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    Do you thinking about it often and does it upset you? I used to cry about it a lot when I was younger. Now I worry more about the feeling when I find them dead or find out, how I will react to it. :cry::cry2:
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    I tend to accept that death is just an inevitable part of life.

    I don't intend to grieve over lost loved ones, as I know that they would always want me to continue and not let it pull me down.

    This may make me sound cold and heartless, but in reality I just don't see the point of feeling sadness over death.
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    Me too - I honestly don't know what I'm ever going to do without my mum
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    I can honestly say I wont cry if any relative dies. My grandad was in hospital dying, and we were all outside, there were some that were crying. Everybody was visibly upset and my mum asked me if i was sad, i replied "a little bit" even though i didnt feel anything.

    If anything, i felt bad that i didnt feel bad.
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    (Original post by sumeyyatontus)
    Me too - I honestly don't know what I'm ever going to do without my mum
    One of my biggest fear in life tbh
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    There is no point fearing the inevitable

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    (Original post by Alfed)
    Do you thinking about it often and does it upset you? I used to cry about it a lot when I was younger. Now I worry more about the feeling when I find them dead or find out, how I will react to it. :cry::cry2:
    This is a thought that's crossed my mind recently :sadnod: . Whilst I appreciate that death is part of the natural process, I just can't help thinking that it might take years and years for me to get over it and the burden that will place on all of my other relationships in life. I wouldn't ask anyone to selflessly look after me for such a long period of time in such an event - it's not fair :sad:
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    Yes I did used to be quite scared of it as one of my parents passed when I was quite young but now I don't have as much of a fear as I see it as inevitable (and have been to a few funerals since then) and try to make the most of the time I have with the ones I love.

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    Do you thinking about it often and does it upset you? I used to cry about it a lot when I was younger. Now I worry more about the feeling when I find them dead or find out, how I will react to it. :cry::cry2:
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    it is best to enjoy their company while you can. Mothers' Day is this weekend...
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    Yeah, it's going to be really upsetting when our loved ones dies. However death is just part of life and we have to accept it.
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    idk it depends who it is and how close i am to them
    like there are certain people in my family who... I do love but when they die I wouldn't be heartbroken, sure I'd be sad but I wouldn't be shattered
    whereas if it was my mother or a really really close friend I'd be completely devastated
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    I can't imagine my life without my parents. Worst fear is losing my mum...

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    (Original post by Alfed)
    Do you thinking about it often and does it upset you? I used to cry about it a lot when I was younger. Now I worry more about the feeling when I find them dead or find out, how I will react to it. :cry::cry2:
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    Same situation here but that is life, you have to move on.
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    (Original post by Alexion)
    I tend to accept that death is just an inevitable part of life. I don't intend to grieve over lost loved ones, as I know that they would always want me to continue and not let it pull me down. This may make me sound cold and heartless, but in reality I just don't see the point of feeling sadness over death
    This, plus I've been through extreme grief over the sudden and tragic loss of a loved one (prospective life partner), so I've subsequently tended to insulate myself from that level of upset/disarray by simply accepting that anyone and everyone can be gone in an instant

    (Original post by sumeyyatontus)
    Me too - I honestly don't know what I'm ever going to do without my mum
    D'aww! :console: 'Nothing like a mother's love', eh
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    (Original post by DiddyDec)
    There is no point fearing the inevitable

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    So if you were on a plane and it was going to crash you wouldn't have any fear because there would be no point fearing the inevitable.
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    (Original post by Alexion)
    I tend to accept that death is just an inevitable part of life.

    I don't intend to grieve over lost loved ones, as I know that they would always want me to continue and not let it pull me down.

    This may make me sound cold and heartless, but in reality I just don't see the point of feeling sadness over death.
    PRSOM dude.

    I view death as a good thing tbh. They're in a better place.
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    (Original post by greatguy226)
    So if you were on a plane and it was going to crash you wouldn't have any fear because there would be no point fearing the inevitable.
    Exactly. Fear or trepidation and sadness are part of preparing yourself for something. The problem is when you dwell on it and it starts effecting your life. Making it so you don't want to do anything, but think about it all the time. I was like that when my great, great, great auntie died, I didn't feel anything for about two weeks.
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    (Original post by anonymousm3)
    PRSOM dude.

    I view death as a good thing tbh. They're in a better place.
    True, but they aren't with you. So you miss them and every time you think about them, the things which used to make you smile and be happy, now make you cry and feel sad.
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    (Original post by sumeyyatontus)
    Me too - I honestly don't know what I'm ever going to do without my mum
    I mainly think about my dad dying, rather than my mother.
 
 
 
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