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trying to understand his behaviour

Hiya. Firstly, I’m sorry for a thread like this but a) I’m genuinely confused and b) don’t read it if you don’t want to :smile:

So I’ve got a crush on this guy in my year, and who I’m sorta friends with. We’ve been chatting a bit more recently especially at parties when we’ve both been sorta tipsy. It’s because of this that I’ve thought he may like me; we’ve always sort of ended up laughing and dancing together at parties.

It was our last day of college yesterday (Friday) before our A2 exams, so I won’t see him again aside from friends gatherings. To celebrate a couple of us went to a few bars, and we were getting along fine – he even gave me a massage in one of the places when I said I was tired! So I thought things were going ok…but later on last night he got a lot more distant – he did say he was really tired but still…it was like he was a different person!

If anyone has any thoughts about his behaviour I’d like to hear them, ie. if he’s just not interested or if he’s playing me hot and cold or something, I’m just a bit confused by it all! Plus I’m really shy and not likely to just ask him if he likes me until I’m sure! Thanks, and sorry again for this repetitive thread subjecxt!! Jess x-x-x

Reply 1

~*JESS*~

OP

no one got any insights on this then :frown:

Reply 2

The$W£D£

no, cause its boring

lol j/k. i think you shouldnt analyse people when they have been drinkin. Some people change dramatically. Talk to him when things are calmer

Reply 3

Ink

12

It could have been anything, really. We could come up with any number of possibilities but, especially with the little details you've posted about what happened between the massage and him acting distant, all they are is guesses.

Anyway, I think you're over-analyzing things. Understandable when you've got a crush, but just see how he acts next time you see him. If he's back to normal, I wouldn't worry about it.

Reply 4

figureeight

11

Yeah, I would say just wait till you see him next, or, which may shine you a light of hope here, theres also quite a distinct possibility he noticed he was being a bit forward with you so cut back and clearly over compensated a bit.

Either way, good luck!

Reply 5

milly.

12

Andersson

no, cause its boring

lol j/k. i think you shouldnt analyse people when they have been drinkin. Some people change dramatically. Talk to him when things are calmer

Nah, I reckon people act how they really feel when theyre drunk

Reply 6

The$W£D£

believe me they dont! Im totally different when im drunk, im like a different person. And same with my good friend, hes totally different. Thats why i prefer not to meet a girl when im drunk, but have fun instead.

Reply 7

eflower

He could actually have been tired?

I know I can be a very different person when im tired.
I can suddenly get very cagey (it scares me, actually, I'm normally incredibly chilled out). Or, at other times I can "zone out" completely and be in a total day dream.

Maybe this guy is (a nutter!) like me?

Hope it works out for you

Reply 8

Tw!stEd

2

Nah, I reckon people act how they really feel when theyre drunk

Not really?

Reply 9

sebbie

15

I think people blurt out what they really THINK when they are drink, but they don't act how they really feel.... Loads of people are gobsmacked at how they act when they're pissed...

Reply 10

McGJunior88

It's true, up to a point. Disinhibition stops people being afraid of things they usually would, but when you're sloshed you're not ... 'you', basically.

Reply 11

~*JESS*~

OP

He wasn't completely wasted though, not even close. More sort of very tipsy. I dunno when i'm gonna see him next as well :frown:

Reply 12

Tw!stEd

2

He wasn't completely wasted though, not even close. More sort of very tipsy. I dunno when i'm gonna see him next as well

That prob the reason?
He got well nervous.

Reply 13

bruckheimer

~*JESS*~

He wasn't completely wasted though, not even close. More sort of very tipsy. I dunno when i'm gonna see him next as well :frown:

if you like him, then why dont you just tell him, he obviously likes you otherwise he wouldnt be dancing with you, or making any effort with you. i think you rading your situation too much. if you dont tell him, you will just end up being a depressed boring person.

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