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It is totally understandable to be upset and broken hearted. But your girlfriend obviously didn't think much of the relationship when she cheated on you with this guy. Basically see it this way it is her loss. Time is the only healer but maybe see if you can have like a lads night out at some point.
Mate I really feel for you, I know how it feels as it happened to me a few months ago, with the girl cheating on me with somebody, then finishing me and get with this person. You are not insane because i couldn't eat, concentrate on work, felt lonely etc, and now I've finally got over it all.
I was full of anger and rage, so the first thing I did was to invest in a punch bag. It helped me to get rid of all my anger, plus take my mind off the whole situation. The other thing I did, whenever I thought about my ex girlfriend, i just thought off all her bad points (she used to belittle me all the time for example so I always thought of this), which helped make me see she wasn't right for me and it was best for us to split.
Another thing I thought about is the way she cheated on me - for doing that she just wasn't worth going out with - if she cheats mate she isn't worth it. The best thing I probably did is blocking her on msn, deleting her number and just basically ignoring her so there was less chance i would think about her - it may sound unreasonable, but it really did help and i didn't give a ***** about her. Finally I just started going out and chatting to other girls, which once again gave me the taste for the single life again - its so good, can just do what I want without worrying about my gf and what she thinks.
I was full of anger and rage, so the first thing I did was to invest in a punch bag. It helped me to get rid of all my anger, plus take my mind off the whole situation. The other thing I did, whenever I thought about my ex girlfriend, i just thought off all her bad points (she used to belittle me all the time for example so I always thought of this), which helped make me see she wasn't right for me and it was best for us to split.
Another thing I thought about is the way she cheated on me - for doing that she just wasn't worth going out with - if she cheats mate she isn't worth it. The best thing I probably did is blocking her on msn, deleting her number and just basically ignoring her so there was less chance i would think about her - it may sound unreasonable, but it really did help and i didn't give a ***** about her. Finally I just started going out and chatting to other girls, which once again gave me the taste for the single life again - its so good, can just do what I want without worrying about my gf and what she thinks.
Aaaw Timw
unfortunately there isn’t much one can do when a relationship breaks down apart from just get on with life! I know it probably doesn’t mean much right now as its all very fresh and you must be going through a lot of heart ache at the moment BUT times a healer, and the pain you feel will lessen as the days go by.
Just try and concentrate on your exams and doing well in them, because at the end of the day people will come and go in life, whereas the fruits of you doing well in exams and building a future for yourself will be with you forever.
I think it’s a good idea to spend time with people when your feeling at your lowest and if they do genuinely care for you they wownt find you annoying at all.
Good luck and stay strong, such is life…..she wasn’t the one for you.
xx
unfortunately there isn’t much one can do when a relationship breaks down apart from just get on with life! I know it probably doesn’t mean much right now as its all very fresh and you must be going through a lot of heart ache at the moment BUT times a healer, and the pain you feel will lessen as the days go by.Just try and concentrate on your exams and doing well in them, because at the end of the day people will come and go in life, whereas the fruits of you doing well in exams and building a future for yourself will be with you forever.
I think it’s a good idea to spend time with people when your feeling at your lowest and if they do genuinely care for you they wownt find you annoying at all.
Good luck and stay strong, such is life…..she wasn’t the one for you.
xx
I really for you, man. My [ex] boyfriend broke up with me 2 days before my GCSEs, and I couldn't concentrate at all on revision, hardly did any work and still came out with good grades. Just try and focus on your exams as much as possible as they're more important now. Don't think about this girl and this guy she's with now, I know it's impossible not to at the moment, but it's doing you no good and having cheated on you twice before she clearly isn't worth the hassle. Spend lots of time with your mates, they'll cheer you up and remind you that all is not lost. 2 years is a long time, (I was with my ex for almost that long) but just write it off as experience and learn from it. I'm sure you'll be fine.
P.S. I found cutting all contact with my ex helped me get over him much faster than if I was reminded about him, esp. during exams..
My [ex] boyfriend broke up with me 2 days before my GCSEs, and I couldn't concentrate at all on revision, hardly did any work and still came out with good grades. Just try and focus on your exams as much as possible as they're more important now. Don't think about this girl and this guy she's with now, I know it's impossible not to at the moment, but it's doing you no good and having cheated on you twice before she clearly isn't worth the hassle. Spend lots of time with your mates, they'll cheer you up and remind you that all is not lost. 2 years is a long time, (I was with my ex for almost that long) but just write it off as experience and learn from it. I'm sure you'll be fine. P.S. I found cutting all contact with my ex helped me get over him much faster than if I was reminded about him, esp. during exams..
Hey,
Firstly I won't say "Sorry"... as I know deep down, however much it hurts, you are going to be happier in the end without this girl. I know being with someone for so long becomes habit, they're always there to text, to ring to think about... but after a troubled relationship, which, with her cheating on you, perhaps your's was, you become stronger in the end.
Perhaps you'd grown to love the idea of you being together but you should ask yourself if you actually loved her. No matter how much you try, when someone cheats on you, it doesn't go away. After it happened, you were hurt I guess and needed reassurance. The very fact that she cheated on you in the first place makes her not worth your hassle.
One of my closest friends broke up with his girlfriend recently, she'd been treating him badly, he was too scared to leave her as he was frightened of being alone. But, I've been with him, reassuring him that life does go on. I won't advise you to try to forget about it, but you do need to move on from it. You need to sit down, on your own and cry... let everything out and know that hurting is ok. You aren't insane and you certainly aren't on your own.
I think everything happens for a reason and this is just a little blip in the grand scale of life. Use it to give you determination. Pass your exams and go see the world. As the old saying goes, "There's plenty more fish in the sea!" I know it's difficult, I'm going to Uni this year and have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and I am scared of losing him, but I guess I know deep down inside that I trust him and I love him... Long distance relationships make or break what you have... obviously it just wasn't meant to be for you.
I wish you all the best for the future, I hope this makes you stronger! Keep your pecker up and remember, no matter how difficult things get, there's always a light at the end of the tunnel... Stick it out and I can guarantee you'll find love again someday
Jodie
Firstly I won't say "Sorry"... as I know deep down, however much it hurts, you are going to be happier in the end without this girl. I know being with someone for so long becomes habit, they're always there to text, to ring to think about... but after a troubled relationship, which, with her cheating on you, perhaps your's was, you become stronger in the end.
Perhaps you'd grown to love the idea of you being together but you should ask yourself if you actually loved her. No matter how much you try, when someone cheats on you, it doesn't go away. After it happened, you were hurt I guess and needed reassurance. The very fact that she cheated on you in the first place makes her not worth your hassle.
One of my closest friends broke up with his girlfriend recently, she'd been treating him badly, he was too scared to leave her as he was frightened of being alone. But, I've been with him, reassuring him that life does go on. I won't advise you to try to forget about it, but you do need to move on from it. You need to sit down, on your own and cry... let everything out and know that hurting is ok. You aren't insane and you certainly aren't on your own.
I think everything happens for a reason and this is just a little blip in the grand scale of life. Use it to give you determination. Pass your exams and go see the world. As the old saying goes, "There's plenty more fish in the sea!" I know it's difficult, I'm going to Uni this year and have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and I am scared of losing him, but I guess I know deep down inside that I trust him and I love him... Long distance relationships make or break what you have... obviously it just wasn't meant to be for you.
I wish you all the best for the future, I hope this makes you stronger! Keep your pecker up and remember, no matter how difficult things get, there's always a light at the end of the tunnel... Stick it out and I can guarantee you'll find love again someday
Jodie
To be honest, she sounds a bit of a female dog and treating you the way she has is simply not on. You're better off without some stupid girl who is that callous. As your exams are coming up, first thing will be to cut her out immediately - as it's long distance it should be easier, but block her off your MSN, delete her number, take her off facebook...etc. It doesn't help at all to be wallowing on it.
Secondly, have any of your mates finished their exams yet? If they have perhaps you could go out for a drink one evening - say a pub quiz (although don't get plastered, doesn't help). Another thing I did was to do completely blokish things, like had a poker night with a few of my mates or go paintballing after my exams (no offense to any girls who enjoy these things!). Or maybe you could give yourself something to look forward to after the exams. They're just ways that you can build yourself up again and show that you can still have a great time and life doesn't stop.
As for work, I appreciate it must be pretty horrible, but take a night off with a few mates to get your head in order, then knuckle down as best you can. Good luck.
Secondly, have any of your mates finished their exams yet? If they have perhaps you could go out for a drink one evening - say a pub quiz (although don't get plastered, doesn't help). Another thing I did was to do completely blokish things, like had a poker night with a few of my mates or go paintballing after my exams (no offense to any girls who enjoy these things!). Or maybe you could give yourself something to look forward to after the exams. They're just ways that you can build yourself up again and show that you can still have a great time and life doesn't stop.
As for work, I appreciate it must be pretty horrible, but take a night off with a few mates to get your head in order, then knuckle down as best you can. Good luck.
Hey.
First of all
secondly, don't stay alone in your room. Go anywhere, even if it's only the common room or the library. Try to get out as much as possible, you won't feel like it but the more people you meet, the more likelihood there is of meeting your next girlfriend or at the very least a rebound fling to distract you. Remind yourself that you are worth more than the way she treated you, and feel free to get it out of your system however you want eg. crying, listening to sad/angry music, writing letters you'll never send. Time is the biggest healer and I can reassure you that you will not feel like this forever. Look after yourself (eat good food, get plenty of sleep it'll help your mental perspective) and go pass that time If you're going through hell keep going.
First of all
secondly, don't stay alone in your room. Go anywhere, even if it's only the common room or the library. Try to get out as much as possible, you won't feel like it but the more people you meet, the more likelihood there is of meeting your next girlfriend or at the very least a rebound fling to distract you. Remind yourself that you are worth more than the way she treated you, and feel free to get it out of your system however you want eg. crying, listening to sad/angry music, writing letters you'll never send. Time is the biggest healer and I can reassure you that you will not feel like this forever. Look after yourself (eat good food, get plenty of sleep it'll help your mental perspective) and go pass that time If you're going through hell keep going.
Feeling upset after a break up is only natural, you were with this person for a long time and cared for them deeply, you have every right to feel down. The best way to get over this feeling is to give it time, because time is a great healer. In time the pain will begin to ease and eventually you'll feel strong enough to get back out there and move on. Sadly, there is no quick fix for these sort's of things and everyone is different when it comes to moving on, some people take weeks, some people take months.
Don't let this break up damage your health. You need to keep your energy up by eating and drinking. Try your best to get back into your normal sleeping patterns, it's difficult and will take time but you'll get there eventually. If you don't you'll end up making yourself ill.
Keep in mind that she didn't take your feelings into consideration when she cheated on you, she doesn't deserve you and in time you'll realise that. You will think about her for a while, you'll care for her for a while and part of you will want her back, but like I and a few others have said, times a good healer. The pain will ease eventually, but don't let this break up damage your health whatever you do and when you're ready, get back out there and find yourself a good girl
As difficult as it is, keep trying to concentrate on your exams too. They are important, don't mess them up because of this girl. Keep on going with your revision and good luck, I hope you do well.
Don't feel you can't talk to your friends either, that's what they are there for. Don't keep everything bottled up as it will make it worse, speak to someone about how you're feeling. See your friends as much as possible too. I know it's difficult because it's exam time but it'll be good for you, and them to relax a little.
Don't let this break up damage your health. You need to keep your energy up by eating and drinking. Try your best to get back into your normal sleeping patterns, it's difficult and will take time but you'll get there eventually. If you don't you'll end up making yourself ill.
Keep in mind that she didn't take your feelings into consideration when she cheated on you, she doesn't deserve you and in time you'll realise that. You will think about her for a while, you'll care for her for a while and part of you will want her back, but like I and a few others have said, times a good healer. The pain will ease eventually, but don't let this break up damage your health whatever you do and when you're ready, get back out there and find yourself a good girl
As difficult as it is, keep trying to concentrate on your exams too. They are important, don't mess them up because of this girl. Keep on going with your revision and good luck, I hope you do well.
Don't feel you can't talk to your friends either, that's what they are there for. Don't keep everything bottled up as it will make it worse, speak to someone about how you're feeling. See your friends as much as possible too. I know it's difficult because it's exam time but it'll be good for you, and them to relax a little.
Angrybanana
Try to get out as much as possible, you won't feel like it but the more people you meet, the more likelihood there is of meeting your next girlfriend or at the very least a rebound fling to distract you.
I agree with most of what you say, but I'm not so sure about this one. I think it's important that when you've just come out of a long relationship you need some time with just you and your mates, especially if you've ended up clinging on in the hope it's going to get better, as it's too easy to just lose yourself in a broken relationship then jump into another one without taking the necessary time to gain your independence as an individual who is not defined by who they're with.
It's normal - I couldn't do anything except sleep when my bf broke up with me - and he didn't cheat or anything and broke up cus he thought it was the best for me - and I was still upset enough. Got back together in the end, thankfully but basically, when someone you love leaves you, it hurts and nothing makes it better and you just gotta get through it really 
My friends figures if my bf wasn't so close (were in the same hall) and I could pretend that everything was still ok, I would've lapsed into depression 
Have lots of friends around you - I remember knowing I have friends to turn to made me feel better at the time.
but basically, when someone you love leaves you, it hurts and nothing makes it better and you just gotta get through it really My friends figures if my bf wasn't so close (were in the same hall) and I could pretend that everything was still ok, I would've lapsed into depression Have lots of friends around you - I remember knowing I have friends to turn to made me feel better at the time.
pumpkin7
lifes a bitch...
so is university when it comes to relationships.
so is university when it comes to relationships.
Well some relationships do stand the test of time, but I can see why you said that
Hey there mate. First of all it's obviously pretty crap being heartbroken, you have no desire to do anything as you said. There is no immediate cure, but it will improve with time. You need to take a step back and look at what's important - your exams!! Some girl who treated you like excrement is not important.
If someones cheats on you once it's bad enough, but twice you should have ct and run then, especially if it's with the same guy. You were just setting yourself up to get hurt, but we live and learn.
I'd suggest severing all contact with her - she isn't worth your time.
Think about the fun you're gonna have after you pass you first year - it's something to look forward to.
Chin up mate!!
If someones cheats on you once it's bad enough, but twice you should have ct and run then, especially if it's with the same guy. You were just setting yourself up to get hurt, but we live and learn.
I'd suggest severing all contact with her - she isn't worth your time.
Think about the fun you're gonna have after you pass you first year - it's something to look forward to.
Chin up mate!!
theredsox
That close? 
Yuhuh. I don't think he deliberately intended to do it. It was at like 3 am and I'd been pestering him all night with questions, finally asked, do you want to be with me? And he said no.
hahaha. Over MSN, just like that. So I rang him..but that was the end of that chapter. 
Best thing that's happened to me! 
timw
right now i'm constantly upset, and am crying a lot. i can't sleep at night and i can't stop thinking about her. ive also pretty much lost all appetite for food. when i feel alright(ish), i suddenly think about things and get into a deep state. it doesn't help right now either, cos i'm on the run up to exams and can't concentrate on revision at all.
right now i'm constantly upset, and am crying a lot. i can't sleep at night and i can't stop thinking about her. ive also pretty much lost all appetite for food. when i feel alright(ish), i suddenly think about things and get into a deep state. it doesn't help right now either, cos i'm on the run up to exams and can't concentrate on revision at all.
*hugs* It sucks. I totally understand how you feel ;console;
When I broke up with my ex (been together bout a year and half) I felt the same as you did. But i realised that I was better off without him and his **** anymore and just tried to concerntrate on other things (I know its really hard too but if you push you can do it)
Talking to someone about it (I know your friends are busy but when they aint as busy) Getting things off your chest will help. Try not to get nostalgic, and realise that she broke up with you for a guy who she has cheated on you with! It'll hurt but it'll help - trust me. As everyone else has said too, revision and exams can help keep your mind off things!!
Good luck.
Talking to someone about it (I know your friends are busy but when they aint as busy) Getting things off your chest will help. Try not to get nostalgic, and realise that she broke up with you for a guy who she has cheated on you with! It'll hurt but it'll help - trust me. As everyone else has said too, revision and exams can help keep your mind off things!!
Good luck.
make a list . for every one of her bad points, add a good point about youself. This shows you doubley why she wasn't right for you. Go out for a drink to unwind, keep in touch withfriends. keep busy. Exercise, it'll take your mind off it.
I'm really sorry, she sounds like a total see you en tee (say it aloud lol) and I really hope she gets what she deserves. Look on the bright side, it may motivate you to do well eough in your exams just to show the bit@h how much better off without her you are.
I'm really sorry, she sounds like a total see you en tee (say it aloud lol) and I really hope she gets what she deserves. Look on the bright side, it may motivate you to do well eough in your exams just to show the bit@h how much better off without her you are.
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