He's not attractive, does drugs, and doesn't care about me. But I still want him :(

And you cannot make a positive change to a man who don't wanna be changed. Lol. Find someone who will be worth your time and love. Xx

Please help set me free TSR people and talk some sense into me!

So basically I've been suffering unrequited feelings with someone for a while now. I don't get many guys interested in me or pursuing me and at one point I thought this guy who later became my friend liked me. I got really excited about it and ended up falling for him pretty hard. The irony is it seems he never liked me in the first place, so I'm just a fool really

He made it clear that he doesn't feel the same but I find it hard to let go. A big reason why I think I feel this way is because it hurts me that he numbs himself with drugs and alcohol, and cheap sexual thrills. I don't want to see him completely go off of the rails and I'm scared. Something pretty bad happened to him earlier in life which is why I feel he uses this stuff to try and fill the void. I just wish he would give me a chance to help him and look after him. I really do feel I can make a positive difference for him.

I've tried to create some distance but I still think about him a lot and find myself crying sometimes. There's no reason I should hang on, and yet I do. I guess part of me believes I can still save him.

So what I can do?

Agreed.

Dump his arse OP

He's already got a mother. Actually he probably doesn't.

Waste of space, good for nothing of a man lmao

Please help set me free TSR people and talk some sense into me!

So basically I've been suffering unrequited feelings with someone for a while now. I don't get many guys interested in me or pursuing me and at one point I thought this guy who later became my friend liked me. I got really excited about it and ended up falling for him pretty hard. The irony is it seems he never liked me in the first place, so I'm just a fool really

He made it clear that he doesn't feel the same but I find it hard to let go. A big reason why I think I feel this way is because it hurts me that he numbs himself with drugs and alcohol, and cheap sexual thrills. I don't want to see him completely go off of the rails and I'm scared. Something pretty bad happened to him earlier in life which is why I feel he uses this stuff to try and fill the void. I just wish he would give me a chance to help him and look after him. I really do feel I can make a positive difference for him.

I've tried to create some distance but I still think about him a lot and find myself crying sometimes. There's no reason I should hang on, and yet I do. I guess part of me believes I can still save him.

So what I can do?

Please help set me free TSR people and talk some sense into me!

So basically I've been suffering unrequited feelings with someone for a while now. I don't get many guys interested in me or pursuing me and at one point I thought this guy who later became my friend liked me. I got really excited about it and ended up falling for him pretty hard. The irony is it seems he never liked me in the first place, so I'm just a fool really

He made it clear that he doesn't feel the same but I find it hard to let go. A big reason why I think I feel this way is because it hurts me that he numbs himself with drugs and alcohol, and cheap sexual thrills. I don't want to see him completely go off of the rails and I'm scared. Something pretty bad happened to him earlier in life which is why I feel he uses this stuff to try and fill the void. I just wish he would give me a chance to help him and look after him. I really do feel I can make a positive difference for him.

I've tried to create some distance but I still think about him a lot and find myself crying sometimes. There's no reason I should hang on, and yet I do. I guess part of me believes I can still save him.

So what I can do?

It sounds like you might be lacking in self confidence and so are validating yourself by allowing yourself to be led on by a possible interest from someone else, I think you do know that trying to go anywhere with this guy or pursuing him would be a bad idea, not least of all because of his situation but you said that you don't get a lot of attention from guys which could be affecting your self esteem. I would recommend distancing yourself and allowing yourself time and support to get to a point where you know how valuable you are and that you don't need someone else to tell you you're attractive, you will definitely find someone with whom you can have a long, fulfilling and happy relationship but first you need to find out how to respect and support yourself

I agree I'm lacking in self confidence. When I thought he liked me I was just so overwhelmed by a bit of attention Yeah I think I need to come back to me for a little while, and then find someone who actually appreciates me I've let go of the prospect of us every being together, I'm just finding it hard to watch him circling the drain with these drugs and cheap sex.

Sums up a lot of men tbh