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    I would want my own bank account rather than a separate one. I think i just prefer the idea of each party to the marriage keeping their property separate.

    I am a law student who has specialised within divorce law so maybe my education has warped my views on the topic. I also agree in pre-nuptial agreements so maybe I am just selfish in the sense that I want to be able to walk away from a marriage with no less than what I walked in with.

    I am 19, nearly 20
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Not happening in my marriage. See neomasculinity vs, the perils of female financial autonomy for reference. Pragmatic sustainability ftw :yy:
    So one?
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    23 and still growing. I would just hope my lady wont secretly stash monies away from me.

    I'm more along the lines of what's mine is our's. So if she has £££ stashed with her, I would hope she will happily give it up if I genuinely asked for it... .... 😬
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    We both should have are own account and a separate joint account for bills and home stuff
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    (Original post by xobeauty)
    So one?
    We'll use a shared account, aye. I'm an all or nothing kinda guy when it comes to serious long term relationships
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    We'll use a shared account, aye. I'm an all or nothing kinda guy when it comes to serious long term relationships
    Woooowwww I love this ! It should really be like this, but I get why people want their own thing.
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    joint. 22
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    Individual accounts for individual spending

    Joint account for maintaining house, bills, kids etc

    Don't like the idea of shoving both our wages into one big pool

    I'm 18
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    (Original post by xobeauty)
    Woooowwww I love this! It should really be like this
    :top2:

    but I get why people want their own thing
    A: Relentless progressivism + distorted moral compasses + selfish insecurity
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    What's insecure is needing a joint bank account to prove how committed your relationship is. Which is basically the reason 90% of the people in this thread have given.
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    (Original post by HFBS)
    If you entered the marriage with significant assets then there is an argument for a prenup, although I'm not sure how much UK courts actually take notice of them. I'm sure a law student would be able to clarify. But fundamentally, having a separate account will not stop one party in a divorce from having to pay a settlement to the other, no.
    isn't that called alimony? :hmmmm:
    it's so expensive to divorce lool
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    We'll use a shared account, aye. I'm an all or nothing kinda guy when it comes to serious long term relationships
    Okay but what's wrong with her having another Account for herself?
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    I won't get married () but if I did then I'd like to have my own account plus a shared one for the house.
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    Separate, for keeping track of things
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    (Original post by xobeauty)
    Or shared?

    And why?... And disclose your age.
    Both. One for the main joint one
    Separate, because I have like 13 banks
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    (Original post by queen-bee)
    Okay but what's wrong with her having another Account for herself?
    If there's a logistical reason for it, then fair enough, but otherwise it's about being a team in every respect, including shared financial decision making, plus papa bear's financial stewardship/oversight :scrooge:
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    If there's a logistical reason for it, then fair enough, but otherwise it's about being a team in every respect, plus shared financial decision making and my financial oversight :scrooge:
    Sure,that's why you can have a joint account and one separate one for her own spending
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    Mid 20s.

    We've been together 5 years, and we've got a joint account that we both pay into each month for our bills etc, but having our own accounts is a must.

    He can spend whatever he wants from his own account on his motorbike, and I can spend whatever I want from my own account when I go off travelling and leave him at home. Works great for us.
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    (Original post by queen-bee)
    Sure,that's why you can have a joint account and one separate one for her own spending
    Not sure I follow, m'dear:mute:
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Not sure I follow, m'dear:mute:
    You'll still have a joint account and your wife can have her own for her own spending
 
 
 
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