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    I recently met a group of people in college, they were introduced to me by my classmates, I was really happy, I've never had many friends and I thought that this was a turning point in my life and that I would finally meet some people... But I don't feel like we have much in common. Without making this sound incredibly complicated, I have a very sarcastic personality and I like to keep my private life to myself. These people always talk about their other half's quite often, their sex lives, they get really detailed at times and it confuses me as to how they can be so open about it all. But thats not it, I often find myself cut off by someone else when talking and having to repeat myself because nobody was listening. It's great that I am hanging with more extroverted people as this helps my social anxiety, but at the same time little things such as people not listening also keeps knocking me back. So I'm not really moving forward with it either.. Is it just me that always feels like the oddball? That guy who's just there, not really being acknowledged?
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    (Original post by samkent6)
    I recently met a group of people in college, they were introduced to me by my classmates, I was really happy, I've never had many friends and I thought that this was a turning point in my life and that I would finally meet some people... But I don't feel like we have much in common. Without making this sound incredibly complicated, I have a very sarcastic personality and I like to keep my private life to myself. These people always talk about their other half's quite often, their sex lives, they get really detailed at times and it confuses me as to how they can be so open about it all. But thats not it, I often find myself cut off by someone else when talking and having to repeat myself because nobody was listening. It's great that I am hanging with more extroverted people as this helps my social anxiety, but at the same time little things such as people not listening also keeps knocking me back. So I'm not really moving forward with it either.. Is it just me that always feels like the oddball? That guy who's just there, not really being acknowledged?
    No definitely not, I understand where you're coming from. For me it was either stick with the same kind of extroverted people or move onto a more less-extroverted group of friends who werent as intense if you catch my drift? They were still very open about everything but not in such an extreme way as my old friends were. If I were you i'd stick with it, although you are throwing yourself into the deep end with the whole social anxiety thing and being with such outgoing people, it will help you.
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    No definitely not, I understand where you're coming from. For me it was either stick with the same kind of extroverted people or move onto a more less-extroverted group of friends who werent as intense if you catch my drift? They were still very open about everything but not in such an extreme way as my old friends were. If I were you i'd stick with it, although you are throwing yourself into the deep end with the whole social anxiety thing and being with such outgoing people, it will help you.
    I will try and stick with it! I just have these periods of not feeling at all relevant within the group. Which of course puts me in a bad mood. I'm also never invited to any events, they are nice people don't get me wrong, but maybe they notice that I have issues socialising and therefore don't invite me to these events because that is what they think I would want? To not be invited?
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    You'll either get used to it and adapt or you'll get frustrated and distance yourself from them/ move on to different a group.
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    (Original post by samkent6)
    I will try and stick with it! I just have these periods of not feeling at all relevant within the group. Which of course puts me in a bad mood. I'm also never invited to any events, they are nice people don't get me wrong, but maybe they notice that I have issues socialising and therefore don't invite me to these events because that is what they think I would want? To not be invited?
    I think with them not inviting you to events might mean that they may not think you are into those types of events or they might not feel like they know you enough for them to invite you to them. I've been the same type of person where i've not invited someone because I dont know them well enough, its nothing against them.
 
 
 
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