re-arranging BFs room = angry BF

dont usually post stuff like this but I wanna know if other people had been in similar situations.
My Boyfriend went to work this morning, I stayed at his house and decided to put all my clothes away and tidy up. I noticed the window sill and things were all really dusty so decided to wash everything down. (his sis offered to help me) while I was doing it I decided to move the room aroung a bit - I moved the sofa so it was by the window.
When he came back he was really angry and it took me ages to get him to agree to leave it the way it is for a week or two.
so guys is this normal

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Reply 1

Oh dear. Yeah its normal, he probably had everything exactly where he wanted it and you just decided to move it on your own. He's allowed to be pissed off.

Reply 2

Niaya

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Oh dear. Yeah its normal, he probably had everything exactly where he wanted it and you just decided to move it on your own. He's allowed to be pissed off.

i just moved furniture i didnt put anything away or out of sight

Reply 3

bunthulhu

I don't think it's a guy thing, I wouldn't like it if someone moved all my stuff around to the way they wanted it, and without asking me.

Reply 4

Ywiss

Yeah, I'd be pretty irritated if someone moved all my stuff without asking.

I don't think I would be really infuriated though. Just mildly annoyed.

Reply 5

daniel_williams

i have to say i hate people moving my stuff, normally its when my mum has tidied my desk whilst i've been at school. i come home nad moan about it because i don't know where things have moved to.

even if my desk is a complete state i know exactly where everything is and its comfortable for me. so maybe this is how your boyfriend feels about the layout of his room.

i wouldn't worry too much about it i'm sure he appreciates what you've done but things might be a bit out of place for his liking but he'll grow to it and will adapt to his new surroundings.

but yeah i'm one of these freaks that don't like change and like things to be the way i left them.

Reply 6

evil groove

Perhaps he was scared that you might've found something he was hiding. :confused:

Seems a bit unreasonable otherwise IMO.

Reply 7

GipsyRose

Uhh yeah, it's pretty rude to go changing peoples' room around. I'd be quite annoyed as well. It's a really 'meddling' thing to do - leave his stuff alone!

Reply 8

Niaya

i just moved furniture i didnt put anything away or out of sight

Its the fact you've moved things which is the problem. :smile:

Reply 9

sssh

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I completely sympathise with him. You sound as bad as my mum! I'd hate it if anyone moved my stuff - rule of thumb when in other people's houses, don't interfere with their things because it's just rude.
And I resent threads that say "boys/girls would you feel like this" when it's inevitably going to be a huge generalisation, but that's just a personal sore point.

Reply 10

Floozie

Cleaning and tidying is acceptable. Moving furniture is going too far.

That said I would go absolutely mad if anyone touched anything in my room, even to dust. I have many things to hide.

I can understand his annoyance but I can also understand why you wanted to do it!

Reply 11

Mercer

Personally, I probably wouldn't notice.

But I'm weird, seriously. You're boyfriend sounds pretty normal, except if by 'it took me ages' you mean a year and an intergalactic quest.

Reply 12

shona

I don't think I've ever moved my boyfriend's stuff, except maybe his laptop. What I have done, is cleaned up before. He went out and left me in the house to do some studying, I got bored, and ended up cleaning his kitchen as a method of procrastination. My boyfriend and his housemates were grateful, not pissed off. :confused:

As for my house... again, I don't think he's really moved anything apart from my laptop. Stuff in the kitchen, maybe, but only when he's tidied up, not known where something's meant to have gone, and I've been either out or asleep.

It used to annoy me, him reading out texts off my phone if I was busy doing something like washing up (bloody hell, it sounds like we're never out of the kitchen) but I don't really mind anymore. We don't have anything to hide, so it's not a big deal.

Reply 13

blissy

Getting angry about it is probably OTT, but I can understand him thinking it's a bit of an invasion! (if you don't live together - which I assume you don't).

Put it into perspective - you moved a sofa, he got angry about you moving a sofa. It could be a lot worse! Kiss and make up :smile:

Reply 14

Niaya

thanx guys - we had a chat and I've promised NEVER to re-arrange the room without asking first and he thanked me for the cleaning I did

Reply 15

blissy

Niaya

thanx guys - we had a chat and I've promised NEVER to re-arrange the room without asking first and he thanked me for the cleaning I did

Superb!

Reply 16

Vampyrcorn

excellent! :biggrin:

Out of curiousity, do you think that you will ask his permission to move it all around again?

Reply 17

bipersona

cleaning is fine.. moving round someone elses stuff in their room is rude.. thats their room.. personal space and how they like it.. even if ur his gf.. doesnt give u the right to move stuff around to how u see fit.

Reply 18

SuperhansFavouriteAlsatian

Dumpable offence in my book.

Reply 19

Nix!

It amazes me why you haven't comprehended why he was annoyed. It's his personal space and you've completely disrespected that. Fair enough about the cleaning, but it is annoying when people move stuff when you didn't want it touched to begin with...