also thanks for responses on showering.
Wife thinks is very normal that people only have showers before bed. Was trying to convince here that its a cultrual thing, and that in the west most people have showers in the morning as standard, and then any other times as extra (after gym etc, or bath to relax etc)
Every night, get into bed.. relaxing.. late at night after a long days work.. ready to sleep.. wife says 'can you take a shower?'