Basically there's a guy I've been really into for about 2 months, he's told me he likes me too and we slept together about a month ago, which we shouldn't have done. But he's moving abroad in a couple of months and doesn't want to get into a relationship here as a result.
Anyway we slept together and had a nice night together, and then we talked online, with a few awkward conversations,but some where we got on really well and were a bit flirty. I told myself we could perhaps just be friends but i'd have to see how it was when I next saw him, and if I found it too hard then we couldn't.
Anyway I saw him at club last night with some friends. He was very friendly and tactile, he's a very sociable guy in general but he kept putting his arm round me, teasing me, touching my face, dancing with me etc. He apologized for having been a bit distant online, and apparently he asked my friend if i'd been ok about the whole situation.
He asked me to go outside with him alone at one point but I think I didn't understand with the noise of the club so I said no... anyway at another point he told me ,I'm really sorry, I just don't want to stay in England, etc. and then he was like don't worry we'll see each other again soon, told me he was having a dinner soon at his house ,put his arm around me and asked me, will you be able to come?
He was just being so sweet with me all night and very tactile as I mentioned. What do you make of this? To be honest, it made me even more sad...I was saying to my friend that I don't think I can see him as a friend, it's just impossible, and I'll never move on... what do you think of this? Thanks
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Don't understand this guy's behaviour last night. watch
- 06-03-2016 11:25
- 06-03-2016 11:29
think nothing tbh
- 06-03-2016 11:31
What do you mean sorry? I shouldn't read into anything from it?
- 06-03-2016 11:34
And I dunno if I was just imagining it but I felt like he was looking at me differently to how he was looking at others ,very smiley with me, and we'd had a conversation earlier in the day in which he'd complimented my appearance.. in any case he definitely doesn't want a relationship so I know I have to move on...
- 06-03-2016 11:39
Cynically I would say that he might be trying to get laid on a night out.
Maybe he is really into you and is struggling with the idea of leaving you to move country.
But I would say that you shouldn't give to much weight to anything said on a night out when similar things aren't being said / implied sober.
- 06-03-2016 11:44
I don't know, I could have argued the first point but he knows how much I like him and he could have used that to his advantage and kissed me/tried it on etc. but he didn't..
I have no idea, when we slept together he was very flirty, full of compliments for me etc. but last night it was more like he was being very sweet, checking I was ok etc... and he's already told me and other people that he likes me, would have liked to have a relationship if he was staying in the country etc..
I dunno how to move on I didn't see him for a month and it didn't help at all, after last night I like him a thousand times more...
- 06-03-2016 11:59
- 06-03-2016 12:07
I think you're waiting for us to say what you want to hear.
I honestly cannot comment on where his head is, it sounds like he could possibly be anything- looking for a one night stand, hinting at a relationship, or just being a nice guy, its not certain.
If you know you won't be able to move on when he leaves, then don't get involved now. Read into it that he was just being friendly and move on.
- 06-03-2016 12:13
Thanks, yeah ,I'm so confused too :s
Just think like touching my face and stuff (and yesterday he complimented my figure) is more than 'just being a nice guy',.. but that's just me... I think I just need to cut contact :s
- 06-03-2016 19:02
It's a dalliance. Put your effort in to finding someone who is up for a relationship.
- 06-03-2016 22:30
Yeah, i'm gonna do that thanks