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Arguing and relationships
Hey guys!
Ok, well I guess I'm posting to see what you all think about arguing and relationships. I know it's inevitable in long term relationships, I mean everyone has a little/big argument at some point, right? So I was just wondering, how often do you guys argue with your partners? Do you think too much arguing is really bad? Do you think it's wrong not to argue at all?
Me and my boyfriend are both quite stubborn and when we have arguments, we'll have heated arguments because neither of us will back down...but I think that makes us get on better because our personalities make us quite passionate and fiery where relationships are concerned, and I think that's good.
Ok, well I guess I'm posting to see what you all think about arguing and relationships. I know it's inevitable in long term relationships, I mean everyone has a little/big argument at some point, right? So I was just wondering, how often do you guys argue with your partners? Do you think too much arguing is really bad? Do you think it's wrong not to argue at all?
Me and my boyfriend are both quite stubborn and when we have arguments, we'll have heated arguments because neither of us will back down...but I think that makes us get on better because our personalities make us quite passionate and fiery where relationships are concerned, and I think that's good.
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Me and my boyfriend are just the same, we always argue we cant go 3 days, we have only ever had one massive argument tho, its usually little ones, we get over it tho, and making up is fun, argument sex is cool. If me and my boyfriend didnt argue i would think it was weird. if couples dont argue they keep it locked up and resent each other
My boyfriend and I have only argued twice in two and a half years. Once was when I was bugging him about his job search (quite a sore spot at the time) and once was about money (we come from quite different backgrounds financially).
Too much arguing = very bad indeed as it's not a good environment for children to grow up in and in any case, you should be able to sit down and talk it over calmly like adults. Arguing once in a while is only to be expected - people are only human after all!
I think the two main reasons we don't argue much are a) we can usually both agree to disagree and b) my boyfriend is an extremely patient person who can usually put up with me bugging him (you can tell if an argument starts that he's really pissed off, lol).
Too much arguing = very bad indeed as it's not a good environment for children to grow up in and in any case, you should be able to sit down and talk it over calmly like adults. Arguing once in a while is only to be expected - people are only human after all!
I think the two main reasons we don't argue much are a) we can usually both agree to disagree and b) my boyfriend is an extremely patient person who can usually put up with me bugging him (you can tell if an argument starts that he's really pissed off, lol).
We argue quite often - just about little things though.
And mainly because he's in uni and im not [missing him just makes me very argumentitive
]
we argue because we talk so much.. Obviously no one is the same as someone else, and we do have lots of contrasting opinions. We're both pretty proud too, so we won't back down
But I don't mind. It makes us stronger, and it means that things always get sorted out.
And mainly because he's in uni and im not [missing him just makes me very argumentitive
]we argue because we talk so much.. Obviously no one is the same as someone else, and we do have lots of contrasting opinions. We're both pretty proud too, so we won't back down
But I don't mind. It makes us stronger, and it means that things always get sorted out.
Think we've had 2 serious arguments in our whole relationship so far. We tend to just talk things over rather than arguing, if something upsets me I'll just say straight away and vice-versa.
I'm really crap at arguing though, can't think of enough things to say at the time! So I'm happy although I'm sure when we move in together and the baby's here arguments will be a more regular thing.
I'm really crap at arguing though, can't think of enough things to say at the time! So I'm happy although I'm sure when we move in together and the baby's here arguments will be a more regular thing.
This is an interesting topic.
My boyfriend and I don't really argue. In fact, I don't really argue much with anyone.
I think the main reasons are that:
1. We aren't very dependent on each other so there isn't really anything to argue about. We don't live together or share money or anything. We've been together 6 months but all we do together is have fun. There's no strain put on the relationship at all. This may change when he graduates and moves to London and I'm still here. Hm.
2. The only time there's ever been a slight disagreement he was quick to call me and talk it through. I don't like shouting. I'm not good at it. I can never say what I mean unless it's put down in a calm way. And in that occasion there wasn't anything that anyone could do to sort it out (it involved other people) and it was more of a misunderstanding so there wasn't much point in arguing.
I kinda think that arguments with people you love should be saved for things that are really important. Personal relations are too important to be messed about. But then at the same time I do also think that maybe it would be better if we talked about stuff more. I don't know.
We have differing opinions about things but that's normal and it doesn't cause arguments. I mean, I'm hardly going to fall out with him because we disagree about what the rights for homosexuals should be.
I've jinxed it, haven't I?
We're going to have a massive fight tomorrow... I can see it happening. All because of this stupid post.
My boyfriend and I don't really argue. In fact, I don't really argue much with anyone.
I think the main reasons are that:
1. We aren't very dependent on each other so there isn't really anything to argue about. We don't live together or share money or anything. We've been together 6 months but all we do together is have fun. There's no strain put on the relationship at all. This may change when he graduates and moves to London and I'm still here. Hm.
2. The only time there's ever been a slight disagreement he was quick to call me and talk it through. I don't like shouting. I'm not good at it. I can never say what I mean unless it's put down in a calm way. And in that occasion there wasn't anything that anyone could do to sort it out (it involved other people) and it was more of a misunderstanding so there wasn't much point in arguing.
I kinda think that arguments with people you love should be saved for things that are really important. Personal relations are too important to be messed about. But then at the same time I do also think that maybe it would be better if we talked about stuff more. I don't know.
We have differing opinions about things but that's normal and it doesn't cause arguments. I mean, I'm hardly going to fall out with him because we disagree about what the rights for homosexuals should be.
I've jinxed it, haven't I?
We're going to have a massive fight tomorrow... I can see it happening. All because of this stupid post. Mr_Velcro
This is an interesting topic.
My boyfriend and I don't really argue. In fact, I don't really argue much with anyone.
I think the main reasons are that:
1. We aren't very dependent on each other so there isn't really anything to argue about. We don't live together or share money or anything. We've been together 6 months but all we do together is have fun. There's no strain put on the relationship at all. This may change when he graduates and moves to London and I'm still here. Hm.
2. The only time there's ever been a slight disagreement he was quick to call me and talk it through. I don't like shouting. I'm not good at it. I can never say what I mean unless it's put down in a calm way. And in that occasion there wasn't anything that anyone could do to sort it out (it involved other people) and it was more of a misunderstanding so there wasn't much point in arguing.
I kinda think that arguments with people you love should be saved for things that are really important. Personal relations are too important to be messed about. But then at the same time I do also think that maybe it would be better if we talked about stuff more. I don't know.
We have differing opinions about things but that's normal and it doesn't cause arguments. I mean, I'm hardly going to fall out with him because we disagree about what the rights for homosexuals should be.
I've jinxed it, haven't I? We're going to have a massive fight tomorrow... I can see it happening. All because of this stupid post.
My boyfriend and I don't really argue. In fact, I don't really argue much with anyone.
I think the main reasons are that:
1. We aren't very dependent on each other so there isn't really anything to argue about. We don't live together or share money or anything. We've been together 6 months but all we do together is have fun. There's no strain put on the relationship at all. This may change when he graduates and moves to London and I'm still here. Hm.
2. The only time there's ever been a slight disagreement he was quick to call me and talk it through. I don't like shouting. I'm not good at it. I can never say what I mean unless it's put down in a calm way. And in that occasion there wasn't anything that anyone could do to sort it out (it involved other people) and it was more of a misunderstanding so there wasn't much point in arguing.
I kinda think that arguments with people you love should be saved for things that are really important. Personal relations are too important to be messed about. But then at the same time I do also think that maybe it would be better if we talked about stuff more. I don't know.
We have differing opinions about things but that's normal and it doesn't cause arguments. I mean, I'm hardly going to fall out with him because we disagree about what the rights for homosexuals should be.
I've jinxed it, haven't I?
We're going to have a massive fight tomorrow... I can see it happening. All because of this stupid post. Hehehe. Nah, you won't! I think that's really cool. I wish me and my boyfriend could argue less sometimes...and be more like other people! But I think it's just our personalities clashing sometimes, rather than us not getting on. We argue a lot less than we used to now because we've talked things through since and agreed on stuff. Also, I think it's because I know him better. Like before, I'd take things really personally if he was in a mood and think it was always my fault and then I'd be really clingy and we'd end up arguing 'cos he'd be annoyed, whereas now I know it's just 'cos he's pissed off with work or uni or his parents and it's nothing to do with me, so I just stay out of it and know that it's his problem not mine.
Well you can't possibly have a relationship without an argument at some point, it happens. But if it is occuring alot then there's a problem and you need to discuss it when you are calm.
I can be stubborn and awkward sometimes and it has caused arguments in all the relationships I've been in but not that often I'm glad to say.
Some of my relationships have been more argumentative that others. Sometimes though I think it's not a bad idea, sometimes it can bring ya closer when you kiss and make up. Other times the arguing just gets out of hand...
My hubby and I bicker a lot, but not over serious things.
Actually usually it's me nagging him to do something, him not doing it, and then me snapping at him.
As for really really BIG arguments, yeh we've had a few over the years. I think we've had maybe....oh I dunno....6 or 7 in total I'd say. We had one a couple of nights before we got married! That was not good! We had one the night before our engagement party aswell lol. Great timing we have haha.
(We've been together for almost 6 years, and married for just over 2 years).
Actually usually it's me nagging him to do something, him not doing it, and then me snapping at him.
As for really really BIG arguments, yeh we've had a few over the years. I think we've had maybe....oh I dunno....6 or 7 in total I'd say. We had one a couple of nights before we got married! That was not good! We had one the night before our engagement party aswell lol. Great timing we have haha.
(We've been together for almost 6 years, and married for just over 2 years).
I've been with my boyfriend over a year and we've never had an argument. We have play fights where we take the piss but nothing more serious than that. We've never fallen out over anything, never raised our voices and never been angry with each other. We tend to talk to each other if something bothers us, it never gets to the stage where we feel we have to argue.
It's strange, and good, that we have avoided having an argument as we spend so much time together and i'm a very stubborn person! We'll argue eventually, and that argument will probably make up for the year where we didn't fight
It's strange, and good, that we have avoided having an argument as we spend so much time together and i'm a very stubborn person! We'll argue eventually, and that argument will probably make up for the year where we didn't fight
Its healthy to argue in relationships, if you didnt then things would never get said for fear of arguing and both parties would end up really pissed at each other. (I have a pair of mates like this)
Me and my ex argued abit, but he would turn really nasty so sometimes they can be destructive
Me and my ex argued abit, but he would turn really nasty so sometimes they can be destructive
if you didnt then things would never get said for fear of arguing and both parties would end up really pissed at each other
I don't think that's always the case. It's possible to say things and discuss it rather than fighting over it. People do get scared of saying things, no doubt about that and sometimes it can lead to that kind of situation. In other relationships, people can still tell their partner the good and the bad, yet they still don't feel the need to fight about it. I've told my boyfriend, and he has told me plenty of things that we could have argued over but we didn't, we sat down talked about it and moved on. People shouldn't be so scared of saying something, I completely agree that fighting is healthy for relationships.
My bf and I went out for a year and a half and we never argued at all. But as soon as we moved in with each other that's when the arguments started. We cannot go almost a day without arguing. It is consistent and it is tiring. It's tiny little things that cause the biggest of arguments!
Louise88
I don't think that's always the case. It's possible to say things and discuss it rather than fighting over it. People do get scared of saying things, no doubt about that and sometimes it can lead to that kind of situation. In other relationships, people can still tell their partner the good and the bad, yet they still don't feel the need to fight about it. I've told my boyfriend, and he has told me plenty of things that we could have argued over but we didn't, we sat down talked about it and moved on. People shouldn't be so scared of saying something, I completely agree that fighting is healthy for relationships.
I was going off the way my friends are in their relationship. I know they hold back and I know there are issue that they need to address but wont (I know this because they both tell me)
In my current relationship we rarely argue, but when we do it's bad. Like for example last night we argued, i was completely angry/annoyed/upset at him because he hadn't got me a birthday present/card... i was more annoyed about the lack of card because birthday cards mean so much to me and i keep them for years. Anyway his response to me telling him this was "do you think i did it on purpose?" We argued for a while with me telling him i was his girlfriend and he had truely upset me, he still maintained he hadn't done it on purpose... (he hadn't seen me on my birthday and had had plenty of time to obtain a card ffs )
The other times we've argued have been about his game playing and once about his job. I hate it when we argue because i always get really emotional and he's very stubborn.
)The other times we've argued have been about his game playing and once about his job. I hate it when we argue because i always get really emotional and he's very stubborn.
gracie88
The other times we've argued have been about his game playing and once about his job. I hate it when we argue because i always get really emotional and he's very stubborn.
The other times we've argued have been about his game playing and once about his job. I hate it when we argue because i always get really emotional and he's very stubborn.
Haha, yeah I've totally been there - with the game playing....MEN! But I think we sorted it out 'cos he knows that I love games as much as him now...so he realises he can't go in a mood about me ignoring him to play the games I like...and then when he does play games I think he remembers that it's not nice to be completely blanked out!
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