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Love or Infatuation
hey, first post...
How do you tell the difference between Love and Infatuation?
There's a saying "love me little, love me long"..so I suppose if you take it slow, then the relationship will last?
Or is infatuation just associated with young age...
How do you tell the difference between Love and Infatuation?
There's a saying "love me little, love me long"..so I suppose if you take it slow, then the relationship will last?
Or is infatuation just associated with young age...
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Reply 1
If you ever have to ask it isnt love 
You know when you really love someone.
Taking things slow doesnt mean it'll last either- in the same way that moving quickly doesnt mean it will fail.
Infatuation can occur at any age- people just generally presume that young people dont know what love is, and as such refere to relationships etc as infactuation.
You know when you really love someone.
Taking things slow doesnt mean it'll last either- in the same way that moving quickly doesnt mean it will fail.
Infatuation can occur at any age- people just generally presume that young people dont know what love is, and as such refere to relationships etc as infactuation.
Everyone will have different definitions of love. Its hard to say what it is. All i know is i knew i loved my boyfriend a year or so after we started going out when i got a text late at night from his mum's phone saying there'd been an accident. As i read down the text it was from him as he didn't have his phone with him, and they were all okay, but in that split second i felt like my heart had been torn out and i knew i couldn't live without the boy No way of saying that taking stuff slow will turn lust into love. Infatuation i guess is you think about them all the time, its more of a physical closeness thing (not necessarily sex) than emotional closeness. Not sure though!
No way of saying that taking stuff slow will turn lust into love. Infatuation i guess is you think about them all the time, its more of a physical closeness thing (not necessarily sex) than emotional closeness. Not sure though! Reply 3
To be honest, only you can tell if it's love or infatuation. Here's a start how do you feel when your around them?
I believe that love is like this according to the Bible:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
Reply 5
This may sound daft, but I'm never sure how the two can be confused. I mean, infactuation is something I associate with when you first meet someone, whereas love I see as being part of a long term commitment.
Reply 6
i think you can feel both at the same time. that need to be so close to that person like with infatuation can be felt at the same time as love. i was so in love with my first love but at the same time totally infatuated with him. i think like niki04 said sometimes events will happen and you will just know. it takes time 2 fall in love but when u do u will know.
Reply 7
irisng
I believe that love is like this according to the Bible:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
Yes that is true
Reply 8
infatuation is that dangerous thing, that can come along at the wrong time and get you into all sorts of trouble.
love is instantanoues, it's unique to all of us and only we can truely tell the differnce between the two.
'never leave the one you love for the one you like, because the one you like will leave you for the one they love'
love is instantanoues, it's unique to all of us and only we can truely tell the differnce between the two.
'never leave the one you love for the one you like, because the one you like will leave you for the one they love'
Reply 9
Love is infatuation mixed with Stockholm syndrome.
maverick.nazgul
hey, first post...
How do you tell the difference between Love and Infatuation?
There's a saying "love me little, love me long"..so I suppose if you take it slow, then the relationship will last?
Or is infatuation just associated with young age...
How do you tell the difference between Love and Infatuation?
There's a saying "love me little, love me long"..so I suppose if you take it slow, then the relationship will last?
Or is infatuation just associated with young age...
True Love is sumthing wich lasts thru wateva and forever !!
Infatuation is sumthing wich is only temporary attraction and like any drug - wears off with time !!
When its Love, u'l know !!
Reply 12
sweetface.
Yes that is true
Except for when it's unrequited
Reply 14
i would have to say i have fallen in love everyday with my partner in crime, my soul mate, my love, my bf, my best friend. he is everything to me, i know that its taken me a long time to really feel his love and his spirit. but its worth the time that i have spent wanting to feel it. he and i have spent almost 3 yrs together in july and we have certainly had a rollercoaster ride. i think him every minute of everyday, i dunno what it is but i miss him and crave his smell. if anything happened to him now or his family i would sink into a corner and find it hard to leave it. he is so part of my life now and i think he feels he is in mine. we connect and gel so well. some may say we are incompatible but thats crap i think. relationships take work and commitment and certainly feel we have contributed to that. good luck to anyone trying to find that way in love. know something, love takes hard work and determination, understanding of each other, something i only recently let happen, which i know sounds silly but things happened in the early days that stopped it happening sooner.
Reply 15
check this out. it might help you decide.
http://www.visionsoflove.com/relationshipsLove/isitLoveorInfatuation.htm
http://www.visionsoflove.com/relationshipsLove/isitLoveorInfatuation.htm
nicki04
Everyone will have different definitions of love. Its hard to say what it is. All i know is i knew i loved my boyfriend a year or so after we started going out when i got a text late at night from his mum's phone saying there'd been an accident. As i read down the text it was from him as he didn't have his phone with him, and they were all okay, but in that split second i felt like my heart had been torn out and i knew i couldn't live without the boy No way of saying that taking stuff slow will turn lust into love. Infatuation i guess is you think about them all the time, its more of a physical closeness thing (not necessarily sex) than emotional closeness. Not sure though!
No way of saying that taking stuff slow will turn lust into love. Infatuation i guess is you think about them all the time, its more of a physical closeness thing (not necessarily sex) than emotional closeness. Not sure though! What you wrote has best helped me to understand the difference between love and infatuation. Thanks for that. That is a real insight into what love really is and I am so glad now I know the difference. I have never experienced love personally but your explantion has now got me to understand and recently I have really been wondering.
Thanks again.x
Reply 17
Love is such a thing, and when you have it, its the best feeling.
Its a natural high that you never want to end.
I've been with my lady for almost three years, (my good lady being the poster Jo1986 who posted above), and like she said we have certainly had our ups and downs, but now things seem to have smoothed over a little and things seems to be going better.
We seem to be much better friends now and get on well.
After you start going out with someone, there is the "honeymoon period" which is the first three months of the relationship. Thats all nice hugs and getting to know your partner, after that though the relationship is a steady climb.
Anyway after a certain amount of time though, you really get to know your partner and understand them, and therefore things seem to get better.
That is the point we are at now, and now things are very serious because we understand and trust eachother immensely, and because of that our love and our bond has become stronger.
Sounds cheesy I know, but its true.
And if you make mistakes, and you are forgiven, that is another truly great aspect of your partner, and is something that you should note, although you should never take advantage of that and try and test it.
Anyway, now its getting harder to imagine myself with anyone else.
Its a natural high that you never want to end.
I've been with my lady for almost three years, (my good lady being the poster Jo1986 who posted above), and like she said we have certainly had our ups and downs, but now things seem to have smoothed over a little and things seems to be going better.
We seem to be much better friends now and get on well.
After you start going out with someone, there is the "honeymoon period" which is the first three months of the relationship. Thats all nice hugs and getting to know your partner, after that though the relationship is a steady climb.
Anyway after a certain amount of time though, you really get to know your partner and understand them, and therefore things seem to get better.
That is the point we are at now, and now things are very serious because we understand and trust eachother immensely, and because of that our love and our bond has become stronger.
Sounds cheesy I know, but its true.
And if you make mistakes, and you are forgiven, that is another truly great aspect of your partner, and is something that you should note, although you should never take advantage of that and try and test it.
Anyway, now its getting harder to imagine myself with anyone else.
Reply 18
thanks baby for that message, looking at how you wrote the above message highlighted things in our relationship i had not forgotton but lets just say skipped. being with you has been a rollercoaster ride of ups and downs. its been worth it if im honest. nobody can pull us apart, they can try but we are like elastic, we will ping right back at each other. our bond as friends could never be broken. i am so in love with you as my soul mate, best friend and my lover. be good to me and communicate with me about anything that is going on in your mind. ill be with you if you be with me. cheesy is a term for people who haven't felt love as the real thing. those love songs you hear guys is what real love shows.
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