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    I couldn't find much on the internet in this issue, so I thought of asking it here to those from this community.

    Before you discovered about your sexuality, did you in any way shape or form consume pornographic material?

    If you didn't, how did you discover that you aren't straight?

    If you did, did you discover that you weren't straight, straight away ...or did it take time? If it did how long did it take?

    Thank You. Hope I get answers.
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    Anyways is it "Questions to" or "Questions for" LGBTers. :erm:
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    (Original post by Sciatic)
    Anyways is it "Questions to" or "Questions for" LGBTers. :erm:
    The two arent mutually exclusive
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    Discovered I liked girls when a waitress at Pizza Hut gave me free pizza.

    It was good days
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    No, i would just see girls on tv and films that made me feel the way you feel when you're crushing and whatever interest I had in guys started to dwindle, I'd say both of these things happened over from about 15 to 18 where I was in pretty serious denial, then I just accepted it and here I am today
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    (Original post by Blondie987)
    No, i would just see girls on tv and films that made me feel the way you feel when you're crushing and whatever interest I had in guys started to dwindle, I'd say both of these things happened over from about 15 to 18 where I was in pretty serious denial, then I just accepted it and here I am today


    Thanks.

    So until you were halfway through accepting it, you didn't have those feelings or different feelings towards real girls around you?
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    (Original post by Sciatic)
    I couldn't find much on the internet in this issue, so I thought of asking it here to those from this community.

    Before you discovered about your sexuality, did you in any way shape or form consume pornographic material?

    If you didn't, how did you discover that you aren't straight?

    If you did, did you discover that you weren't straight, straight away ...or did it take time? If it did how long did it take?

    Thank You. Hope I get answers.
    I did

    It took time. About 6 years but I'd been questioning previously.
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    (Original post by Sciatic)
    Thanks.

    So until you were halfway through accepting it, you didn't have those feelings or different feelings towards real girls around you?
    No problem, growing up I always seemed to have crushes on guys but I think that was probably much more influenced by the fact that my friends were getting crushes on guys, I may well have had crushes on girls when I was younger but if I did I didn't realise/acknowledge them
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    (Original post by Kvothe the arcane)
    I did

    It took time. About 6 years but I'd been questioning previously.

    So you use it to confirm it for yourself?
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    (Original post by Sciatic)
    So you use it to confirm it for yourself?
    I used it because I was a horny teenager but...I mostly read erotica and fanfiction because I felt religiously guilty/sinful about the video stuff.
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    (Original post by Kvothe the arcane)
    I used it because I was a horny teenager but...I mostly read erotica and fanfiction because I felt religiously guilty/sinful about the video stuff.

    When you said it took 6 years, do you mean that it took 6 years to confirm or 6 years to "grow" that feeling until it was sufficient for you to realise that you are not straight. Why does it take that long?
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    OP, did YOU have any attraction to anyone before you watched porn?
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    Not really and not intentionally, when I was going through the process of beginning to seriously question what I felt about people (I always seemed to have what would be described as crushes on guys but never girls) a guy from my school came in with one of those old lads mags, just nakedish women in provocative poses, I wasn't much interested in that.

    What cottoned me on to it all was a long process and I can't pinpoint an exact moment where I had a realisation, just a gradual discovery that what most guys had when it came to certain girls I had for certain guys.
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    (Original post by SmallTownGirl)
    OP, did YOU have any attraction to anyone before you watched porn?

    I don't watch porn, still a virgin. I know I'm straight because I seem to want to discover the "secret" of women, and I don't seem to even want to think of men that way. By attraction I think you mean "lust", but yes I don't seem to have any lust for any specific person as of now, but just generally I feel it'll more likely be over a female than a male for the above reason. As for "love" and "crushes", I've felt a lot that way to a lot of girls that really never translated to lust. I know for sure I would lust over any nude female, anyways.
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    (Original post by garfeeled)
    Not really and not intentionally, when I was going through the process of beginning to seriously question what I felt about people (I always seemed to have what would be described as crushes on guys but never girls) a guy from my school came in with one of those old lads mags, just nakedish women in provocative poses, I wasn't much interested in that.

    What cottoned me on to it all was a long process and I can't pinpoint an exact moment where I had a realisation, just a gradual discovery that what most guys had when it came to certain girls I had for certain guys.

    By "crushes" you mean what is purely non-sexual desires, or a mixture of non-sexual and sexual desires? Did you initially feel sexual desire towards guys that you couldn't find towards girls, or was it non-sexual?
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    (Original post by Sciatic)
    By "crushes" you mean what is purely non-sexual desires, or a mixture of non-sexual and sexual desires? Did you initially feel sexual desire towards guys that you couldn't find towards girls, or was it non-sexual?
    Originally non sexual, the sort where you want their attention but don't want them to know you want it so typical childish crushes.

    Don't know when hey started but a sexUl aspect eventually came into it but again that was during my process of discovery and I eventually realisation that I didn't feel crushes, romantic or sexual feelings towards women but did towards guys
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    (Original post by garfeeled)
    Originally non sexual, the sort where you want their attention but don't want them to know you want it so typical childish crushes.
    So during that time when that guy brought that mag with that nude pics, you didn't feel any sexual desire towards anyone?

    Don't know when hey started but a sexUl aspect eventually came into it but again that was during my process of discovery and I eventually realisation that I didn't feel crushes, romantic or sexual feelings towards women but did towards guys

    So did you feel that you could like work on your desire? The more you tried to have a sexual desire towards guys, the more it grew?
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    (Original post by Sciatic)
    So during that time when that guy brought that mag with that nude pics, you didn't feel any sexual desire towards anyone?
    I did towards a guy in my year, did really know what it was but as far as I remeber it was the first physical sexual attraction I had towards somebody

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    So did you feel that you could like work on your desire? The more you tried to have a sexual desire towards guys, the more it grew?
    It didn't really work on it if anything I worked against developing an attraction towards guys, it quite intimidated me and I knew it would make my life I neccesarily hard. At the time I would have preferred no sexual desires at all over having them towards the same sex.
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    I don't think I ever looked at porn before realising I have a thing for women. I always knew I liked guys, and then I got a crush on a girl when I was in year 10. I was very confused and wasn't sure about what I was feeling, then I was also dealing with some homophobia from a person close to me, so for a long time I tried to block it out. Eventually, after a year or so I accepted that I'm just bi or something.
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    (Original post by MrsSheldonCooper)
    Discovered I liked girls when a waitress at Pizza Hut gave me free pizza.

    It was good days
    I have come across cases like this before.

    Have you considered that its not women that trigger your sexual arousal, but in fact its free pizza?

    Have you heard of "big sausage pizza"? For scientific purposes, I would be interested to hear what you think about it. :holmes:
 
 
 
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