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Feel so stupid for thinking I had a chance with him. How do I get over embarrassment? watch

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    I feel so silly for thinking that he liked me. We are friends but I feel deep shame when I'm around him now and I just want to disappear.

    I made the fatal mistake of making the first move as a woman! He rebuffed me and even freaked out a bit. I keep replaying the scenario in my head and cringing.

    I still like him but I know he will never want me.

    So how do I stop feeling like an idiot? I have to see him again and again around friends.

    Don't be ashamed. There is nothing to be ashamed of. It's only awkward if you make it awkward.

    I told my feelings to my best (female friend) a few months ago. She rejected me, we're still good friends today and I see her and all our mutual friends all the time. It's not weird, even though I think some of them might know. You're in love with someone who isn't, so what?

    Everyone gets rejected, just play it cool and make sure this doesn't stop you from asking someone out again in the future

    Rejection is a natural thing.
    Try to forget about what happened and move on. Things may be awkward for a little bit but they will soon improve.
    I'm afraid you can't change his feelings. I've been rejected by girls who I still liked afterwards. It sucks but you have to forget about the feelings for him and move on.
    Hopefully this helped.

    You know what? Good on you for having the courage to step outside both societies norms and your comfort zone. Time heals all wounds, just take it as a lesson learnt and be proud of yourself for having expressed how you felt. At least you wont have to look back with any "What if's" and everything happens for a reason! There's clearly someone better waiting to sweep you off your feet.
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