency but whatever

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    So instead of asking him why he made the thread and pointing out it's "irrelevant" could you have not limited your contribution to: 'you should be happy for your friend and support him no matter what?'

    On a side note OP it's completely disgusting that he's dating a prostitute and I'd be equally confused if my best friend did the same.
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    (Original post by BioStudentx)
    So instead of asking him why he made the thread and pointing out it's "irrelevant" could you have not limited your contribution to: 'you should be happy for your friend and support him no matter what?'

    On a side note OP it's completely disgusting that he's dating a prostitute and I'd be equally confused if my best friend did the same.
    Tbf I did point out that he should just let his friend be happy. I do understand the OP to some extent as I personally wouldn't want to date a prostitute - I prefer monogamous sex. But if one of my friends wanted to I'd be fine with that, as long as they were happy.
 
 
 
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