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    I am a very shy person and it's hard for me to come out of my shell. I've been on first dates but I've never been on a second date because the girl probably got bored of me on the date. I don't know if it's my inexperience on dates or just my character as a whole, but I really want to improve myself.

    What things can I talk about on a date? Also, how can I show that while I am shy, I am also an interesting person? Please help
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    Ask lots of questions - humans in general love to talk about themselves and she won't notice if you're a bit shy as long as you engage her with questions.

    You can also tell her about what you do and what makes you you, share some interesting stories etc. The conversation should flow fairly naturally without too much awkwardness.
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    you need to overcome your shyness so maybe join any sports club or anything... may help
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    (Original post by georgiaswift)
    Ask lots of questions - humans in general love to talk about themselves and she won't notice if you're a bit shy as long as you engage her with questions.

    You can also tell her about what you do and what makes you you, share some interesting stories etc. The conversation should flow fairly naturally without too much awkwardness.
    if I ask her too many questions, would it sound like an interview?

    I like sharing stories so that's a good option too
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    if I ask her too many questions, would it sound like an interview?

    I like sharing stories so that's a good option too
    Haha yes, it would! I don't mean for you to fire off questions at her; ask questions that lead on from what she's saying. Plus if you appear interested by nodding and saying 'yeah' etc, she thinks she's really interesting you so she'll keep talking. Make sure you look at her when she's talking, don't look down or look around you.

    Sharing stories is definitely a good option. Try to tell stories that will make her laugh or that will stick with her (in a positive way!). PM me if you'd like
 
 
 
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