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    I feel so silly for thinking that he liked me. We are friends but I feel deep shame when I'm around him now and I just want to disappear.

    I made the fatal mistake of making the first move as a woman! He rebuffed me and even freaked out a bit. I keep replaying the scenario in my head and cringing.

    I still like him but I know he will never want me.

    So how do I stop feeling like an idiot? I have to see him again and again around friends.
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    Don't be ashamed. There is nothing to be ashamed of. It's only awkward if you make it awkward.

    I told my feelings to my best (female friend) a few months ago. She rejected me, we're still good friends today and I see her and all our mutual friends all the time. It's not weird, even though I think some of them might know. You're in love with someone who isn't, so what?
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    Everyone gets rejected, just play it cool and make sure this doesn't stop you from asking someone out again in the future
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    Rejection is a natural thing.
    Try to forget about what happened and move on. Things may be awkward for a little bit but they will soon improve.
    I'm afraid you can't change his feelings. I've been rejected by girls who I still liked afterwards. It sucks but you have to forget about the feelings for him and move on.
    Hopefully this helped.
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    You know what? Good on you for having the courage to step outside both societies norms and your comfort zone. Time heals all wounds, just take it as a lesson learnt and be proud of yourself for having expressed how you felt. At least you wont have to look back with any "What if's" and everything happens for a reason! There's clearly someone better waiting to sweep you off your feet.
 
 
 
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