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Do guys really feel this?

Hey all,

Well.. There is a question popping in my head and I am wondering if other guys feel what i feel. Well.. Im active or I could say Im functional for say 5 days.. but when it comes to the 6th day, Im tired and not motivated. I work hard at uni and keep up with other things as well.. But I guess I get tired soon. I work and study and I have many responsibilities as well.
I know when my girlfriend gets tired, she calls me up and we cuddle. She sometimes falls alseep in my arms and my shoulder is always there for her to feel comfortable and cozy. When shes with me for a while.. she feels all fresh and energetic.. But when i get tired...... I tend to call one of my "friend". This guy is 10 yrs older to me.. I do the same with him what my girl does.. I just feel like being in his arms when im tired or really exuasted.. or sometimes when im down. I feel like I get my soul back when im with him.. I connect well with him too. He is like a good advisor, protector .. a good close friend. Im not a bad guy or a player.. Everyone around me, likes me for who I m.
Im not feminine at all. Infact, looking at me u could never judge I would have these feelings.. cuz i look really strong and big.
I duno, im confused.. but are there guys like me out there? or if ur a str8 guy, what do u do when ur in my position.

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Reply 1
have you considered you might be gay? or at least bi? would you not want to cuddle your gf instead?
Reply 2
Oh yes I forgot to add that.. Im a bi
Does your gf know about this at all?
Reply 4
urz_4eva
Oh yes I forgot to add that.. Im a bi


Well this "problem" doesn't really have a solution and sort of answers your own question.. - I don't know what you expect people to advise you on...
Reply 5
Hey there :smile:
It seems to me you aren't comfortable or committed to the relationship with your girlfriend. Surely she doesn't have issues with comforting you if you're unhappy or stressed?

Maybe your sexuality is the catalyst for these issues with your girlfriend, maybe you just genuinely like your male friend more.

You really have to figure it out yourself. However, you really should talk to your girlfriend about this, it's unfair on her to be harbouring these feelings about another person, and, kinda having her as a part time girlfriend :smile:

Edit: Oh well, if you're Bi and going round and doing this with someone else, then you're basically cheating on her - not on a sexual level, but still!!!
Hey I'm a girl... just so you know :smile:

I think you should talk to your friend about it, does he know about how good he makes you feel?

Being Bi-Sexual, it's obviously natural to have loving feelings to men but you do have a girlfriend to consider...

Why do you think your girlfriend doesn't make you feel like he does?

Jodie :p:
Maybe you look up to this guy in some way as opposed to actually fancying him? I'm not sure but does your gf know about him?
urz_4eva
Oh yes I forgot to add that.. Im a bi

well there you go. Just don't take things further, whilst you have your gf.
That's a 'no' for me.
blackswan
well there you go. Just don't take things further, whilst you have your gf.


Does it not raise questions that he'd rather 'snuggle' with this guy than his girlfriend, without 'taking things further'.
Reply 11
urz_4eva
Hey all,

Well.. There is a question popping in my head and I am wondering if other guys feel what i feel. Well.. Im active or I could say Im functional for say 5 days.. but when it comes to the 6th day, Im tired and not motivated. I work hard at uni and keep up with other things as well.. But I guess I get tired soon. I work and study and I have many responsibilities as well.
I know when my girlfriend gets tired, she calls me up and we cuddle. She sometimes falls alseep in my arms and my shoulder is always there for her to feel comfortable and cozy. When shes with me for a while.. she feels all fresh and energetic.. But when i get tired...... I tend to call one of my "friend". This guy is 10 yrs older to me.. I do the same with him what my girl does.. I just feel like being in his arms when im tired or really exuasted.. or sometimes when im down. I feel like I get my soul back when im with him.. I connect well with him too. He is like a good advisor, protector .. a good close friend. Im not a bad guy or a player.. Everyone around me, likes me for who I m.
Im not feminine at all. Infact, looking at me u could never judge I would have these feelings.. cuz i look really strong and big.
I duno, im confused.. but are there guys like me out there? or if ur a str8 guy, what do u do when ur in my position.



Sounds like you've fallen into the rather disguised trap of choosing a far more submissive girlfriend than suits you.

You should be able to get what you're getting elsewhere from your partner.
Reply 12
Maybe it's just a temporary thing. As long as you don't go into this further, it's fine.
urz_4eva
I tend to call one of my "friend". This guy is 10 yrs older to me.. I do the same with him what my girl does.. I just feel like being in his arms when im tired or really exuasted.. or sometimes when im down. I feel like I get my soul back when im with him.


Yech... :rolleyes:
You are sick.
Reply 14
I have to say that if I were your girlfriend and I found this out, I would be hugely upset. What you're doing with this guy is in my eyes no different to doing it with a girl, and I would regard that as pushing towards cheating. You really need to have a damn good think, you cannot have both.
Meep!
I have to say that if I were your girlfriend and I found this out, I would be hugely upset. What you're doing with this guy is in my eyes no different to doing it with a girl, and I would regard that as pushing towards cheating. You really need to have a damn good think, you cannot have both.


I agree with this, you can't have your cake and eat it.
Reply 16
bunthulhu
I agree with this, you can't have your cake and eat it.


I never did get that saying, surely the whole point of having cake is to eat it?
3232
I never did get that saying, surely the whole point of having cake is to eat it?


I don't get it either, I only use it because people know what it's meant to mean :biggrin:
Reply 18
I think it means that you can't have as in keep your cake and eat it at the same time.

That's the way I always took it, at least...
Meep!
I think it means that you can't have as in keep your cake and eat it at the same time.


Ooooh I see, that makes a lot more sense :smile: