Sorry for the emo rant.

The past few months have been hell.
- I found my dad (unconscious) laying on the floor, ****ting blood and with grey skin (I dialled 999 and he was in hospital for a while)
- Exam stress, and a lot of it.
- I've been cheated on twice, and split up with a boyfriend of 2 years.
- My now ex-boyfriend (who I still have feelings for, despite my better judgement) is facing a court hearing for a serious offence. I don't think it's appropriate to say what for.
- I've been the victim of sexual assult.
- I have insomnia.
- I'm set to move house, the moving date is in the middle of my exams.

I've been to the doctors, he gave me anti-anxiety and sleeping pills, and reffered me to a counsellor. The anxiety pills have no effect. The sleeping pills get me to sleep, but they don't keep me asleep. I had 3 counselling sessions and felt patronised so I haven't been back.

I feel like things aren't getting any better. I know I can't get the AS grades I want/deserve. What can I realisticaly do?

Reply 1

joz12345

1

you could appeal with your grades, im sorry to hear about your dad!

Reply 2

milly.

OP

12

My English teacher said she'd try and get me special consideration with the exam board. That was a week or two ago and she hasn't said anything else about it so I assume she got nowhere.

Reply 3

Seoid

Priortise and try to make things easier on yourself. You can't deal with all this at once, and some things are more urgent than others, such as your exams, so do what you can to relieve the pressure in that area and let other things lie for the moment until you have a bit more headspace. You have a lot to get through practically and emotionally so don't expect things to be right straight away, give it time, give yourself a break, allow yourself to let things go and focus on what's really important for the time being if you can. I've been in a similarly bad way and it's only by looking back now that I realise it all just took time, and eventually I started to get through things. We all have these really bad periods, and you're having a particulary bad one, which really sucks, but the main thing to realise is that it's not the end of the world and you can get out of it, you just have to be kind to yourself, decide what's important and what's not and try to get yourself to where you want to be in, say, a year's time.

Try to find someone, anyone, to talk to (feel free to PM me if you like) and let things out as and when you're feeling them. You'll have good days and bad, but don't feel like you're going back to square one, sometimes it'll feel like you're getting nowhere but eventually you'll realise that you are making progress. Most of all, and I'm going to say it again, give yourself a break. Be realistic about what you expect of yourself, allow yourself to just cry and stay in bed from time to time, but don't allow yourself to wallow for a long time or start to feel self-pity. Try to find things that are good in your life and also, don't forget to ask for help - people can't and won't help you if they don't know what you want. It's ok to say to someone, "I just want a hug" or "I just need to cry" and to ask them to be with you. Most people will be flattered that you're relying on their support.

Good luck.

Reply 4

bluenoxid

13

Go back to your doctors and appeal for a new counsellor.

Reply 5

JacquesNoir

1

Noxid

Go back to your doctors and appeal for a new counsellor.

Why is it automatically the counsellor and not her negative attitude? If someone doesn't want help, they can't be helped.

Don't associate with people that would bring you down. And is your dad an alcoholic or something? That's not good. Cut all negative things out of your life and start to think positive.

"Surrounded yourself with all the wrong faces. Spending your time in all the wrong places. Puttin' your faith in things that only make you cry."

Occupy your time, free your mind. If you spend too much time on your own your negative thoughts will eat you like a Kinder egg! And they will break the toy that is your soul!

Profound, non?

Reply 6

milly.

OP

12

I do want help, hence this thread is for asking people what I can do. My dad isn't an alcoholic. Profound, yes.

Reply 7

username47781

20

Is there not someone you can see at school, that you could explain your circumstances to?

Reply 8

ßlαcksωαn

17

Don't knock emos.
And go back to counselling.

Reply 9

Angrybanana

11

JacquesNoir

Why is it automatically the counsellor and not her negative attitude? If someone doesn't want help, they can't be helped.

Don't associate with people that would bring you down. And is your dad an alcoholic or something? That's not good. Cut all negative things out of your life and start to think positive.

"Surrounded yourself with all the wrong faces. Spending your time in all the wrong places. Puttin' your faith in things that only make you cry."

Occupy your time, free your mind. If you spend too much time on your own your negative thoughts will eat you like a Kinder egg! And they will break the toy that is your soul!

Profound, non?

^o) So you're saying she should cut her sick dad out of her life because he's "bringing her down"? That's not what family is about. At least not family you care about anyway.

Sorry for the emo rant.

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