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    I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks now and we get on really well. We both like each other and have cuddled/ held hands etc.
    A few days ago he said to me not to tell anyone about our 'relationship' not even my best friend. This immediately sent red flags, however I don't feel like he is embarrassed of me because his profile picture is of me and him, he compliments me/ calls me beautiful, posts pictures of us together on snapchat and he also said that he was going to tell HIS friends about us.

    I was just wondering if I should be concerned about something like this, or if it is too soon into the relationship to tell. Any advice would be much appreciated
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    Ask him why?
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    I agree with the above poster. Ask him why.

    it would send red flags to me too.

    Depending on what answer you get you're going to have to decide for yourself whether you think the answer is good enough and whether you are comfortable keeping this a secret or not.

    I personally would end it because I don't have time to be pandering to anyone's need to keep their relationships a secret and making my life harder. But that's just me.
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    Asking is probably the logical thing to do . I just wouldn't want to ask over text so I have a whole day to wait and worry about this. Thanks
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks now and we get on really well. We both like each other and have cuddled/ held hands etc.
    A few days ago he said to me not to tell anyone about our 'relationship' not even my best friend. This immediately sent red flags, however I don't feel like he is embarrassed of me because his profile picture is of me and him, he compliments me/ calls me beautiful, posts pictures of us together on snapchat and he also said that he was going to tell HIS friends about us.

    I was just wondering if I should be concerned about something like this, or if it is too soon into the relationship to tell. Any advice would be much appreciated
    Probably just too corny and he doesn't want people to gossip. If he tells his mates, they might be quiet about it (but most time guys gossip too). BUT TO BE HONEST YOU GUYS ARE ALL SO YOUNG you won't "get it" until you are at least 25-30. Then you move past all this ********.
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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    I agree with the above poster. Ask him why.

    it would send red flags to me too.

    Depending on what answer you get you're going to have to decide for yourself whether you think the answer is good enough and whether you are comfortable keeping this a secret or not.

    I personally would end it because I don't have time to be pandering to anyone's need to keep their relationships a secret and making my lie harder. But that's just me.
    Relationships are for insecure people, who use it to bring stability to their lives. True courage is trusting your partner even in an open relationship or not needing a relationship at all, but still feeling deep connection with another person. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Why do you need to LABEL it a relationship?
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    Sex, we generally just want sex. Even if we don't believe it ourselves, we want sex. Can't fight it.
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    (Original post by Jimib5863)
    Relationships are for insecure people, who use it to bring stability to their lives. True courage is trusting your partner even in an open relationship or not needing a relationship at all, but still feeling deep connection with another person. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Why do you need to LABEL it a relationship?
    Not everyone wants the same thing as you, deal with it.
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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    Not everyone wants the same thing as you, deal with it.
    You are ordinary.
 
 
 
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