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    Hi everyone,
    So about 6 months ago one of my best friends started seeing a guy, she's 17 and he's 22 but he's a lovely guy, in fact he's best friends with my own boyfriend, so I know he's well suited for her. However, I know they have a very active sex life, and I'm a little worried for her as she's not on any form of birth control, they only rely on condoms. I've been on the pill for a few years and only recently switched to the implant so I have guaranteed protection, and I mentioned to her going on some sort of bc, but she just doesn't seem bothered. Last month she had a pregnancy scare, so I really believe she should look into something, even something more short term such as the pill, but I don't know how to keep mentioning this to her, as I don't want to seem like I'm sticking my nose in where it isn't wanted, I'm just concerned.
    I'm just looking for an outside view on the situation, what would you do if you were her or me?
    Thanks!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi everyone,
    So about 6 months ago one of my best friends started seeing a guy, she's 17 and he's 22 but he's a lovely guy, in fact he's best friends with my own boyfriend, so I know he's well suited for her. However, I know they have a very active sex life, and I'm a little worried for her as she's not on any form of birth control, they only rely on condoms. I've been on the pill for a few years and only recently switched to the implant so I have guaranteed protection, and I mentioned to her going on some sort of bc, but she just doesn't seem bothered. Last month she had a pregnancy scare, so I really believe she should look into something, even something more short term such as the pill, but I don't know how to keep mentioning this to her, as I don't want to seem like I'm sticking my nose in where it isn't wanted, I'm just concerned.
    I'm just looking for an outside view on the situation, what would you do if you were her or me?
    Thanks!
    I would leave her to it, if she's using condoms that does have a reasonable reliability if they are used properly. It could be that she is unhappy with using hormonal birth control due to the potential side effects, its nothing something that suits everyone.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi everyone,
    So about 6 months ago one of my best friends started seeing a guy, she's 17 and he's 22 but he's a lovely guy, in fact he's best friends with my own boyfriend, so I know he's well suited for her. However, I know they have a very active sex life, and I'm a little worried for her as she's not on any form of birth control, they only rely on condoms. I've been on the pill for a few years and only recently switched to the implant so I have guaranteed protection, and I mentioned to her going on some sort of bc, but she just doesn't seem bothered. Last month she had a pregnancy scare, so I really believe she should look into something, even something more short term such as the pill, but I don't know how to keep mentioning this to her, as I don't want to seem like I'm sticking my nose in where it isn't wanted, I'm just concerned.
    I'm just looking for an outside view on the situation, what would you do if you were her or me?
    Thanks!
    I think you should maybe take her to a sexual health clinic and get a nurse to have a chat with her. It's great she's using condoms but in my opinion anyone who doesn't want children, is sexually active, and is perfectly healthy, should be on hormonal birth control. I wouldn't suggest her to go on the implant because a lot of people can have adverse reactions to it and the mood swings and such can be hard to manage. Suggest the patch as its quite manageable and she only has to change it once a week.

    But still, take her to go to a sexual health clinic.

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    The implant doesn't give you "guaranteed protection" (as you put it), it can fail just like any other form of birth control.

    It's great that she's using condoms but you can't force her to go on birth control. You can recommend a sexual health clinic to her and give her some leaflets about the different types of birth control, but it seems that you're repeatedly pushing it on her when she's said for you to stop. So leave it, it's her choice at the end of the day and there's only so many times you can mention it before you piss her off.
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    Condoms are a perfectly acceptable form of contraception you shouldn't worry. They're just as safe as everything else.

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    There is no 'best for everyone' form of contraception. If a scare doesn't get her looking at alternative / additional methods, then you nagging - as it may be seen to be - isn't going to do it.

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    The implant is staggeringly reliable, more so than a sterilization op. It's as near guaranteed as any method that allows you to be sexual with men.
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    There is no 'best for everyone' form of contraception. If a scare doesn't get her looking at alternative / additional methods, then you nagging - as it may be seen to be - isn't going to do it.

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    The implant is staggeringly reliable, more so than a sterilization op. It's as near guaranteed as any method that allows you to be sexual with men.
    Yes I know that, I have the implant. But no method is 100% reliable - I have a friend who got pregnant on the implant - so it's naive to say you have guaranteed protection.
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    You're getting involved. She's using protection whether you approve or not.
 
 
 
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