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im going out with a girl that i have pined after for 5ish years and 2 years ago we finally got 2gether and it was the best thing in my life. we had a great time but now its turned really stale. i love her to bits but shes change and become distant. if i feel we have a problem and ask her about it and if she would like to talk about it she justs shrugs and sais its not a big deal when it is to me. i dont want to bad mouth her because i do love her but for example we have stopped having sex regurlaly atal maybe once a week or two and she sais shes not interested in sex anymore, she has a phobia about her body so i asked if she wanted me to help her get over it slowly but she just said she dont care. i still havnt seen her body after 2 years and shes slowly becoming more and more obsessed with getting pregnant. im so confuzed i am devoted to her but i cant make up my mind if i can sacrifice somthing that i need to keep a happy healthy relationship. am i being a jackass?
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do you think her issues are personal or to do with you? To me it sounds like she's really insecure and has low self esteem, like you haven't seen her body after 2 years? do u have sex in the dark or something?
I know some girls who are really ashamed of their bodies and refuse to let their boyfriend go near them ever, it usually a self-image problem, not because she doesn't like you anymore.
I know some girls who are really ashamed of their bodies and refuse to let their boyfriend go near them ever, it usually a self-image problem, not because she doesn't like you anymore.
You need to seriously talk to her and tell her how much it is affecting you, is the fact she wants to get pregnant, because at the end of the day you two are very young and should be enjoying life to the full.
Maybe she doesn't know what she wants no more. But you both need to talk about it, longer you both leave it, the worse it will get.
Maybe she doesn't know what she wants no more. But you both need to talk about it, longer you both leave it, the worse it will get.
I don't think you're being a jackass.
no, i dont think you're being a jackass. You're very far from being a jackass! I think you need to find some way of getting to talk to her about her problems, she's obviously trying to hide something from you whether that's something emotional about herself or something else all together. Why is she obsessed with getting pregenant??
huh, you have sex once a week, but you've never seen her body in 2yrs? and why the hell is doew she want to get preggas? weird.
Anyway you need a serious talk with her. Because at the moment it sounds as if she doesnt give a **** about your relationship.
Anyway you need a serious talk with her. Because at the moment it sounds as if she doesnt give a **** about your relationship.
Im a bit confused about the 'we have stopped having sex, maybe once every one or two a weeks' yet you claim to 'not have seen her body in 2 years'? Please explain to me how that is possible?
You sound lovely. You care about her and it shows. I suggest that maybe give her some space. You have let her know that you are there for her, but you just got to give her some time to turn to you, and she will, once she is ready to talk
You sound lovely. You care about her and it shows. I suggest that maybe give her some space. You have let her know that you are there for her, but you just got to give her some time to turn to you, and she will, once she is ready to talk
Looks like she needs affection and confidence, but is too scared to go to you for it. Maybe she is scared of being rejected? Or maybe she just doesn't like you that much but is too scared to end things?
Sounds like the baby obsession is about creating a new relationship and replacing you with someone she believes she will adore and believes will adore her.
But, whatever her insecurities are, she is treating you badly, esp as you are making a real effort to talk to her and she isn't playing ball. You shouldn't put up with this, even if you do love her. And your contraceptive method is just a timebomb waiting to go off. Get her to sort it out or you will have a screaming baby on your hands, and neither of you will be any happier.
Sounds like the baby obsession is about creating a new relationship and replacing you with someone she believes she will adore and believes will adore her.
But, whatever her insecurities are, she is treating you badly, esp as you are making a real effort to talk to her and she isn't playing ball. You shouldn't put up with this, even if you do love her. And your contraceptive method is just a timebomb waiting to go off. Get her to sort it out or you will have a screaming baby on your hands, and neither of you will be any happier.
exactly. Being alone scares her, but she is having issues with being with you, so she is trying to keep it together without commiting to you emotionaly, for whatever reason.
She isn't happy, and even though you love her, you are not happy.
Maybe you have to do something tough.
She isn't happy, and even though you love her, you are not happy.
Maybe you have to do something tough.
you need to get rid cos if this was the other way round people would say its emotional blackmail the relationship is not doing you or her any good
your way of having sex is a disaster waiting to happen, she can easily get pregnant. I know she wants a baby but how can she be ready to be a mother if she's not secure enough in herself or the relationship? I personally think she needs councilling, and i get the feeling she's not enjoying the relationship.
Also, her body image issues are so wrong, i reely feel for her but if she trusted you, she would eventually be able to share herself properly with you. If she's not been able to that after two years, it rings warning bells in my head. I used to be soooooo self-conscious about my body and I would only want to do stuff with my boyfriend in the dark and under the covers but that changed gradually and I feel 10000000% more confident. I dont think your relationship has a very happy ending unless she changes her perception of things
Also, her body image issues are so wrong, i reely feel for her but if she trusted you, she would eventually be able to share herself properly with you. If she's not been able to that after two years, it rings warning bells in my head. I used to be soooooo self-conscious about my body and I would only want to do stuff with my boyfriend in the dark and under the covers but that changed gradually and I feel 10000000% more confident. I dont think your relationship has a very happy ending unless she changes her perception of things
You've had sex in the dark or with clothes on for two years? Wow, that must be fun...
She sounds like a bit of a nightmare, irrational insecurity can be a lot more hassle than its worth. You're not a social worker, if you can't cope with her being the way she is, you can always leave her.
She sounds like a bit of a nightmare, irrational insecurity can be a lot more hassle than its worth. You're not a social worker, if you can't cope with her being the way she is, you can always leave her.
Do you realise how unreliable the rhythm method is? I think the best thing to do is to keep trying to talk to her, don't push it and hopefully she'll open up to you.
I hate my body too, but I let my bf look at it! He knows I hae my wobbles, and just knows better than to point them out! Reassure her that she's looking stunning, and she might relax about it.
I hate my body too, but I let my bf look at it! He knows I hae my wobbles, and just knows better than to point them out! Reassure her that she's looking stunning, and she might relax about it.
right i get your point but i dont wanna burn any bridges that are left with her by having an argument over it she sais that the condom is so unsatisfying for her as she has a very low sensation and the pill lowers her labido even more, the problem is shes one of those girls who can orgasm over regular sex so shes not botherd about it
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You are being a complete tit by having unprotected sex. Do you really want to have a kid with this girl? Either have sex with a condom or don't have sex.
You are being a complete tit by having unprotected sex. Do you really want to have a kid with this girl? Either have sex with a condom or don't have sex.I agree, you should least use a condom, if she don't like it then don't have sex. You can still pregnant through the withdrawal method.
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