How much time do you spend alone at uni?

Hey guys,
I'm wondering whether it's normal to spend a lot of time alone at uni, both during the day and in the eve. I do go out about twice a week and have a small cluster of friends but sometimes i can go for whole days without seeing people :s-smilie:

Anyone else? Or am I alone in this respect too?

Reply 1

Shmish

everyone's different in how much time they like to themselves. Some people are social butterflies, and flit from one set of people to another whereas other people are more like....erm.....some other type of animal and like their own space. I dont think there's any right or wrong answer, as long as you're happy!

But if you're feeling lonely or want to spend more time with people, then make the effort to talk to people more or go out more

Reply 2

Apricot Fairy

16

Not this year, but last year it used to happen occasionally. Ironically I spent more time alone when I was in halls than I do in my house. But that was mainly because my hall was a bit rubbish. Now I'm living in a house about 2 minutes from lectures and I rarely go a day without one of my friends dropping in for a cup of tea. Also I was single for the whole of first year, whereas I've been in a relationship for most of second year, so when I'm bored I tend to just go over to my boyfriend's house.

Reply 3

crema

9

Well, you are supposed to study on occasions...

I spend a fair bit alone at uni. I am not living in halls and it just seems like such an effort to organize something with other people in my course. During the evenings I do society stuff and I also spend most of the weekends at my boyfriends. Consequently I don't go out much, and when I do I usually go out with people I've met outside university circles. I like it though, I appreciate my own company =)

Reply 4

tehjonny

8

I don't go out more than once or twice.

Do you enjoy being alone? If you do, you've nothing to worry about. Don't feel like you HAVE to go and socialise.

They're all bastards anyways :p:

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Reply 5

TheLameMonkey

I regret not going out more and making myself socially available at uni.

Granted, I never really had the money to do so and that was my primary reason for not doing so, but nonetheless its a bit depressing that when I left uni I only really had a single friend...

If you're worried you spend too much time alone at uni, then join a society and meet some new people. You're the only person who can help you :smile:

Reply 6

national

11

Has anyone gone to Uni and found nobody they got on with?

Reply 7

noisette1

OP

tehjonny

I don't go out more than once or twice.

Do you enjoy being alone? If you do, you've nothing to worry about. Don't feel like you HAVE to go and socialise.

They're all bastards anyways :p:

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Heheh, I like you :p:

Yeah, I do enjoy my own company but sometimes it seems like I'm the only person who ever does anything alone.

TheLameMonkey

If you're worried you spend too much time alone at uni, then join a society and meet some new people. You're the only person who can help you

I've just joined a society committee which will be keeping me quite busy. Whether or not I'm in need of 'help' as such is something I'm trying to work out. If it's quite normal o lead such a solitary existence then I have no complaints. :smile:

Reply 8

national

11

A lot of people are just solitary creatures by nature.
There's nothing wrong with it in the slightest.
Some people just can't understand that some people genuinely enjoy being on their own sometimes :smile:

Reply 9

noisette1

OP

Classic, Theodore.

A lot of people are just solitary creatures by nature.
There's nothing wrong with it in the slightest.
Some people just can't understand that some people genuinely enjoy being on their own sometimes :smile:

I know, and we're made to feel like freaks for it. Though to be fair I'd say I spend a lot of time alone :smile:

I'm reminded of it by living in a hall where the loud people talk all day and all night...i swear they don't actually sleep like human beings! Perhaps they're aliens :rolleyes:

either way i wish they'd shut up on occasion. How noisy are your halls?

Reply 10

mizfissy815

12

Something tells me I'll be the same in September...

Reply 11

Vincente

14

What university are you at? Because I heard its quite common for London students.

Reply 12

Ollie87

1

i spend all my time alone. no one likes me here. they say i act weird and i have a funny face.

Reply 13

Wise One

11

noisette1

Hey guys,
I'm wondering whether it's normal to spend a lot of time alone at uni, both during the day and in the eve. I do go out about twice a week and have a small cluster of friends but sometimes i can go for whole days without seeing people :s-smilie:

Anyone else? Or am I alone in this respect too?

It's got to the point where I only leave the house to buy ready meals, am developing a tramp beard, and have almost *literally* no conception of dates or times except in relation to my essay deadline.

Mind you, that's just this time of year. :biggrin:

Reply 14

national

11

noisette1

I know, and we're made to feel like freaks for it. Though to be fair I'd say I spend a lot of time alone :smile:

I'm reminded of it by living in a hall where the loud people talk all day and all night...i swear they don't actually sleep like human beings! Perhaps they're aliens :rolleyes:

either way i wish they'd shut up on occasion. How noisy are your halls?

I'm not at Uni yet, I'm starting in September :smile:

The only thing I'm worried about is meeting people...
In my school, I don't have friends that I actually like. I have friends that I've learnt to accept. I wouldn't fight to stay in contact with them after I leave - that sounds like a dreadful thing to say, but I'm afraid it's true. I come from a very small village and I've known everyone here since Nursery and they're just not my kind of people.
I'm worried that I'm just a bit of a misanthrope and I'll go to University and realise that all friends are like that, they're all a bit irritating and you have to fake getting along with them.
I've built University up to be this great place where I'll meet people that I can genuinely like and enjoy spending time with but I'm worried I'll be disappointed.

Reply 15

Pippak

10

Try not to worry. At uni there are literally thousands of people for you to meet - in your year at school there don't seem to be many at all. Chances are that out of thousands of people you'll meet some with similar interests who will be your friends.

Remember that at first everyone's in the same boat of being alone and scared. That makes it really easy to talk to new people, even if they're not freshers. Lots of my mates just randomly talk to everyone we meet now, even if it's little old ladies at bus stops or people who smile at you in the street.

University is what you make of it. You could spend all your time in your room and find that you don't know many people, or you could join every society around, realise that you don't have time for sleep let alone lectures yet you're having the time of your life. If I was to do it all again I'd probably aim for more of the second: I love being busy but finding the time to eat is important!

Reply 16

Ywiss

15

Classic, Theodore.

I'm not at Uni yet, I'm starting in September :smile:

The only thing I'm worried about is meeting people...
In my school, I don't have friends that I actually like. I have friends that I've learnt to accept. I wouldn't fight to stay in contact with them after I leave - that sounds like a dreadful thing to say, but I'm afraid it's true. I come from a very small village and I've known everyone here since Nursery and they're just not my kind of people.
I'm worried that I'm just a bit of a misanthrope and I'll go to University and realise that all friends are like that, they're all a bit irritating and you have to fake getting along with them.
I've built University up to be this great place where I'll meet people that I can genuinely like and enjoy spending time with but I'm worried I'll be disappointed.

I don't think any friend will be the perfect friend - because they're not you, there will always be things about them which annoy you! Just like there are things about you which annoy them. But I'm sure that at uni, you'll find friends whose company you can appreciate - it's a pretty big place, after all - and also, at school, you're sort of thrown together in a way. You just happen to live in the same place - and sometimes you're lucky and find a group of really, really nice people, and sometimes you're less lucky. At university you can pick and choose a bit more, through going to societies, etc - and everyone's more mature anyway.

From what I've seen of you on here, I think you'd be a really cool person to know :biggrin:

Reply 17

kellywood_5

17

You'll be fine. At uni there are loads of new people to meet and loads of clubs and societies to join, so you can easily meet people who share your interests. I used to spend pretty much every night alone in my room at home, but that was mainly because I hate clubbing and I don't drink, which is pretty much all most of my friends did. At uni this year, I joined the debating society, which gets me out 2 nights a week, and because I've found people I get on really well with (and am living with next year, yay!) who aren't into going out and getting smashed constantly either, we have at least one night a week where we just stay in and watch DVDs or something. At the same time, I tend to spend at least 2 nights a week alone in my room, but I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I'm just not that outgoing and I prefer my own company sometimes.

Reply 18

OzzyD

It's a bit of a mix for me really. Sometimes it good to have friends and colleagues around, and other times I just wanna be left alone.

I would go on but I'm in a lecture at the mo, and it's coming to an end.

Reply 19

noisette1

OP

kellywood_5

You'll be fine. At uni there are loads of new people to meet and loads of clubs and societies to join, so you can easily meet people who share your interests. I used to spend pretty much every night alone in my room at home, but that was mainly because I hate clubbing and I don't drink, which is pretty much all most of my friends did. At uni this year, I joined the debating society, which gets me out 2 nights a week, and because I've found people I get on really well with (and am living with next year, yay!) who aren't into going out and getting smashed constantly either, we have at least one night a week where we just stay in and watch DVDs or something. At the same time, I tend to spend at least 2 nights a week alone in my room, but I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I'm just not that outgoing and I prefer my own company sometimes.

As it happens I'm at exeter too :smile:

I'm not a huge fan of clubbing either, (arena was enough to put me off-it smells of feet :p:

) You sound quite similar to me. I'm hoping things will be better when I move into a house next year. Atm I don't like being stuck on a corridor with noisy people :rolleyes:

How much time do you spend alone at uni?

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