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    (Original post by MountKimbie)
    What did you gain from that one-sided friendship?
    It wasn't always one sided. I mean I was the one with the feelings. But still, we had a good time together I feel.
    We worked together, we ate together, we laughed together, bought each other things, always stayed together, trusted each other, etc.

    I don't know if this is relevant, but this was the first time I felt very close to a girl. And also, I just really really liked her. I liked many things about her. Of course there were things I really didn't like about her too.

    And what's bothering me now is that none of this mattered to her. She seems totally unfazed by this, she doesn't seem sad (from what I saw on wednesday, and the replies I got from her via email)

    One thing that has gotten really bad during the past year has been my health. And I think it was primarily due to this situation with the girl.

    People are saying to me don't worry, you will get through this and it will make you a stronger person. I hope they are right.

    But right now, I honestly miss her so much. I will never be able to sit with her, talk to her, laugh with her, etc.
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    Well this was unexpected. I don't know ocd or obsession or whatever. In simple terms, I really liked this girl. I was crazy about her true. But despite everything, she was my friend. Whether she deserved it or acted like it I don't know. But it felt real to me. I remember so many good memories (bad ones too)

    She was very cruel rude hypocritical etc sometimes. I honestly was just honest with her and told her that I didn't like the way she was treating me and everything and she just said its my life I do what I want it's not your business etc.

    This hurt me.

    For example she messaged me on Saturday. All normal. Then Sunday I messaged her and she had a go at me saying don't disturb me, don't talk on the weekends etc.

    How can she say that? She messages me herself all the time and she says that to me?

    I was there for her time after time after time. I honestly did the world for her.

    I ditched other friends just to spend time with her. I broke my plans to help her out. I cared about her more than myself. I put so much time and effort into her. Which was wrong I know.

    But, she just dropped me so easily.

    I do blame myself a lot. For my childish behaviour, for that I always became upset for small reasons etc. But she was very curl and heartless.

    She replaced me with another friend. I used to be her best friend. She said this guy is my best friend (even though he told her that he is in love with her for 3yrs) she was upset about that but now they are all normal. She is with him all the time.

    She replaced me. She forgot about me. She dropped me. She didn't care about me. She didn't give me a chance. She even threatened me.

    Do u see why I am so upset and heartbroken?

    Yes you all told me to drop her etc, but I just couldn't bring myself to do that. I just wanted to enjoy our time left together.

    Also, since for my entire time at uni, I spent it with her, now I feel rather alone and isolated. Yes I have a few other friends but it's just not the same. They are all so supportive and are helping me, talking to me etc, but still it's just hurting.

    Oh this is so hard. Please understand me. I'm not asking for sympathy or anything like that. I'm just really struggling.
    You aren't the only person in the world who has problems. You only use this website for one purpose and that's as an avenue for your shortcomings with girls. Not one time in over 1000 posts have you ever commented on another user's threads which is so small-minded.

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    (Original post by frozen_fire)
    You aren't the only person in the world who has problems. You only use this website for one purpose and that's as an avenue for your shortcomings with girls. Not one time in over 1000 posts have you ever commented on another user's threads which is so small-minded.

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    I know. I think I am not good at giving advice, especially in relationships/friendship and all that as you can clearly see. I didn't even want to post on here again but I honestly was feeling helpless
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    I know. I think I am not good at giving advice, especially in relationships/friendship and all that as you can clearly see. I didn't even want to post on here again but I honestly was feeling helpless
    Funnily enough the relationship forum is just one out of hundreds on TSR but I wouldn't expect you to know that as your contributions to discussions outside your own are non-existent.

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    (Original post by frozen_fire)
    Funnily enough the relationship forum is just one out of hundreds on TSR but I wouldn't expect you to know that as your contributions to discussions outside your own are non-existent.

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    This just confuses the whole issue of whether he is a troll or not.....

    If he is...absolute mastery.
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    (Original post by MountKimbie)
    This just confuses the whole issue of whether he is a troll or not.....

    If he is...absolute mastery.
    I am not a troll. Jesus I would have to be really really bored. This is all real.
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    You definitely have severe ocd.

    You need to see a professional asap. Dont listen to people like sophiesmall and georgia who tell you 'omg dont ignore blah blah'>Trust me I k now what I ma talking about here
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    I am not a troll. Jesus I would have to be really really bored. This is all real.
    Then I feel really sorry for you. But you know there is nothing we can do for you. You should hang around TSR more. It might help take your mind of things and it's nice being part of a unique community.
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    (Original post by Legit)
    😂

    Don't start stuff you know you can't win.
    I could win
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    (Original post by georgiaswift)
    Your new account has already been banned. Lmao.
    You still annoying
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    (Original post by MountKimbie)
    Then I feel really sorry for you. But you know there is nothing we can do for you. You should hang around TSR more. It might help take your mind of things and it's nice being part of a unique community.
    Perhaps. I took start posting replies to other peoples' threads like someone said.

    Thankfully, I have been doing for uni work for the past few hours. I am fighting through the pain, the sadness, etc and just going through it. I think time will ease my pain. So I will just try and keep busy. Although knowing me, tomorrow I may feel upset again. But I will try.
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    1. Don't be pathetic.
    2. Don't be needy.
    3. Make new friends.
    4. Respect yourself.

    You respect this girl more than you respect yourself so she treats you like a doormat. How can you expect a healthy friendship if you're always the one putting in the effort and giving the other person no breathing space?

    You need to chill out and make friends that aren't girls because clearly you have attachment issues. Once you learn how to maintain a healthy friendship with guys, then start with making friends with girls. If you can't handle that then don't make friends with girls at all until you're old enough to understand how friendship works.
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    I am struggling a lot with moving on from the end of my friendship with the girl.

    I haven't done any uni work in 5 days, I am feeling extremely depressed and tearful. I have got chest pain, I am crying, I have no energy, no motivation, I can't even concentrate.

    I am worried about this, I just have 2 months of uni left and I don't want to throw away all my hard work.

    She has totally blocked me from everywhere and said I will never talk to you again.

    I am extremely down and visibly shaken by all of this.

    I emailed my university counselling dept and they said it took take 2-3 weeks to get an appointment due to how busy the service has been during this calendar year.

    I honestly don't have time to mourn over this now, I have too much work to do. But I can't do it, I am struggling to concentrate.

    There were things I needed her help on too and now I can't.

    This is the worst I have ever felt in my life.

    I really wish this didn't happen. Maybe I could have done things differently, maybe I should have not been so clingy and jealous and upset etc. This friendship ended in a bad way and I will always regret this.

    I honestly don't know what to do.
    ohh sweetheart don't worry if you get this txt which i hope you do as iam new to this just remember theres other girls out there who are
    waiting for you if you give them a chance youl too get a new exciting opportunity a new beginning for both wat do you think?
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    Well this was unexpected. I don't know ocd or obsession or whatever. In simple terms, I really liked this girl. I was crazy about her true. But despite everything, she was my friend. Whether she deserved it or acted like it I don't know. But it felt real to me. I remember so many good memories (bad ones too)

    She was very cruel rude hypocritical etc sometimes. I honestly was just honest with her and told her that I didn't like the way she was treating me and everything and she just said its my life I do what I want it's not your business etc.

    This hurt me.

    For example she messaged me on Saturday. All normal. Then Sunday I messaged her and she had a go at me saying don't disturb me, don't talk on the weekends etc.

    How can she say that? She messages me herself all the time and she says that to me?

    I was there for her time after time after time. I honestly did the world for her.

    I ditched other friends just to spend time with her. I broke my plans to help her out. I cared about her more than myself. I put so much time and effort into her. Which was wrong I know.

    But, she just dropped me so easily.

    I do blame myself a lot. For my childish behaviour, for that I always became upset for small reasons etc. But she was very curl and heartless.

    She replaced me with another friend. I used to be her best friend. She said this guy is my best friend (even though he told her that he is in love with her for 3yrs) she was upset about that but now they are all normal. She is with him all the time.

    She replaced me. She forgot about me. She dropped me. She didn't care about me. She didn't give me a chance. She even threatened me.

    Do u see why I am so upset and heartbroken?

    Yes you all told me to drop her etc, but I just couldn't bring myself to do that. I just wanted to enjoy our time left together.

    Also, since for my entire time at uni, I spent it with her, now I feel rather alone and isolated. Yes I have a few other friends but it's just not the same. They are all so supportive and are helping me, talking to me etc, but still it's just hurting.

    Oh this is so hard. Please understand me. I'm not asking for sympathy or anything like that. I'm just really struggling.
    If your struggling i reccomend you goto a mental health professional/counsellor/a doctor
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    I honestly don't have a mental illness. I'm a good caring person. Everyone says this about me. I'm intelligent too. I got the highest grade on my course last year. I'm on course to finish my degree with a first (provided I don't screw up now).

    I honestly don't mean to make people mad on here. I'm not a troll. I haven't posted on any other forums in over a year.

    I just liked her so much. She is very important for me. And now she's gone and I feel broken.
    Anyone can have a mental health issue regardless of ontelligence goto a mental health professional and ask for help,mention the threads on here aswell
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    (Original post by greatguy256)
    You definitely have severe ocd.

    You need to see a professional asap. Dont listen to people like sophiesmall and georgia who tell you 'omg dont ignore blah blah'>Trust me I k now what I ma talking about here
    Can you stop diagnosing this person even if you are qualified to know if the person is sufferingfrom mental illness as a "doctor" or a "student studying medicine" or whether you can personally recognise OCD you have no right to perform such an unqualified diagnosis you have no information on believeteams background or medical history.

    Believeteam as I saod before seek some help from a mental health professional/gp/doctor
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    Actually, she's doing you a favor by blocking you. That way, you won't be tempted to contact her and never get over her. I have blocked guys before, and it isn't to be mean, it's to stop contact so we both can heal and move on. I dated a guy once who never left me alone, and eventually, I had to block him. I don't know why she blocked you, but see it as a positive, and just move on. Sorry you're hurting, break ups are hard, I know.
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    Yes, just study hard and don't throw all your hard work away. But if you can't concentrate, socialise and have fun to take your mind off it. Or you could get professional help and see a counsellor or something
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    (Original post by *Deidre*)
    Actually, she's doing you a favor by blocking you. That way, you won't be tempted to contact her and never get over her. I have blocked guys before, and it isn't to be mean, it's to stop contact so we both can heal and move on. I dated a guy once who never left me alone, and eventually, I had to block him. I don't know why she blocked you, but see it as a positive, and just move on. Sorry you're hurting, break ups are hard, I know.
    She has ended this friendship because:
    - I was jealous
    - I acted like a child
    - She doesn't like my attitude, my character,etc
    - I "insisted"
    - She doesn't trust me anymore
    - And she thinks I will bring problems in her life.

    I think that pretty much sums it all up.

    It's very hard. I am hurting a lot. And I am dreading see her in uni because it will just make me feel more sad, more upset and more stressed.
 
 
 
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