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    Ever since I began living on my own (something most 21 year olds would kill for) I've become a downward spiral.

    Circumstances at the time meant (with my Dad's help) I'd be getting onto the property ladder and have my own flat with my then girlfriend. I couldn't have been more happier at the time. I was in a decent paid job, my own place and my first love. I was happy.

    However, 6 months living together it quickly became sudden me and my ex weren't working out. We tried and tried, broke up and got back together and after I dumped her again she finally had enough and didn't come back after I pleaded.

    So there I began the single life living on my own and after the break up a lot of things became clear. The biggest was the fact I had no friends. This alone was tough. I would work all week then literally sit in all weekend, by Sunday night I was so depressed that I didn't do anything. I'd visit my family now and then but there's only so much you can do.

    As the months went on I 'thankfully' started becoming close to my brothers friends as we went to festivals together and there's 1 I'd consider a true friend now. He comes round now and then and it takes some of my loneliness away.

    Fast forwarding a little I met a girl online around 12 months ago and we hit it off great. I felt happy again. I even had friends this time round too! She didn't move in but she stayed an awful lot, so I was hardly ever on my own.
    Unfortunately, as time went on I realized I didn't actually like her as much as I first thought, it was just the sheer fact she was fantastic company that overshadowed it all. I tried to block it out, but had to break up with her as I found this was completely unfair on her.

    So here I am now. Back to square one. For a guy of 23 I never thought I would feel so awful at this period of my life. I actually quit my job last November to take on a day job (no shifts thank god) but I've moved into another field I dislike and cannot see myself continuing. I felt so bad Sunday night I decided I was going to take this week off work.

    I don't know where the answer is. I'm so lazy when it comes to going out and socializing. I avoid any situation I can when it comes to meeting new people and avoid going out altogether during busy times. I'm not one for going to nightclubs and getting smashed and I can't hold down a hobby/interest.

    I'm actually in the period of SELLING my flat now as I've literally had enough. I've told my family I'm planning on taking a working visa to Australia, but the more I think of it is this the answer? I'm worried I'm going to get over there and miss home too much and want to come back.

    Sorry for rambling, but I really would appreciate any words. In a nutshell, my career, my relationships and my general happiness is buried.
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    This sounds like a really tough situation, it's not as uncommon as you might think though. Have you seen your GP about how you've been feeling at all? That would be a very good start- you could well be suffering from depression or something similar and they're the bed people for helping you deal with it. I'd also say, hard as it is try and get out and see or meet people where you can. I know it's the last thing you feel like doing right now, it is for me too, but honestly isolating yourself ony makes things worse in the long run. Even if it's just saying hi to someone on facebook occasionally or talking to people on here it's a lot better than nothing! If ou can I'd say join a local sports club, band or whatever to meet people through but obviously that's a lot harder to do and it depends what you're interested in anyway.

    As a more general thing, break things down into smaller chunks and work out what you want to work on first, be it trying to meet people or looking for a new job or whatever. Hopefully gradually things will get better for you and become a bit more manageable. I really would recommend seeing your GP though if you can, they can do the most to help you.


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    Your clearly not happy where you are, I would say definitely go to Australia it would be an experience and if you dont like it you can easily go home but at least you would know what it was like. Also if you go travelling say to Australia there's always loads of people that are around your age doing the same thing as you. It would be an opportunity to socialise with people but not having to go out and get wasted.. You might get home sick and not like it or you might love it and get a whole new perspective on life..
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    This sounds like a really tough situation, it's not as uncommon as you might think though. Have you seen your GP about how you've been feeling at all? That would be a very good start- you could well be suffering from depression or something similar and they're the bed people for helping you deal with it. I'd also say, hard as it is try and get out and see or meet people where you can. I know it's the last thing you feel like doing right now, it is for me too, but honestly isolating yourself ony makes things worse in the long run. Even if it's just saying hi to someone on facebook occasionally or talking to people on here it's a lot better than nothing! If ou can I'd say join a local sports club, band or whatever to meet people through but obviously that's a lot harder to do and it depends what you're interested in anyway.

    As a more general thing, break things down into smaller chunks and work out what you want to work on first, be it trying to meet people or looking for a new job or whatever. Hopefully gradually things will get better for you and become a bit more manageable. I really would recommend seeing your GP though if you can, they can do the most to help you.


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    Your clearly not happy where you are, I would say definitely go to Australia it would be an experience and if you dont like it you can easily go home but at least you would know what it was like. Also if you go travelling say to Australia there's always loads of people that are around your age doing the same thing as you. It would be an opportunity to socialise with people but not having to go out and get wasted.. You might get home sick and not like it or you might love it and get a whole new perspective on life..
    Apologies on the late reply but I really appreciate both your words. I'm starting to gain a bit of perspective of where I want to go short time in my life and at the moment I believe taking a bit of time out, travelling a little could be the right thing. But then again, I could get really homesick but atleast I tried. Better to do this than look back in 10-20 years and say, 'it's too late now, I wish I'd done it'.
 
 
 
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