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    (Original post by raaachek)
    Does your first name begin with an E?
    No.

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    Yes, just study hard and don't throw all your hard work away. But if you can't concentrate, socialise and have fun to take your mind off it. Or you could get professional help and see a counsellor or something
    I am trying. Got so much work to do it's piling up.
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    out of curiousity, is there a way to block someone on fb so that you yourself can not contact them. I kinda am in a smilar boat to the author, except she hasnt blocked me, its more a case of weird love-hate relationship
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    (Original post by UWS)
    1. Don't be pathetic.
    2. Don't be needy.
    3. Make new friends.
    4. Respect yourself.

    You respect this girl more than you respect yourself so she treats you like a doormat. How can you expect a healthy friendship if you're always the one putting in the effort and giving the other person no breathing space?

    You need to chill out and make friends that aren't girls because clearly you have attachment issues. Once you learn how to maintain a healthy friendship with guys, then start with making friends with girls. If you can't handle that then don't make friends with girls at all until you're old enough to understand how friendship works.
    I know this now. Yeah I liked her more than even myself. Which was wrong.

    I don't have problems with any other friends. Maybe it's simply because I am crazy about her and I just cannot control my feelings.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    out of curiousity, is there a way to block someone on fb so that you yourself can not contact them. I kinda am in a smilar boat to the author, except she hasnt blocked me, its more a case of weird love-hate relationship
    Well if you block them then you shouldn't be able to contact them. Unless you unblock them?
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    Well if you block them then you shouldn't be able to contact them. Unless you unblock them?
    is there a way to block them without having the option of ubnblocking them (unless emergency)
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    is there a way to block them without having the option of ubnblocking them (unless emergency)
    No. If you want to block them then block them, and you can unblock them if it's an "emergency". There's no need for an "emergency unblock" because if you don't want to talk to them just keep them blocked.
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    She has ended this friendship because:
    - I was jealous
    - I acted like a child
    - She doesn't like my attitude, my character,etc
    - I "insisted"
    - She doesn't trust me anymore
    - And she thinks I will bring problems in her life.

    I think that pretty much sums it all up.

    It's very hard. I am hurting a lot. And I am dreading see her in uni because it will just make me feel more sad, more upset and more stressed.
    How many weeks do you have left of uni now and how long do you get off for easter?

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    (Original post by frozen_fire)
    How many weeks do you have left of uni now and how long do you get off for easter?

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    Ok, so we have 3 more weeks from monday. Then a 2 week easter break. And then another 2 weeks after that. That's all.

    Our graduation is in around 15th July.

    I was so looking forward to graduation, to enjoy our last day of being in uni together, taking pictures with each other. Ahh, this will never happen now. It breaks my heart.
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    Ok, so we have 3 more weeks from monday. Then a 2 week easter break. And then another 2 weeks after that. That's all.

    Our graduation is in around 15th July.

    I was so looking forward to graduation, to enjoy our last day of being in uni together, taking pictures with each other. Ahh, this will never happen now. It breaks my heart.
    Honestly, graduation isn't all that glamorous an event. People are accompanied with their parents for the most part and the actual ceremony is spent sat down in a big room clapping endlessly.

    5 weeks is very little. You need to move forwards, using the Easter break to focus on exams. It's also important to set the wheels in motion career-wise. Setting long-term goals is a very productive use of time at this stage. Regardless of how the next 2 months pan out, she isn't going to be around after that.

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    (Original post by frozen_fire)
    Honestly, graduation isn't all that glamorous an event. People are accompanied with their parents for the most part and the actual ceremony is spent sat down in a big room clapping endlessly.

    5 weeks is very little. You need to move forwards, using the Easter break to focus on exams. It's also important to set the wheels in motion career-wise. Setting long-term goals is a very productive use of time at this stage. Regardless of how the next 2 months pan out, she isn't going to be around after that.

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    Perhaps, but it is a special moment. I really wanted her to be a part of that. Now whenever I think of my uni life, I will always just think of this girl and how bad it ended.

    I am trying to do my work, I have tons to do. And yeah you are right, I need to start applying for graduate schemes again and jobs in general. At the moment I just cannot, I have so many deadlines looming over my head.

    I even needed her help on a few things and I can't ask.

    I know that she will say hi to me. But that's it. I will just be sad so I will just stay away.

    What upsets me more is why she is not feeling upset about this? It means she did not care about me at all. I was nothing to her. How can she do that? It's just cruel and heartless and it's hard to swallow this reality.
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    Perhaps, but it is a special moment. I really wanted her to be a part of that. Now whenever I think of my uni life, I will always just think of this girl and how bad it ended.

    I am trying to do my work, I have tons to do. And yeah you are right, I need to start applying for graduate schemes again and jobs in general. At the moment I just cannot, I have so many deadlines looming over my head.

    I even needed her help on a few things and I can't ask.

    I know that she will say hi to me. But that's it. I will just be sad so I will just stay away.

    What upsets me more is why she is not feeling upset about this? It means she did not care about me at all. I was nothing to her. How can she do that? It's just cruel and heartless and it's hard to swallow this reality.
    It's in your imagination though, the excruciating levels of meaning and importance you attach to this girl are magnified x1000 because you are obsessed with her. You always ignore the bad things she has done to upset you and say to yourself things will be different every time she chooses to unblock you, yet the cycle continues.

    The truth is she knows she can get away with doing or saying whatever she likes because no matter what you'll always come back to her when she clicks her fingers. Why does she never feel upset? Because she doesn't care about you anywhere near as much as you would like to think. How little self-respect do you have left to want to engage in this type of relationship?

    The 'special moment' you allude to has nothing to do with her. Your graduation is a way to mark your degree achievement yet you always find a way to make everything about her. Your happiness is defined by this one person and that dependency is so unhealthy.


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    (Original post by frozen_fire)
    It's in your imagination though, the excruciating levels of meaning and importance you attach to this girl are magnified x1000 because you are obsessed with her. You always ignore the bad things she has done to upset you and say to yourself things will be different every time she chooses to unblock you, yet the cycle continues.

    The truth is she knows she can get away with doing or saying whatever she likes because no matter what you'll always come back to her when she clicks her fingers. Why does she never feel upset? Because she doesn't care about you anywhere near as much as you would like to think. How little self-respect do you have left to want to engage in this type of relationship?

    The 'special moment' you allude to has nothing to do with her. Your graduation is a way to mark your degree achievement yet you always find a way to make everything about her. Your happiness is defined by this one person and that dependency is so unhealthy.
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    Oh I really think you are spot on with your analysis here. I have attached so much importance and meaning to this girl which is why this is so much worse. I never wanted to admit this, but maybe I am obsessed with her? I certainly did not mean to do that or anything, but clearly this is not healthy. I always ignore the bad things or just let them go and hope things would be different but every time she did unblock me, she would do something again and again.

    So true, she knows I would go back running to her. But in this case, she won't even do that, I mean, she will never be my friend again. I just wished she actually treated me like a friend and didn't upset me all the upset etc.

    It's like my happiness depends on her. This is so wrong and so unhealthy. Never again will I do this with another girl. That much I have learnt.
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    I'm sorry. I am not good at controlling my feelings. It's just so hard right now. I am trying to hard to focus on my work but it's just not happening. I cannot go to the gym right now because I am already falling way behind with my work. I have lost my appetite..I have lost like 3kg in the last week, I am honestly struggling really bad with this.

    I did go out with a friend yesterday and temporarily my mind was slightly better but as soon as I got back home, I was in tears again.
    I am sorry this is so tough, and it's not going to be easy but you will pass through this. Do more of what makes you happy e.g. go out, watch funny videos etc. And express your feelings, maybe creatively through art, etc. Set up a calming playlist maybe, so it will help you relax and focus on work. Sorry if this isn't really helpful, but I believe in you
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    just checked your profile and you've been making threads about this girl since 2014. This is seriously ****ed up lmfao. I would like to share a quote from another member who is very much like you.


    ''I feel an actual physical pain in my heart'' - ForumAddict

    LMAO
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    Oh I really think you are spot on with your analysis here. I have attached so much importance and meaning to this girl which is why this is so much worse. I never wanted to admit this, but maybe I am obsessed with her? I certainly did not mean to do that or anything, but clearly this is not healthy. I always ignore the bad things or just let them go and hope things would be different but every time she did unblock me, she would do something again and again.

    So true, she knows I would go back running to her. But in this case, she won't even do that, I mean, she will never be my friend again. I just wished she actually treated me like a friend and didn't upset me all the upset etc.

    It's like my happiness depends on her. This is so wrong and so unhealthy. Never again will I do this with another girl. That much I have learnt.
    Go to your GP/counsellor and tell them everything...
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    In most cases the best things to do in this situation are to either go on holiday or chase a lot of new tail.
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    Hello friend

    I see your heartbroken

    And you've been like this for quite a while

    The reason why you haven't moved on is because you've been looking for a quick fix

    A quick solution to get you out of this situation

    A quick tip to get you to the top of the mountain where you will be way over her

    But in a delicate situation like this do you really want to skip the journey and get to the destination? Because most likely you'll end up falling back down the mountain again

    Life is about the journey, the journey up the mountain is why we climb a mountain

    The peak of the mountain is only enjoyed after so much hard work and dedication

    So you my friend need to apply the advice everyone in this thread has given and slowly but surely you will find things about yourself that you never knew before. You will discover your independence and then work on your interdependence. You are in final year university, it's time for you to become a man, and lead yourself through your own journey. your life is in your hands, not hers, not anybodies on this forum, not mine. We all will carry on with our lives like normal, and so will she, and so you need to begin your journey. You need to find your independence and begin climbing your mountain. And then when you have overcome your hurdles come back to this forum and help another who was in your situation. You will do brilliantly

    I wish you all the best my friend
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    (Original post by believeteam22)
    She has ended this friendship because:
    - I was jealous
    - I acted like a child
    - She doesn't like my attitude, my character,etc
    - I "insisted"
    - She doesn't trust me anymore
    - And she thinks I will bring problems in her life.

    I think that pretty much sums it all up.

    It's very hard. I am hurting a lot. And I am dreading see her in uni because it will just make me feel more sad, more upset and more stressed.
    Well, break ups are hard, sorry this happened. If there's any truth in what she's saying, then maybe this is a wake up call for you to change some of your behaviors? But, some advice for you - don't make a girl your entire world. Maybe just spend some time now healing from the break up, and finding some time to just do stuff with your friends, etc.
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    How did I miss this thread?

    Please follow georgiaswift's advice. Please. It's the best thing you can do.
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    (Original post by *Deidre*)
    Well, break ups are hard, sorry this happened. If there's any truth in what she's saying, then maybe this is a wake up call for you to change some of your behaviors? But, some advice for you - don't make a girl your entire world. Maybe just spend some time now healing from the break up, and finding some time to just do stuff with your friends, etc.
    Some of it yeah. I was childish and jealous. I will never make a girl my entire world again. But honestly it's hurting me so much. I am trying to stay occupied but oh god it's killing me
 
 
 
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