Yet another boyfriend problems thread...

OP

Thanks

Awesome sig btw, I love family guy! :biggrin:

Reply 3

national

11

Blocking you on MSN is a bit extreme.

I'd love to tell you to go over to his house and go all "fatal attraction" on him, stand at the window and peer at him watching his film, or walk into his house and creep up behind him and just stand there, but I'm not going to because that's a bad idea...

Here, you need to wait for him to come to you.
Don't contact him or go see him or anything of that sort.
He'll soon realise that at the grand old age of 20 one musn't act like a child because it isn't becoming of a man.
Go out with friends or something, but don't show him that you're bothered by his strop at all.
He will come grovelling back with an apology, trust me
:smile:

Reply 4

WokSz

17

Just ignore him and let him come to you. I know it's hard to just cut someone out, but unfortunately that's all you can do. Maybe see what happens tomorrow?

Reply 5

OP

Yeah I know, thanks guys. :smile:

I don't really need advice..'cos I've learnt to shut him out now when he pisses me off..just needed to have a rant I think! Ah well, I've got bigger things to worry about at the moment (exams and so on :smile:

) so I shall just ignore him!

Oh, by the way, the window thing wouldn't work Theodore...he has an attic bedroom! Hahaha. So I could go climb on the roof and scare him I guess..but that would just be dangerous. :biggrin:

Reply 6

I think he is being pathetic, you got to have friends outside your relationship. He sounds possessive which is not good in a relationship, if he keeps acting like this ditch him.

Reply 7

OP

That's easy to say on an internet forum, but not so easy to do in real life. I really love the guy and we've been together a long time. He's just being a knob, I shall ignore him until he's over it. I don't think he minded that I was talking to another guy, it was just 'cos I got bored and closed the window down, so he probably thinks I have something to hide...

Reply 8

spacecowgirl89

That's easy to say on an internet forum, but not so easy to do in real life. I really love the guy and we've been together a long time. He's just being a knob, I shall ignore him until he's over it. I don't think he minded that I was talking to another guy, it was just 'cos I got bored and closed the window down, so he probably thinks I have something to hide...

Yeah it isn't easy in real life, but his behaviour is of a person who is possessed. He clearly did have a problem with you talking to another guy.

You can't let him dictate to you who you talk to, you shouldn't have to explain to him that you got bored talking to this guy.

You need to tell him how he made you feel, his behaviour, otherwise it will continue. If he don't trust you how can a relationship work, trust me I been in a relationship like this, it's no fun.

Talk to him.

Reply 9

OP

I've already been there, I've done all the talking I can handle for one night, he's just in a mood so I'm leaving him alone. :p:

Men!

And I made it quite clear how I felt :smile:

Reply 10

spacecowgirl89

I've already been there, I've done all the talking I can handle for one night, he's just in a mood so I'm leaving him alone. :p:

Men!

And I made it quite clear how I felt :smile:

I think you need to lay it out too him that if he can't trust you then, he should not be in a relationship with you. I would say if he still wants you, he needs to make a big apology.

Reply 11

WokSz

17

spacecowgirl - To be fair, I kind of understand where he's coming from as well. A relationship isn't simply about blind trust. By closing the window you did put him in doubt too. I do understand that it was wrong of him to check out the entire conversation, but you shouldn't have closed the window. It makes a bad situation worse.

Reply 12

--

3

It's my life

I think he is being pathetic, you got to have friends outside your relationship. He sounds possessive which is not good in a relationship, if he keeps acting like this ditch him.

Are you completely mental? I'd be really suprised if you'd ever had a relationship which had survived its first argument if this is your attitude. She's fairly far from needing to dump him.

Reply 13

Arteta

15

^I dunno i think if i was her i'd just dump/ignore him too. Getting into an argument over something silly is one thing. But refusing to talk it through...blocking on msn and telling you to go home and ignoring you is another.
It's childish and it's a lack of communication and i wouldn't devote my time to somebody like that, personally.

Reply 14

macintosh

Gaz.

^I dunno i think if i was her i'd just dump/ignore him too. Getting into an argument over something silly is one thing. But refusing to talk it through...blocking on msn and telling you to go home and ignoring you is another.
It's childish and it's a lack of communication and i wouldn't devote my time to somebody like that, personally.

yeah but at the same time relationships are hard and they do take work and understanding and it does seem rather a small thing so suggest she dumps him over, especially when they've been together such a long time.
i mean, obviously he shouldn't be treating her like that but at the same time i know especially with my bf sometimes when we fight one or the other just doesn't feel capable of resolving it right then and needs some space before they feel calm enough to be able to resolve the issue - perhaps that's what he was doing in a really, clumsy way.

obviously he owes her an apology and need to sort himself out but from the sounds of it he doesn't act like this all the time and so i really don't think it's worth breaking up an otherwise good relationship over. everyone has days when they act terribly and this is obviously one of his and once he comes round and is ready to apologise and resolve it i really don't see why they shouldn't be able to get over it.

Reply 15