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    My girlfriend who ive been with for 5/6 months now used to play around abit in the past. She's slept with a fair few people for her age and she was always talking to somebody. She can be very flirty and she used to send sexual pictures to boys, some of these boys she still has on snapchat.

    It just bothers me because I see her as a totally different girl now to what she was. People always tell me that people can't just change and that puts doubts in my mind. I get scared that maybe she hasn't changed and maybe she's doing stuff behind my back or will one day just be like she was. I always have this doubt no matter how hard I try not to think about it and sometimes I feel like I don't want to be with her.

    So can people change?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My girlfriend who ive been with for 5/6 months now used to play around abit in the past. She's slept with a fair few people for her age and she was always talking to somebody. She can be very flirty and she used to send sexual pictures to boys, some of these boys she still has on snapchat.

    It just bothers me because I see her as a totally different girl now to what she was. People always tell me that people can't just change and that puts doubts in my mind. I get scared that maybe she hasn't changed and maybe she's doing stuff behind my back or will one day just be like she was. I always have this doubt no matter how hard I try not to think about it and sometimes I feel like I don't want to be with her.

    So can people change?
    If she made the decision to change herself then yes she probably could. Is her past the reason you feel like you dont want to be with her or is there something else bothering you too?
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    If she made the decision to change herself then yes she probably could. Is her past the reason you feel like you dont want to be with her or is there something else bothering you too?
    Just her past that really bothers me
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Just her past that really bothers me
    She can't really change her past so i guess this comes down to the fact you have to trust her and accept her past for the relationship to work
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My girlfriend who ive been with for 5/6 months now used to play around abit in the past. She's slept with a fair few people for her age and she was always talking to somebody. She can be very flirty and she used to send sexual pictures to boys, some of these boys she still has on snapchat.

    It just bothers me because I see her as a totally different girl now to what she was. People always tell me that people can't just change and that puts doubts in my mind. I get scared that maybe she hasn't changed and maybe she's doing stuff behind my back or will one day just be like she was. I always have this doubt no matter how hard I try not to think about it and sometimes I feel like I don't want to be with her.

    So can people change?
    of course people can change but i depends upon whether they have willpower and want to change or they just cba and want to stay as they are no matter how much anyone tries to sway them
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My girlfriend who ive been with for 5/6 months now used to play around abit in the past. She's slept with a fair few people for her age and she was always talking to somebody. She can be very flirty and she used to send sexual pictures to boys, some of these boys she still has on snapchat.

    It just bothers me because I see her as a totally different girl now to what she was. People always tell me that people can't just change and that puts doubts in my mind. I get scared that maybe she hasn't changed and maybe she's doing stuff behind my back or will one day just be like she was. I always have this doubt no matter how hard I try not to think about it and sometimes I feel like I don't want to be with her.

    So can people change?
    Yes, I think people can change. They need trust and support. Try not to use her past against her, she may hate you for it.
 
 
 
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