I need someone to listen to me and tell me im not overthinking thins :o

I guess you can class this under making friends as such..except its not that simple. And you might not see this as a problem.

Firstly I have a boyfriend, my first, and im in uni. Up until i came to uni i had friends which were more like aquaintances and 1 best friend. I found it hard to make friends and this was mainly to due with appearence etc but ive got over that now and bloomed so to speak.

anyway beginning of uni was amazing, made friends with this flat which i continued to hang out with for maybe 3 months, but then i was closer to 2 girls and a boy and we became best friends but still went on nights out with this flat.

Thing is I know this might sound stupid but i got my internet fixed which i didnt have in the begining and from then i stopped randomly going over to the flat to chat and stuff. The girl and boy best friends got together and she is never in her flat but at his instead so i got into the habit of just staying with her. No more random visits to her flatmates. Then the number of times we all went out in a big group seemed to fizzle out. I guess because i didnt speak to them much, i wanted to but I just never seemed to be in their flat anymore.

Argh this getting long sorry. But like today on facebook photos i saw the flat out in a group and they bumped into my boyfriend and his guy mates there. And it just made me sad. Because lately i never seem to go out! and its not because my boyfriend is with me because hes always out with the lads. I always go out with my best friends now but sometimes its annoying because two of them are attatched at the hip (and face) and the other one has friends she goes out with without me. Anyway we havnt been out together in ages, its not just that, i really like to go out in a really big group like before.

Im just so fustrated, am i being stupid?
Thing is there is hope because one girl from the flat i still text alot its just she doesnt always invite me out anymore. Im clinging on to the fact that this girl, me and my three best friends are going to be living together next year. And the girl is the only connection i have with this flat.

Theres this bad feeling i have that the two friends that are in a relationship are going to cut themselves off even more as they practically live together. And the she doesn't drink, even though she is great at going out, lately she said she doesnt really mind not going out atall! and im thinking im young and in uni and i would hate to not go out and have fun :frown:

I just hate that im not part of a larger group y'know. And i know i should feel lucky because ive never been this happy before, and i have an amazign boyfriend i just get jealous that he goes out alot and i dont have people to fall back on when my best mates cant go out for some reason or another..

Im really sorry for how long this is. I just want some opinions or reasurrance, i dont know, i just had to let it out.
thanks guys.

Reply 1

Flank Runner

**** happens, make the most of it and try and have fun

Reply 2

matthew.swallow

Em what the **** is stopping you from just turning up at the flat? And also there are a great number of people in any university- make some new mates. You must know lots of people from your course, lots of people from your halls- spend time getting to know them.

Also remember people are not going to make the effort to ask you to come out with them unless you make the effort to get them out first. Invite some people to go out clubbbing with you and you'll find that the next week they will think "who can we invite out clubbing- oh yeh SeaFairy."

Stop thinking and get of your ass and do something. (sorry if that sounds rude.)

Reply 3

Beauty_Queen

hhhmmm sorry that i can't be much help, but you could always arrange a day/night out somewhere and then invite that other flat of friends out, your best friends, your boyfriend and his friends, thus opening up your social circle a bit more again? Plus there are plenty of things to do than just going out and drinking.....