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    I've been dating this guy for 6 months. I'm 23 and he's 30 and I've been in love with him for about 2 months now. We're really good together, haven't argued, accept each other for who we are, have a good time together. He takes care of me if I'm ill, takes me out with him, holds me and kisses me on the cheek or forehead randomly if we're sitting next to each other. I know he's into me but I just don't know how much.

    But then when he's with his friends they were just having a conversation about how feelings are stupid and they don't "do" feelings.

    I don't want to tell him I love him, have it be rejected, and then potentially ruin our relationship.

    Any opinions?
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    He's 30 and he was having a conversation with friend about how feelings were stupid?
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    Are you guys In a bf gf relationship or just still dating
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    (Original post by xobeauty)
    Are you guys In a bf gf relationship or just still dating
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    If you told him you love him and he rejects that, then something's up :/
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
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    Oh ok.

    I think it's kinda nice that he hasn't used those words yet, people use those three words too lightly. At least when he says it, he means something. Is he not the lovey dovey type?
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    Some men just don't express their feelings. Its a REAL pain. Like just say it! What's so wrong in showing affection towards another?
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    (Original post by Alexion)
    If you told him you love him and he rejects that, then something's up :/
    Not sure what I mean by reject, but it's like sometimes when you tell someone you like them and then it ruins the friendship you had with them. So I'm worried about that occurring or it freaking him out.

    (Original post by xobeauty)
    Oh ok.

    I think it's kinda nice that he hasn't used those words yet, people use those three words too lightly. At least when he says it, it means something. Is he not the lovey dovey type?
    No he's not. He's not fond of things like Valentine's day or the idea of romance, but at the same time he treats me amazingly and takes me out for romantic days and meals, he just doesn't want to put the label 'romantic' on it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Not sure what I mean by reject, but it's like sometimes when you tell someone you like them and then it ruins the friendship you had with them. So I'm worried about that occurring or it freaking him out.
    You've been with him for easily long enough that I think to not be in love at this point would be weird.

    You said that you're not sure how much he's into you - I think if he doesn't love you after six months then I'm not sure how much further his feelings could actually progress...
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    (Original post by BrokenLife)
    Some men just don't express their feelings. Its a REAL pain. Like just say it! What's so wrong in showing affection towards another?
    ^ this :yep:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Not sure what I mean by reject, but it's like sometimes when you tell someone you like them and then it ruins the friendship you had with them. So I'm worried about that occurring or it freaking him out.



    No he's not. He's not fond of things like Valentine's day or the idea of romance, but at the same time he treats me amazingly and takes me out for romantic days and meals, he just doesn't want to put the label 'romantic' on it.
    I think if it'simportant to you you should express that to him...no need to tip toe around your feelings. You're in this relationship too it's not what just he wants.
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    (Original post by Alexion)
    ^ this :yep:


    I'm assuming, you're not one of those men who don't express their feelings, then? If so, SALUTE TO YOU!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've been dating this guy for 6 months. I'm 23 and he's 30 and I've been in love with him for about 2 months now. We're really good together, haven't argued, accept each other for who we are, have a good time together. He takes care of me if I'm ill, takes me out with him, holds me and kisses me on the cheek or forehead randomly if we're sitting next to each other. I know he's into me but I just don't know how much.

    But then when he's with his friends they were just having a conversation about how feelings are stupid and they don't "do" feelings.

    I don't want to tell him I love him, have it be rejected, and then potentially ruin our relationship.

    Any opinions?
    Think of it this way. Is the relationship not already over or ruined if he doesn't love you back regardless of whether you say it or not? The only difference is if you tell him you love him and he doesn't say it back you at least have confirmation of where you stand. You're going to have to find out eventually or it's going to drive you crazy
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    "If that boy dont love you right now, he'll never ever, never ever, love you" Credit to Ciara
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    (Original post by BrokenLife)


    I'm assuming, you're not one of those men who don't express their feelings, then? If so, SALUTE TO YOU!
    :woo:

    Yeah, my feelings are usually very open :yep: nothing good has ever come to me from keeping stuff bottled up, so...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've been dating this guy for 6 months. I'm 23 and he's 30 and I've been in love with him for about 2 months now. We're really good together, haven't argued, accept each other for who we are, have a good time together. He takes care of me if I'm ill, takes me out with him, holds me and kisses me on the cheek or forehead randomly if we're sitting next to each other. I know he's into me but I just don't know how much.

    But then when he's with his friends they were just having a conversation about how feelings are stupid and they don't "do" feelings.

    I don't want to tell him I love him, have it be rejected, and then potentially ruin our relationship.

    Any opinions?
    Some guys act differently around their friends to try and make their girlfriends think that theyre big, strong and more masculine.
    In reality if he loves you he will say it.
    You can say it to him whenever you want. If he shuts you out, then theres a problem. If this happens then he doesnt feel the same way about you.
    If he loves you he wont reject you. Thats certain.
    Give it a go and see what he does.
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    (Original post by Blondie987)
    He's 30 and he was having a conversation with friend about how feelings were stupid?


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    Sounds like me tbh, in which case he won't reject it - he's just not the type to talk about it

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    Interesting lol
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    (Original post by Alexion)
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    Yeah, my feelings are usually very open :yep: nothing good has ever come to me from keeping stuff bottled up, so...
    Well, that's good, Alexion! Be like that, I'm sure your lady would appreciate it!
 
 
 
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