Can't do anything right...

the coffee just topped things off! when you're feeling s*** already it takes the smallest thing to push you over the edge don't it?

sorry that things aren't going well for you at the moment.

but yeah i've had some pretty rough patches with my parents (over seemingly trivial things when i look back). but try not to let it drag you down. they're family at the end of the day and more often than not you'll all end up pulling through.

you could try talking to them, explaining how much it upset you when they just dismissed your long term bf. and perhaps just try turning down the clothes or something as a compromise?

hope you get sorted hunnie! x

Try and sit your dad down so that you two can talk. You deserve to know why he has a problem with your boyfriend, even more so if it seems to have come out of the blue. It seems rather odd that he would be fine with him one minute and the next he saying he is a bad influence. Try and speak to him about it and see how things go, it's the best you can do really. You are both adults, I don't see why you two can't sit down and have a chat about it.

Your mum and your corset, well like I said in the other thread, she just cares about you, that's all. You know what parents are like, they are protective of you, they only want what's best for you.

Sorry to hear you are having a bit of a rubbish week, i'm sure things will pick up so don't let it get you down!

It's pretty simple, pet. You think it's a good idea to wear corsets day in day out despite the potential health risks. Your parents don't. (Your dad might not be so vocal on the issue, but I can guarantee your mum is bending his ear about the subject every night and he's siding with her.)

You're not going to change their mind. Neither are they.

Having tried and failed to get you to see some sense, your parents are now shifting the blame onto your boyfriend. Might not be the best thing to do, but what else can they do? You've point blank refused to see their point of view, so hey, if they can't control their daughter, must be some sort of bad influence. Who's a key figure in her life right now, outside of the family? The boyfriend. Yup, it's got to be the boyfriend. All his fault. Obviously.

If you don't compromise about the corset issue, nothing is going to get any better. I appreciate the above might sound a bit harsh, but as an outsider looking in, it's the honest truth. Your parents are wrong to make your boyfriend the scapegoat, but you've pushed them to it. Try to understand their point of view, and offer to wear corsets less often. (I'd say stop altogether, but I know that's not going to happen.)

Sympathy hugs for feeling down, though.

Thanx for the hugs! Feeling mega sorry for myself this week. Dad didnt mention the corset thing in the same 'little chat' but I guess you might be right. I think he may have read something into mum telling him that I'd said I'd put the corset on at my boyfriends house as well and then worn it under my uniform. Arrghh - I have given wearing corsets a long thought and I guess I did start wearing them for my boyfriend as he loves them (in fact I hated them at first and just did it for him) but do like them myself now. But I think on balance its time to certainly wear them less.....

I'm fairly sure your parents are blaming your boyfriend for you doing something they don't want you to (wearing the corsets) so if you make a point of not wearing them as often, given a bit of time, I think they'll go back to treating your boyfriend like normal. If he hasn't done anything to upset them per se, it's going to be a case of them just blaming him for the corset thing, not anything more serious.

Corsets can look gorgeous, but you're right, there is definitely a balance to strike. Proper corsets are more for special events, than every day usage. There's a reason why the Victorian ladies weren't a healthy bunch.

Nevermind, the weekend's nearly here - things are bound to pick up for you soon!