what are the signs?

someone is going to break up with you.? i know it sounds really obvious but my bf and i have been together over a year and its been amazing, something happened between us and he says he still loves me but keeps being really quiet and hardly talking to me on the phone, yet being close while i'm there. I think we both feel really weird but im not sure if really hes just taking the time to break it to me gently :frown:

Reply 1

Agrippina

15

I don't think one can really generalise to say what the signs are that someone is going to break up with you, because it varies tremendously according to the person involved. If they're not behaving normally it might not necessarily indicate that they're going to break up with you. You should just try asking him if everything's ok, because bottling it up and getting worried will make things worse in the long run and anyway, it might turn out that it's nothing to do with you!

Reply 2

gRaDiUs

hmmmm, just saw your pic, and if he breaks up with you, he's obviously silly and gay and theres nothing you can do :tongue:

bottom line, don't worry about it! you'll do your head in trying to look for signs etc!

Reply 3

40550

2

Becoming distanced and appearing not to enjoy your company as much as they used to. Ask him whats up, there might be something else on his mind and not kicking you to the curb

Reply 4

lovechunnel

those are the signs. if he doesnt want to talk to you why should you bother talking to him. get rid of him and go for some new bloke. it won't be as hard as you think

Reply 5

pumpkin7

13

i don't think there are signs.. my ex just said it out of the blue one day... i still don't fully understand the reasons, but i do know that he is way too immature for a proper relationship.

Reply 6

little_em

OP

1

i agree maybe there are sometimes no signs, i just hate it when i ask him, and i get a blank look or no response, and another time its all sweet talk!
what is a girl sposed to do!!

Reply 7

Yellowmarshmellow

He could be just going through a faze, talk to him about it and see what's going on and if he is ok :smile:

Reply 8

khil

15

Instead of second guessing and doing your head in worrying, how about the simple way - go and have a word with him about it! Ask him what's wrong. For all you know, it could be other personal reasons troubling him, or if he's going to break up with you, it's better to do it now than to leave it hanging like that. (mind you, maybe he wants to break up with you due to uni/whatever, but doesn't want to affect your exams so he's gonna leave it til after?)

As for signs - it all depends on how good you are with reading people, how perceptive etc. I remember my relationship was going terrifically well (still is) and over Easter last year, I spent the month crying on and off wondering if my bf loved me - and I told myself, no it's just paranoia, so get yourself together! A month into term following the hols, he broke up with me and later I found out he'd been contemplating it all Easter hol. So my apparent "sixth sense" was obviously accurate, I just didn't know it.

Luckily for me, we got back together after 2 months and we're still going strong :biggrin:

Reply 9

theredsox

15

I'll tell you what the signs are.
Being ignored completely for 2 weeks.
Then being dumped by text.
That tends to be quite obvious :smile:

(I'm not still bitter...really!)

Reply 10

spacecowgirl89

1

pumpkin7

i don't think there are signs.. my ex just said it out of the blue one day... i still don't fully understand the reasons, but i do know that he is way too immature for a proper relationship.

I agree. My ex broke up with me completely out of the blue and knocked me for six. We'd been getting on okay and he'd even been saying to people he'd missed me the night before (at our prom) and looked upset...there isn't a sure fire way of telling. I still don't fully understand the reason either, he just said he fell out of love with me - fair enough! :p:

Reply 11

Wez

14

theredsox

I'll tell you what the signs are.
Being ignored completely for 2 weeks.
Then being dumped by text.
That tends to be quite obvious :smile:

(I'm not still bitter...really!)

If you're going to go to full way and ignore someone for 2 weeks before dumping them, I think you should at least put in the effort for some spectacular dumpage, given all the tension you've built up. Like hiring a plane with one of those signs saying "YOU’RE DUMPED" or something suitably moronic but amusing.

If this were a book, the critics would be pissed off at the anti-climactic ending.

Reply 12

theredsox

15

I was pissed off regardless. But yes, I'm sure you're right :smile:

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